Elmarbrock Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Some background thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t141995/ (I'm 24 years old FYI) While I would LOVE to be with my ex-, I don't know if that'll ever be possible, and I don't want to sit around and wait and so I've been trying to move on by seeing other women. Since the break up about a year ago, I've seen 4 women. You see, I have a congenital (from birth) skin disorder that I can't change so I may not the most attractive guy in the lot. And over the years, I've developed really thick skin about people commenting about it -- but now that I'm back on the single scene (which I haven't been since college) I feel my skin is thinning. None of the dates really panned out. In fact, one of them (the one I thought that we really hit it up) told me that her friend told her not to go out with me "because he looks hideous." Granted, I wouldn't want to have gone out with such a superficial person, but I never thought they would tell it my face. Add to that, my hours in grad school are really long, and it's hard at times to get out. I mean, I feel like I'm a good guy, successful, but definitely insecure i guess. How do I work through this on the dating scene (from those of you with more experience)? I need some support right now. Any suggestions? Any advice? Thanks
TigerCub Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 First off, the girl who criticized your looks is a bitch. second, you need to remember (as cheesy as it is) that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Speeking as a girl, looks really aren't everything (sure they do count for something), but confidence is a big one. If a guy is nice, funny, treats me well, carries himself well, has some good direction in life (in a / or heading towards a good career), I would care a lot more about all that than if he was a major hottie. Just try to convey a sense of confidence, be relaxed and joke around - charm goes a LoooooooooNG way.
klee Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 First off, the girl who criticized your looks is a bitch. second, you need to remember (as cheesy as it is) that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Speeking as a girl, looks really aren't everything (sure they do count for something), but confidence is a big one. If a guy is nice, funny, treats me well, carries himself well, has some good direction in life (in a / or heading towards a good career), I would care a lot more about all that than if he was a major hottie. Just try to convey a sense of confidence, be relaxed and joke around - charm goes a LoooooooooNG way. I completely agree with everything TigerCub said, especially statement number one! Also speaking as a girl, confidence is it! I know it is hard when you really don't feel it, but just try! Perception is reality. If the girl sees you as confident, even if on the inside you are shakin' in yer boots, it WILL make the difference. Good Luck!
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