D311 Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Sorry it has to be done, all my friends are telling me different things so i need a girls opinion maybe: I'm at work today, and was sitting at the cash register at the window (my store is right outside a busy mall). I notice a gorgeous little girl sitting outside the cafe about 10 yards in front of me, and she notices me as well and we start making eyes. After about 5 minutes of this I cornily wave, and she smiles and waves back. She finishes her coffee and smiles again as she walks away, until she's out of sight. Then BAM she's in my window, and introduces herself and tells me where she works, and I said "good, i'll see you again then" and she took off. Now I'm at a loss for the next step. The fact that she walked off, and then CAME BACK blows my mind. I am dying to know her thought process there. Anyway I don't work but one out of the next five days, and that's wednesday. I'm not sure if I should just wait like a fool for her to show back up (which could take weeks), or if I should go to where she works tomorrow in plainclothes (blowing any cover I had and risking looking too desperate) and ask her when she goes on break and if i can join her, and then camp out until that time. ?!?!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!! I need HELP
Ronni_W Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 What part of her thought process could you POSSIBLY think you're misinterpreting??? Do not wait for her to show up again. My 2 cents is to drop by her workplace on Wednesday, and see if you can meet her for her lunch break on one of your days off (or a Friday night movie or whatever.) For me, since it'll be our first 'get together', a guy who is willing to just show up and camp out until my break comes across as over-desperate or too needy or something unattractive like that. But that kind of fawning could make some other girls feel really 'special'. What kind of girl would you prefer? -- wanting/expecting you to always be available to suit her schedule, or someone with healthy self-esteem who recognizes that sometimes your life will be a priority for you? -- Just do whatever fits with your answer.
Author D311 Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 Thanks Ronnie you're right about that last part esp. also I tried to find out where she works (she had on a uniform) and it is NOWHERE. I am really tripped out by the fact that she said she worked close, and I saw a corworker of hers in uniform come by a short time later......and nothing. So I guess it's all out of my hands for now.
D-Lish Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Don't stress. She'll be back. I would never make a move like she did and then never come back. You haven't seen the last of her. Next time she comes by, don't wait, ask her for her number.
backspn Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Go for it and have fun, she made the first move. She'll be back. Doesnt get any easier than that
Author D311 Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 Actually I technically made the first move by waving But that doesnt really count. Anyway what's more PC / goes over better these days, asking for her number or giving her your number? Just curious
Green Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 um Id probably stop by her work and tell her that you can't stick around long because you have to do (whatever) but that you wanted to stop by and let her know you think she's something and want her number... Things could still go bad for you but hey, your off to a good start... she'll probably give you the number... heck its her fault if she gave you the wrong idea... even if she doesnt like you any more you'd probably get a pitty date (which would be a chance to win her over)(heck you may have already started to win her over with your wave)
Ronni_W Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Anyway what's more PC / goes over better these days, asking for her number or giving her your number? I'd say EXCHANGE numbers -- have yours already written out on a nice bit of paper (not scrawled on a piece of napkin or whatever ), hand it to her and ask, "Do you want to exchange?" If she gives hers, call her sooner than later - she's already done a huge step and might not appreciate your playing it too cool. She sounds like a straight shooter who knows what she wants and goes after it...the kind of person who may very well deduct points for game-playing. Best of luck -- I totally agree that she'll make a point of "finding" you, again. (Are you sure you can't figure out what company that uniform belongs to?)
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