smoochie Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Hey all, I said some things a few days ago that I regret. I have been involved with someone for a few months and things have been pretty good. They moved along in a good pace and I was enjoying myself (as was he). I got nervous because I realized I was beginning to fall for the guy and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I called him on the phone and freaked out completely. He kept asking me why was I so scared to get hurt again and that he really likes me. I was just a basket case, honestly. Needless to say, he said he didnt want to talk to me anymore. (Previous relationship stuff...too long of a story). But at the end of the convo he said he still wanted to be with me. Anyway, he says he really likes me but wants to think things over for a week. I said ok , told him I enjoyed his latest poem and began the no contact. (he did email me after that to tell me he was glad I liked his latest poem...it was about me). But I didn't email back and say thank you or anything...didn't want it to seem like I was trying to stay in contact. The thing is, I have realized the issues I thought were causing my fear had nothing to do with my previous relationship and all about my feelings for this guy. I never expected or planned to develop anything of substance for him and WHAM. So he thinks it because of one thing when actually its because of another. I want to contact him and tell him my revelation but am not going to bother him since we said no contact. I am asking if it sounds like I have a chance. I think now that I know why I was so worried about his feelings for me and not believing he really was into me that I can make this better. This was the first really "argument" we have had. We normally get along great but I was acting really jealous and nervous. Any one have any help for me? I miss him and have been trying to go out every day to try to keep my mind off him...doesn't work much but it helps some.
backspn Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Its normal for you to have those feelings of uncertainty and being scared. It probably pushed him away a bit but he will spring back. I have never liked the no contact game. If you like him you need to show him not tell him. A text every otherday, a phone call every 3 day, something like that. Something that shows you are still interested. Dont pursue him, let him pursue you. Guys like the chase as long as they know the girl is still interested.
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