PerfectlyDamaged Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 I dated this guy for about 10 months, and I fell really hard for him. My mistake was I was always available to him, I paid for alot of the things we did and I tried too hard to impress him. About a month ago he made it clear that he had moved on and even flaunted his new girlfriend in my face because we hang out at the same places. It was that night that I decided not to talk to or contact him for awhile. Its been about 3 weeks, and out of the blue he's texting me. Asking me things like what I'm up to, and if maybe I want to go to a certain place and hang out? I haven't responded, nor do I plan to for a while. I still need more time to get over him. But then my question is, why is he contacting me when he used to ignore me? Is this the whole "Want what I can't have"?
s_n_d Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 I think hes starting to miss you. I dont think you should text him back either. If he REALLY wants to talk to you he will keep texting, calling..Making the effort. Good job with the No contact!! Your doing great. Keep doing it!!
CalamitousJane Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Is this the whole "Want what I can't have"? I think there's a good chance that it is. When you go NC it can be a real kick in the butt for ex's with commitment problems. I think it's just as hard for them to commit to NOT being with you as to being with you, if that makes sense. Problem is, I think going NC for a while very rarely cures the underlying commitement problem. Not unless the other person has experienced enough serious agony to force him to do a little soul-searching. So my guess is that getting back with him at this point would be buying another ticket on the rollercoaster.
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