Mr Zandos Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Hi there, my girlfriend and I have just split up, its been a week but feels like a year, I just need to say that I never ever meant to hurt her, my paranoia got the better of me and what I was scared of drove her away, I was warned about her moods, but I had never seen her in one, when she was quiet and said nothing I presumed I had done something to upset her, I hadnt, but I was friends with her mum and sister before we got together, they were on my msn thing for a long time, when my girlfriend got her house and before she moved in her mum asked me to look out for her and to let her know if I thought she may be down (she had post natal psychosis after her youngest was born), except when she was down I presumed it was me that she was pissed at, so when I was at my home I did start to get paranoid as she would not always answer the phone to me I was worried about us, so after a few drinks I would talk to her mum or sister on msn, why I couldnt be like most blokes and think f*ck it she's in a mood and let it pass is a question I keep asking myself, she does not trust me at the end of the day and I do not blame her at all. I used to keep things to myself if I knew what decisions I make may upsett others, I did this to her and it was another thing that drove her away. How do I win her back? She sent me an email last night saying she cant be in a relationship with someone she does not trust, I have agreed not to contact her as she did say she would like to be friends in the future if I sort myself out, but I want her to trust me again and I suppose 1 week is a little too soon for her to get that back, anyone been through this?
ALoversTwist Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Yes. Stay the hell away from the friend zone and her feeding you biscuits. By saying your okay with being friends is like saying it's okay that you broke up with me. She wants to see you've changed, so when you think it's right call her, or wait for the call(hardest, but best idea to do because then you know she's ready to see if you've changed. I know it's hard... I've been moping around listening to love songs in my pjs for a few days. If she left you with hope(Saying i still love you, have a place in my heart for you) then hold on to that hope and try to make a change. Just watch out, because you could push her away further from you.
Author Mr Zandos Posted January 28, 2008 Author Posted January 28, 2008 Yes. Stay the hell away from the friend zone and her feeding you biscuits. By saying your okay with being friends is like saying it's okay that you broke up with me. She wants to see you've changed, so when you think it's right call her, or wait for the call(hardest, but best idea to do because then you know she's ready to see if you've changed. I know it's hard... I've been moping around listening to love songs in my pjs for a few days. If she left you with hope(Saying i still love you, have a place in my heart for you) then hold on to that hope and try to make a change. Just watch out, because you could push her away further from you. When I saw her a week ago she said she was not in love with me but did love me like she loves her friends, she told me we can be friends when I am ready/sort my head out. I have taken action on this as I knew where she was coming from, I have been in and out of jobs over the past year and had no goal, I wanted to do teacher training but that would take 4 years to do, so I have decided and enrolled to teach english as a foreign language, maybe at home or abroad, even if it is abroad I do think a year away would do us both good. I think what she has done has given me a kick up the arse and I needed it.
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