lbj123 Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Hi all, So tonight I was out with friends and ran into a guy that I had dated several years ago and have not seen in at least 5 years. We had a great relationship for a few months, but things fizzled at the point of separating to different locations. It was not a devasting breakup, rather, it was kind of silently understood that we would not stay together. We kept in touch for a bit, but drifted ove time and have since completely lost touch. Every spark came back with flying colors tonight and we had such a wonderful time catching up and talking. At the end of the night we walked out together and he invited me back to his place, but I declined, saying I really needed to get home, but that I hope we hang out again soon. He told me how thrilled he was to see me tonight and said he would call to make plans to hang out again. My question is this...my recent ex said something that has stuck with me...he said that he feels that if a couple breaks up once, it is nearly impossible for them to be together for good in the end, because if there was justification for breaking up once, it means that it was never meant to be the right thing for either person and there was something there that wasnt right. How do people feel? Does breaking up once signify a complete and total end of the possibility of a lasting relationship, or can people part ways, either short term or for an extended time, and reunite and realize in that time just how much that other person means to them? I just feel very unsure and confused with regard to "reading" the other person and gaining insight into their intentions and feeings and wants.
DayDreamer75 Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Personally, I've never looked back at any of my relationships. I can't even imagine going to bed with one of my exes. But never say never. I know several couples that broke up and then got together and lived happily ever after. I guess it all depends on why you break up. Sometimes the relationship and the person you break up with are the correct ones for you but the moment is not right. We are all himan and go through the rollercoaster of our emotions throughout the life. There may be moments in our lives when we can't appreciate the person we have by our side. But not because it's their fault. It also depends the age it happens at. Throughout my life I often broke up with nice guys that I am sure I could very well get along with today only because I did not have sufficient experience and I felt I wanted to party and grow and have many experiences. So it depends on many factors. So, when you take 2 people that are highly compatible character-wise but have completely different objectives in that moment, they will part. I am assuming that if you 2 meet up in a moment when you've both had experiences you needed, when you both have the same objective, at that point nothing is stopping you from having a wonderful relationship.
maynicholas Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 A friend of mine was dating a guy for a couple of years in college. They broke up, dated other people, graduated & moved away. Then several years later ran into each other randomly. They are now married & have a son and are so happy together. DayDreamer has it right I think. But what is really important also is why you broke up to begin with. If he was a lousy jerk, cheater, or abuser then you may want to think twice. If you just broke up because you didn't see it going anywhere, or some other not-so-bad reason, well I think it's ok then.
Nightwolf_58 Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 I don't know, I've always looked at getting back with X's as you broke it off with that person for some reason last time, why would it be any different this time? However in you're situation there really wasn't any personal reasons or messy brake up, just mostly it sounds like location kind of got in the way. Since there sounds like there isn't any hard feelings left over or any baggage, I would say go ahead and see where this adventure might take you. Maybe now is the time for the 2 of you to be together in life! Good luck!
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