Politico Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 If you knew what men want and men knew what women want, wouldn't that kinda take some of the fun and challenge out of dating, romancing and marrying? In fact, it could destroy entire industries such as Hallmark (we could write our own cards), take-out restaurants (more men would enjoy cooking -- more women would know how), florists (no more guilt flowers), chocolate makers (no need for stress reducers), same with pharmaceuticals, and the entire Divorce Establishment (attorneys, mediators, paralegals, guardians ad litem, CPAs, mortgage bankers, marriage counsellors and the courts themselves), etc.
Rooster_DAR Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Well I just want someone who likes to do the little things in life. -Take evening walks around the neighborhood holding hands -Go to garage sales and flea markets here and there -Take little power vacations here and there -Support each other in times of trial Of course I would be lying is sex wasn't included, but I think a close bond is what is most important to me. Cheers!
JerseyShortie Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 If you knew what men want and men knew what women want, wouldn't that kinda take some of the fun and challenge out of dating, romancing and marrying? In fact, it could destroy entire industries such as Hallmark (we could write our own cards), take-out restaurants (more men would enjoy cooking -- more women would know how), florists (no more guilt flowers), chocolate makers (no need for stress reducers), same with pharmaceuticals, and the entire Divorce Establishment (attorneys, mediators, paralegals, guardians ad litem, CPAs, mortgage bankers, marriage counsellors and the courts themselves), etc. It might take the fun out..then again, I'm enough fun for the both of us. No one would miss the lawyers. But the damage to the Hallmark Greetings industry could be detrimental.
djiscrazy Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 This is a very broad-stroke question.. I think it really depends on the guy and what he's ready for. I want a relationship, so for me, I want someone that is attracted to me as much as I am to them.. smart, funny, beautiful to me, compassionate, easy to talk to, and above all else - reciprocates my feelings. The right guy for you doesn't need to have sex with you to be happy (though he will want it badly because you are so hot to him)... he will be happy just being in your company doing absolutely nothing together. That's just me though.. like other people have said, each man is different. Don't know if this helps, but good luck!
TotalChaos Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 I agree with a lot of the responses on here. Overall, I think what men want is a women that is a bit of a challenge and can stimulate their mind, body and soul. Someone who is comfortable within themselves and not afraid to be adventurous in life.
Arch Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Most real women I know would about-face at the use of the term, "chick!" touchy lawl, - it seems to me that the less makeup a girl wears the less of a bitch she is, so I am not sure if your statement is correct. The concept of makeup is entertaining to think about for me, the same goes for breast implants - just about all of what people do cosmetically gives me a laugh, I guess I just don't understand it.
Woggle Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 If you knew what men want and men knew what women want, wouldn't that kinda take some of the fun and challenge out of dating, romancing and marrying? In fact, it could destroy entire industries such as Hallmark (we could write our own cards), take-out restaurants (more men would enjoy cooking -- more women would know how), florists (no more guilt flowers), chocolate makers (no need for stress reducers), same with pharmaceuticals, and the entire Divorce Establishment (attorneys, mediators, paralegals, guardians ad litem, CPAs, mortgage bankers, marriage counsellors and the courts themselves), etc. Most of those industries should fall except for chocolate which would still last because it tastes good.
ahah2322 Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 based on the threads read, it is apparant that men generally wants ladies who are fun to be with, little drama and totally game for hot sex. i think most men need to realize that they have to put in the work to keep this up in a relationship. men are really psyched up about getting the ladies but once they're in a relationship, they seem to get complacent... and females don't react well to this change.
mental_traveller Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 (edited) based on the threads read, it is apparant that men generally wants ladies who are fun to be with, little drama and totally game for hot sex. i think most men need to realize that they have to put in the work to keep this up in a relationship. men are really psyched up about getting the ladies but once they're in a relationship, they seem to get complacent... and females don't react well to this change. Yeah I agree. That's the problem with relationships that start out passionate, then fizzle. Usually this happens because they had the "new buzz" chemistry at first, but the long-term compatibility is just not there. Once the honeymoon phase is over, people start to see the reality instead of the fantasy. However, I don't think it should be necessary to "put in work" to maintain a relationship. If two people are really suited, then they will do all that stuff automatically, because they are genuinely strongly in love even after the novelty phase wears off. Is it really work to treat someone you are in love with nicely and romantically, to pay them attention? No, it's not work at all, it's a pleasure. If it's work, then that just shows you don't have enough feelings for them for this stuff to come naturally. No one should be forced to work to keep a relationship going. Nor should you want someone to work at a relationship. You should want someone who finds it easy and natural to do these things. That's why I prefer "slow burn" romances. IMO the ideal relationship is one where after a year you are *more* attracted and the relationship is hotter than in the first 3-4 months. That shows you have a genuine compatibility and sustainable passion. Also, not all guys are like dogs, who chase enthusiastically after a stick, then get bored once they get it. Personally I'd rather be laid back early on, then get more keen as the relationship develops and I can actually know if I'm really into this woman or not. Edited February 9, 2008 by mental_traveller
Lizzie60 Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 What I think men want: intelligence good sense of humour sexy (in a classy way) sensual good kisser good oral giver who absolutely loves sex has good work ethic makes him feel like a million bucks I make my men happy...
