loving_coca-cola Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 My boyfriend and I have been going out for three months now, and everything is going well. We've known each other since high school but started to go out in the senior year of college. Because we've been such good friends for so long, we know each others' pasts and are quite comfortable with each other. Our friends approve of this relationship too. But after winter break, my boyfriend told me that his whole family (all 7 of them) are against this relationship because of a rumor that they heard from their daughter (who she heard from her roommate, who my boyfriend has a past with). The rumor somehow said that I pretty much threw myself at him even before we started going out... which is such a lie. They also saw pictures of me at parties and thinks that I'm not a good influence on him. Funny how he actually parties way more than I do. His whole family thinks I'm a slut and a party girl. I know that his parents have always given him a hard time about all his girlfriends, but now with the rumor spread and the damage done, I don't know what to do. My boyfriend told me that he's going to fight against all his family's nagging, but they are such a close family... I'm also trying to keep this relationship going and hold my head up high because I have nothing to be ashamed of. I'm just hoping that someone could give me advice on how I could possibly change his family's mind. I usually don't care about what others think of me as long as I believe what I'm doing is correct, but when it's about the family of someone I really care about, I want to make things better. Please help
ElvenPriestess Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Well I think it royally bites that anyone would pre judge some one they know nothing about. Rumors? No. The saying of course, believe only half of what you see and none of what you hear. They aren't being fair, and very well may be the type who won't accept anyone that wasn't their idea. It is as you say harder when it's the SO's family. But you really owe them nothing, as you've done nothing wrong. Be polite when you're around them, should you ever be if not already, and don't let them shake or phase you. Their basis is not off fact, or even off of true concern if you ask me. They sound like a completely judgemental know it all bunch, and I'm sorry you have to put up with them. Again, don't try and earn something from them you haven't really lost, you know? Just be you, and they need to respect your b/f's decision FOR ONCE on a girl. tay strong, and don't let them drive you away from your b/f. If they were right, your b/f wouldn't even have bothered with you wouldn't you say?
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