Dose that give some one the right to be nasty?

[SpanksTheMonkey]

I'm a bit piss*ed off at the moment and don't know if I have the right to be. The situation involves the guy I'm living with he asked me to go into his room before to help him look videos up on the computer.

 

Well I was but then I got distracted and started watching a different video one he wasn't interested in.

 

It was only like 2 Min's long well the hole 2 Min's he was bi**hing and complaining about me taking over his PC.

 

Then he starts blowing smoke he smokes by the way heavily into my general direction and face on purpose.

 

I asked him to stop he said no now my lungs hurt a bit and my throat is sore. he knowes I have alergys I've told him this before.

 

Hes also piss*ed cause I turned on my laptop cause it steals his signal for some reason. So he came into my room and started saying he hates me and calling me all kinds of nasty hurtful names.

 

Guess my Q is this dose some one have the right to act like this toward some one else if they make them mad or is behavior like this to much?

[Grimreaper]

The guy you are living with, Are you dating him?

 

depends actually, I wouldnt like anyone messing around with my PC either..

If he has a problem with you touching his PC for whatver reason, maybe hes got porn in it which he doesnt want you to see or whatever I think you should respect that.

 

the Signal thing maybe, your notebook could be taking up some of this internet bandwidth. the way he reacted wasnt right. what he did with the blowing smoke and calling you names is totally unacceptable.

Nope it doesnt give him the right to be nasty and do and say what he did. He was just being a bastid imho.

[klee]

Yeah, that is not right! What a jerk!

 

I know that when sharing the wifi here in my apt, it does take away from the bandwidth, but so? The internet still works, so I don't understand whats the big deal.

 

Is this a roommate or an SO?

[amaysngrace]

Does he hate you or just hate it when you're on the laptop? You should ask him that.

 

Maybe he lacks communication skills but if he hates you then why do you live with him?

 

I wouldn't be living with someone who's hating on me.

[MakeLemonade]

Hi Spanks, how much of an a$$ is this guy going to have to be before you leave him? I know you're unhappy - did you re-read your post? What do you think people are going to tell you to do? No, he sounds like a gem dear - you really should go back and ask him to blow smoke in your face again....and please love, say that again - it makes me so hot to hear how much you hate me.

 

I hope you are wanting responses to this to help you get the courage to do what you already know you need to do. Isn't this a continual process with this guy? Doesn't he act like this regularly?

 

There really is something better out there - hell, wouldn't nothing be better than him being so mean and disrespectful to you? Does he tell you he loves you? Do his actions and words show that love, ever?

 

I can get annoyed at my H when i want to show him something on the puter and he starts taking the mouse or says, hey, go here or there. But I certainly wouldn't do the things you are describing to say that to him.

 

He simply sounds awful and I hope you find it within yourself soon to ditch him and work towards getting things together for yourself. I really do.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Thanks for the repys guys for those who asked its suppose to be a R of sorts but we act more like roommates from hell.

 

I just got done having him screaming at me and slamming doors in the flat at 2 am! Eventually were going to get kicked out of here if he keeps that up.

 

I was sick and had the runs I guess it stunk the house up and he got mad so he got up in my face calling me some more cr*p names. I finally pushed him out of my face I'm tired of him screaming so loud shes spitting in my face!

 

He said I left the bathroom door open to just let the stink out so it could p*ss him off why on earth would I do that?

 

He said I need to learn how to behave what ever hes just a abusive control freak. At the end of the day I can't leave just yet its a legal situation I don't care to explain no kids involved.

 

I don't want sympathy or any one to tell me hes a great guy I know hes not I guess I just want some one to listen he grabbed my arm it will prob bruise up tomorrow I feel very alone right now.

[MakeLemonade]

For whatever it's worth, I am very sorry you are having to go through what he is putting you through. And I know it's not a HUGE consolation but at least you have LS? I know in that other thread we didn't get off on the best foot but as soon as I saw this one I knew I had to write and try to say something helpful for you. I care.

 

I wish there was something more I could do. Keep working toward getting to the point where you can leave, it just sounds nightmarish having to stay somewhere with someone like that.

 

I'll be praying for you, not just saying that - I really do pray when I say I am. I know some people say it because it is the right thing to say, but just know I really am doing that for you. I hope others will join me.

 

Hang in there - you aren't alone.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Thank you very much lemonade that dose mean some thing to me. I had just tryed to call my mom back home I guess I got her on a day were she couldn't be bothered.

 

I cant call back hes starting to not want me to talk to her hes sleeping so now was my chance. Again she abandons me when I need her most after I made that post last night we had another big falling out.

 

He came into my room and tired to take away the laptop its in his name I make the payments on it. But since its in his name he says he can take it away when ever he feels like it.

 

I finally snapped on him last night he was in my face again and I just snapped I hit him hard as I could. I kept hitting him I know its not right but he made everything out to me my fault.

 

He always twists everything some how back on me so its my fault completely. Yes LS is a comfort but I have to fight to use the Internet some times its getting exausting any more.

 

He says I'm just lazy and do nothing but sit on the pc thats so not true I'm the one who cooks cleans and everything else in the house.

 

He played the victim quite well last night after I hit him it was like I did it completely unprovoked If you herd his story. If some one is in your face and abusing you do you have the right to defend your self?

 

I know its not good but was I wrong or him? I know on some level were both wrong maybe.