JosieMcCoy Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Once I stopped worrying what men wanted and was just myself, everything started to fall into place! The less you try, and the attention you give yourself, the better!!! Cheers!
Curmudgeon Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 You've got it! :bunny: A self-assured woman who doesn't feel the need to flaunt it but who is happy and comfortable with herself just as she is can be extremely compelling. It also makes her very sexy in my eyes. But then, I always did love a challenge. No one should have to fit into someone else's mold or "perform" to be found acceptable. If the right chemistry is there naturally, all the rest follows the same way.
Curmudgeon Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 What I think men want: intelligence good sense of humour sexy (in a classy way) sensual good kisser good oral giver who absolutely loves sex has good work ethic makes him feel like a million bucks I make my men happy... Make men happy, that is, and everything you listed is absolutely a nice to have. However, the acid test for me is if the elements are contrived for purposes of the end goal or if they're ingrained and naturally present.
Lizzie60 Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Make men happy, that is, and everything you listed is absolutely a nice to have. However, the acid test for me is if the elements are contrived for purposes of the end goal or if they're ingrained and naturally present. LOL.. no.. not at all... I've always been like that... I wasn't born yesterday.. I am an experienced woman.. I know what men wants... Plus you are no better than anyone else, you might NEVER know the woman's pedigree...
Pyro Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Once I stopped worrying what men wanted and was just myself, everything started to fall into place! The less you try, and the attention you give yourself, the better!!! Cheers! You said it nurse. Just keep it simple. That is what guys want.
Curmudgeon Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Plus you are no better than anyone else, you might NEVER know the woman's pedigree... And some of my best pets have been mutts!
Curmudgeon Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 based on the threads read, it is apparant that men generally wants ladies who are fun to be with, little drama and totally game for hot sex. i think most men need to realize that they have to put in the work to keep this up in a relationship. men are really psyched up about getting the ladies but once they're in a relationship, they seem to get complacent... and females don't react well to this change. That's very akin to what a lot of men believe about women. To them it appears that as soon as a woman lands a husband she starts being dowdy, putting on weight and neglecting her appearance altogether. As for what you posted, I'll plead guilty as charged in terms of my former marriage as related to complacency and lack of willingness to put in the hard work necessary to keep the relationship alive and vibrant. Thankfully, I learned my lesson -- late, but better than never!
Taramere Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Once I stopped worrying what men wanted and was just myself, everything started to fall into place! The less you try, and the attention you give yourself, the better!!! Absolutely. I've made the mistake, previously, of trying to be everything I believed my bf wanted in a woman. I think there's a natural tendency to do that when you really like someone. In the short term it can be quite easy to keep slipping in and out of different roles to suit the other person's moods, needs and desires. Longer term, it gets taxing. You just don't get it all from one person. So either the guy manages to negotiate an open relationship (which, from what I've seen, is a source of distress for most women once they've invested themselves emotionally) so that he can have his needs/desires met from a variety of sources. Or he priorities those needs and desires. Then he figures out whether you have the must-haves qualities, and he compromises in regard to the "desirables but not essentials." To enable a guy to do that successfully, you have to know who you are and present that person to him....even when you're regretfully aware that that you're not his ideal. I know I'm writing this very much from the perspective of what the man's desires/wants. That's only because that's what the thread's about though. Naturally I think what we (women) need from men is equally valid.
Lizzie60 Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 You said it nurse. Just keep it simple. That is what guys want. Huh? Nurse? Is Josie a nurse????
Curmudgeon Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Huh? Nurse? Is Josie a nurse???? She could bring me back to life any time!
JosieMcCoy Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 She could bring me back to life any time! Well, don't die Curm! But if you fake dying, I can practice my mouth to mouth... I guess I will have change my avatar to a nurse picture now, now that that's out of the bag! Only one special person guessed my job! And I haven't heard from him in awhile... (Get better boy!)
Ariadne Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Being female, it's hard for me to determine what it is exactly that men want from a woman. So, guys: what do you want/like in women? It's always puzzled me. Men want: A bitch. Someone that will boss them around. Someone controlling. Someone hot and attractive. Someone demanding and difficult to please (nothing is good enough etc) Lots and lots of drama. To be treated like crap.
Pyro Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Men want: A bitch. Someone that will boss them around. Someone controlling. Someone hot and attractive. Someone demanding and difficult to please (nothing is good enough etc) Lots and lots of drama. To be treated like crap. You are funny.
Ariadne Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 You are funny. Oh yeah, And I forgot ambivalence. I don't know if I love you, I'm not sure, maybe tomorrow, etc etc. They love that too.
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