hayati Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Basically a relationship ended a few yrs ago.......bothh made mistakes - still love her a lot. She dominates my thoughts, I thought I was over it, but I always fall back. She is the girl I let get away, it breaks my heart! After the break we didnt speak for a long time because of a lot of drama and then finally we made peace and talked a few times. I always initiated it but we had some really nice talks for hours. A couple of months went by and I contacted her again but she was rather short with me. We dont live in the same state so I dont see her in person but I saw her recently for the first time since we made peace. I was visiting friends in her state and the first day I arrived I bumped into her!! Fate?? Anyways it was akward and we both froze and stared and then she ran off quickly. If we made peace, why not walk by me? Very akward. Anyways I decided I wanted her back and so I texted her and complimented her beauty, I got nothing back. I emailed basically professing, nothing back! I called and left 2 msgs just saying I need to talk, nothing and I emailed again.........Nothing. I know you will say move on. Let her go, get over it etc. But why can't she tell me to get lost? I wish she would. Any advice?
Ronni_W Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 But why can't she tell me to get lost? Well, she actually did tell you to get lost...five times, if I'm counting correctly. Sometimes silence holds a very powerful message...in your case, maybe it's just that your physical ears are avoiding hearing what she's telling you? Obviously, it is difficult for you -- I wish you strength and Guidance to see (and hear ) your way clear.
jdeedee Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 I have been in a relationship like this before. Her silence is rejection, it is hard to hear -- I know, but it is the case. I wrote letters, texted, called, she even would talk sometimes but she moved on. She knew I hadn't.
Author hayati Posted January 28, 2008 Author Posted January 28, 2008 I guess you're right. I try to think that she's confused or doesnt know what to say. But I guess if she cared she'd say something...........but no regrets. It was meant to happen this way......We broke up bcz we weren't ready and you can blame it on bad timing.......and yet again I'm trying to get her back, we can blame it on bad timing again, but the day will come when she realizes and finally admits the truth to herself......then she cant blame it on bad timing, because I won't be waiting anymore.
Ronni_W Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 It's quite likely that she has already realized her own truth, and is already living her life based on her truth. So she probably isn't hung-up on blaming "bad timing" or anything else. I totally agree with you -- stop waiting! From what you've posted, it seems that'll be in the best interest of your own truth.
a4a Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 I guess you're right. I try to think that she's confused or doesnt know what to say. But I guess if she cared she'd say something...........but no regrets. It was meant to happen this way......We broke up bcz we weren't ready and you can blame it on bad timing.......and yet again I'm trying to get her back, we can blame it on bad timing again, but the day will come when she realizes and finally admits the truth to herself......then she cant blame it on bad timing, because I won't be waiting anymore. I am going to be brutal...... and I have been stalked by X's that just cannot come to terms that people don't answer calls, don't want to talk, don't stop to talk- simply because they don't want anything to do with the other person. Nothing more, nothing less. You can come up with a thousand reasons to keep hoping, the truth is she has moved on and doesn't want to have any sort of a relationship with you at all. - sorry for being brutal but man been there done that on the other end of it.
Nemo Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 I am going to be brutal...... Isn't that kind of redundant, in your case?
Author hayati Posted January 29, 2008 Author Posted January 29, 2008 I guess every few months I fall back into this cycle. No other girl compares....etc. U always hope she still cares etc. I tried to reach out and if she cared she would have given something back. So I am done as of now. Time to move on.......this time it seems and feels real I guess. Time to let go, or I'll be sitting here miserable for years. I guess because she stayed single for the past few years, I thought maybe... but enough What if's. She's gone and doesn't want to talk. And if it's meant to be, it will happen, but until then I need to live my life!
jimbo101 Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I think she's trying to reject u gently so that u won't get hurt badly. I think it's not a good idea if u keep on calling and emailing her. She might think u are too desperate or pushy. So, the best way is to stop contacting her for a while. Wait and see what will happen next...
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