peace_pipe Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Let's say you start dating a girl you've know for a while. You soon meet her sister, who you are not very fond of. Sister starts finding her way into everything you do (Christmas party, trying to spend the night, dates...) Girlfriend largely ignores me when she is around. You address your girlfriend about it and she gives you the "blood is thicker than water" line. What would you do? Have you ever seen a girl who COMPLETELY changes when someone else is around?
j_hunt_12 Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Is your GF the younger or older sister? I'm actually incredibly good friends with my GF's sister... like best friends and my GF is out of the country. For me it's different because the sister "doesn't know" we're together. But I think she kind of does know anyways because it was very obvious (and still is). But in the end, whenever the three of us were together, it was hell. Because the sister likes me as a friend, but doesn't like that me and her sister are together... she's protective etc. etc. And sometimes I actually spend more time talking to the sister than I did my GF... I know it's weird.... long story. I would always try to stay out of situations where we three were together. Luckily my GF and me were close enough so she would help me out. But as close as me and my GF are, she still kind of stood up for her sister... even when she wasn't behaving. If I were you, I would just be serious with your GF and tell her that you want to spend time with her... alone... not with the nagging sister on the side.... DONT USE THOSE TERMS THOUGH... be nice about and say I really like you AND (fill in rest here). Dont say the word, "but." That will scare her. From your post that kind of sounds like a weird annoying GF to me, but I'd give it a little time. She might be really connected to her sister (like my GF was) and need a little time to distance herself from her. That being said, If this crap doesn't end in a while, or your GF doesn't agree to some type of comprimise, I would reevaluate the relationship personally. peace
Author peace_pipe Posted January 28, 2008 Author Posted January 28, 2008 Is your GF the younger or older sister? From your post that kind of sounds like a weird annoying GF to me, but I'd give it a little time. She might be really connected to her sister (like my GF was) and need a little time to distance herself from her. That being said, If this crap doesn't end in a while, or your GF doesn't agree to some type of compromise, I would reevaluate the relationship personally. peace Incredible post. Well done Sir. She is connected to her sister and while I don't want to interfere with that, I feel like she is WAY too connected. But who am I to judge? I tried not to until thing interfere with YOUR happiness. Then you stand up for yourself and she gets defensive. She admits her Sister has caused problems in the past but refuses to mitigate them. If you don't stand up for yourself you get walked on. Her sis went out of town, those were the best three weeks we ever had. I feel like the infamous Ozzy song....INSANE! There is no way I can win. The end.
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