moon-frabba Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Hey all! Well I'm new to this so I'll just give you the details, I could really do with some advice, because I'm lost! Ok, so I'm with my girlfriend at the moment I've been with her for 4 years and shes from Australia, I'm from the UK and shes come over here to be with me last March. Now shes going back to Aus soon but wants to have a long distance relationship and I'm not sure what to do. And to thicken the plot I'm going mad about a girl from work, shes just amazing, but shes got a boyfriend who shes been with for 5 years, Ive been advised by co-workers to go for it so I'm guessing and hoping she feels the same. The signs I'm getting are hopeful anyway. So thats that but theres still more, I'm going traveling in July for 4/5 months in Asia so I'm not sure if I go for it with the lady from work is it unfair to ask her to leave her boyfriend then disapear? Im not the kind of person to just sleep with some one and "bye bye" the girl I like at work is more than just sexual and would like some thing to come of it. So I know what I want to do, because I'm a wimp, the easiest thing to do is nothing and put up with my lady and fight my feelings for the other. So HELP please impartial advice is always the best! Thanks all! P.S dont hold back please haha!
klee Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 I'm sorry, but I think you need to let your current gf go and THEN pursue things with the other girl...It is not fair to string your current gf along if you are truly interested in a relationship with the work-girl. Seriously.
Curmudgeon Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 I'm sorry, but I think you need to let your current gf go and THEN pursue things with the other girl...It is not fair to string your current gf along if you are truly interested in a relationship with the work-girl. Seriously. I quite agree. One shouldn't pursue another relationship while in one. It's dishonest and in the end can easily lead to no relationship at all. I guess I must be getting old but in my day, one did not pursue a relationship with someone one knew to already be in one. You waited until he or she was free as well. That's the honorable thing to do, or is honor an archaic and outmoded concept?
klee Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 is honor an archaic and outmoded concept? I sure hope not, Curmudgeon. Or I am screwed.
klee Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 I sure hope not, Curmudgeon. Or I am screwed. I guess if we agree, then WE would be screwed. But not like that. Ach! I dunno anymore....
Curmudgeon Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 I guess if we agree, then WE would be screwed. But not like that. Ach! I dunno anymore.... ...we would be screwed by one another, or what? Now I'm confused!
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