Enema Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 What men want is very different from man to man. The only consistent thing I can think of is that all men want a woman with an OFF switch.
Phateless Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Being female, it's hard for me to determine what it is exactly that men want from a woman. So, guys: what do you want/like in women? It's always puzzled me. Love, sex, food and beer.
taiko Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 When I divorced at 48 and began thinking about some sort of social life at 50, I wanted to be with someone who was my professional, educational, intellectual and spiritual equal. I also wanted to be with someone who cared about and took pride in her appearance. That does not mean I was looking for any particular body type or specific features, just someone who did their best with what nature gave them. Good, I'll go with this too. But let me add if she is to attractive to my eye I wonder what she see's in me. I used to fear that I'm was being used as my insecurities tell me she could have done so much better. I guess I needed the reason she was unattached, just as she needed the reason I was unattached. But that is just the initial phase, it does come down to sex. Is she comfortable with and willing to go along with what I like. If my wife has faked her interest I wonder how long she can keep it up. In the end if she is no longer able or willing to pretend interest could we stay together?
Arch Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 A chick who doesn't dye her hair, or wear makeup.
shadowplay Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 All I know is that when a man falls for you, THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT. Nothing you (or anyone else) does will change his mind about it. Similarly, when a man loses interest in you, there is also nothing you can do about it. So true.....
chrissycee1975 Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 Hi, Just read over some of the posts. I agree, I think a man wants someone who has their own individuality and doesn't have to be attached to him at the hip. I agree that a relationship/marriage is 2 people coming together, but I don't think it has to be that each person gives up elements of themselves to create one joint unit at the expense of each other. I'm 32, have been in a committed relationship for 9 years and we do many things together, but we also have interests outside of our relationship, i.e. he likes to watch football and I'm a hockey fan; I like to read and he likes to watch TV. We have our space and spend some days apart but we generally spend most of our free time together. Having said all that, I don't claim to have men all figured out; sometimes, even when I say what I mean in no uncertain words, it still seems to fly right over his head and/or he's ignored me or something. He's assured me that he heard me, but sometimes, I'm not so sure. This is a topic for another post, but in short, we've talked about marriage and I thought we had agreed on a plan, but he hasn't really done anything about it (yet). In this regard, I too ask the question, "what do men want?". Looking forward to reading other posts from everyone. C.
Nemo Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 Is she hawt? Why do you continue to bastardise the English language? Do you have some deep-set need to rebel? What is your next target?
Mustang Sally Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 Ha! Well, isn't this the $64,000 question? But seriously. I would expect that the answers to this are as varied as the men, themselves, no? Maybe it's better advised for a gal to just work on getting comfortable in her own skin first...then I'll bet it's easier to discern the right kind of man for you, rather than worrying about what the collective "men" want. Wouldn't you think?
Trialbyfire Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 Why do you continue to bastardise the English language? Do you have some deep-set need to rebel? What is your next target? whot r u sayin? i writ gud english. Men seem 2 like gurls who don't think or tock 2 much.
Nemo Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 whot r u sayin? i writ gud english. Men seem 2 like gurls who don't think or tock 2 much. I just made a tent out of my boxers. This is most disturbing.
Pyro Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 whot r u sayin? i writ gud english. Men seem 2 like gurls who don't think or tock 2 much. If you are trying to get KMT's attention, I think you got it.
Kezersoze Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 I guess I'll add my dos cents A women that is full filing sexually, emotionally, and intellectually! seemingly simple yet very elaborate qualifications.
mental_traveller Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 This one is easy: 1) Fun to be around 2) No drama, nagging, or hassle 3) Good regular sex That's all you need to make a guy happy. Somehow most women don't seem to manage it though.
bridget Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 Maybe it's better advised for a gal to just work on getting comfortable in her own skin first...then I'll bet it's easier to discern the right kind of man for you, rather than worrying about what the collective "men" want. Wouldn't you think? Yes, I most definitely would think. I think more about what kind of man I want than what kind of women men want. You'll never please 'em all and for goodness sake why would you ever want to try? Please yourself, I say (take that as you will ) But in a vague attempt to actually answer... I think men want an understanding, sensitive (to their needs, whatever and whenever they may be, not sensitive like a puddle), charming, warm body in the same way that women do. The other personality traits and certainly the physical attributes looked for vary from person to person, we'll never pin that down in this thread... even with the brains and wit that have previously been displayed!
onmyownagain Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 I think a woman who doesn't nag, is happy to spend time with her man, and would like nothing more than to drag him up to bed for the best session of his life. I think if my wife had been like this, I still would be married. We are simple creatures really, but the only reason we ever got with you in the first place was to get into your knickers, excuse being so blunt.
fral945 Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 This one is easy: 1) Fun to be around 2) No drama, nagging, or hassle 3) Good regular sex That's all you need to make a guy happy. Somehow most women don't seem to manage it though. I might add physically attractive, but otherwise, you've got it. The rest is not really that important. Our requirements are pretty simple.
cj1988 Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 When you start trying to get inside their heads, and then try to meet their expectations, it becomes a dangerous slippery slope. I myself have given up trying to understand men and what makes them tick (and I am in my late 40's!!). Don't think I ever will. But this is what I've learned so far in my life... Some men prefer independence in a woman, while others like it when she's dependent on him. Some are turned on by curves, and some like thin as a rail. I've found that men's attraction to these individual traits is a very subjective and personal thing. Each man is different - each has a "blueprint" in his head of what the perfect woman looks/acts like. And men do not respect women who deliberately try to guess what that blueprint is, and match it. Men see right through you on that, and they may toy with you for awhile, but it won't work in the end. All I know is that when a man falls for you, THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT. Nothing you (or anyone else) does will change his mind about it. Similarly, when a man loses interest in you, there is also nothing you can do about it. The best way to deal with men is to simply "do your own thing" - DO WHAT YOU LOVE, with all your fire and passion, and don't worry about what other people think about it. And take good care of yourself, too. Men are visual creatures. That's what catches their eye in the beginning... although it's not what holds their interest over the long run. The sexiest and most alluring thing a woman can do is to passionately pursue her own dreams. That - along with keeping yourself looking good - attracts men like no other thing you can do. And you must simply have faith that doing this will attract the RIGHT guy to you. Just my 2 cents. I know about the "blueprint" thing....My H said I have the blueprint body that was in his mind, but the rest I have no idea. Because NOW the BODY he loved so much is the same or better and he has no interest. He wanted me to be his happiness in the beginning, put me on a pedistal I did NOT want to be on......held me so high that all I had left was to fall down.....his expectations were way off and now I am not what he wanted at all because they were not real or me......his own issues not mine!
Phateless Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 Guys require little maintenance, but it has to be consistent and routine maintenance. We want fun and stability. That thread about the wife who tests the guy... ugh. A woman like that would not last a week with me. NEXT!!!!!!
Toggo Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 A best friend they can hold hands with. I hope that isn't too simple a concept, but anything more elaborate would be straying I think.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 The men that I know like: breasts (the bigger the better), long hair, intelligence, verbally and physically sexual, a great smile and can make you laugh!
Politico Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 The men that I know like: breasts (the bigger the better), long hair, intelligence, verbally and physically sexual, a great smile and can make you laugh! I prefer smaller breasts, hair (length unimportant), verbally intelligently conversant, physically taken care of by self and intellectually my equal or better -- to include a good sense of humor.
Politico Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 A chick who doesn't dye her hair, or wear makeup. Most real women I know would about-face at the use of the term, "chick!"
Saxis Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 A woman who understands me. When I state my dreams and desires, she doesn't ask "Why?". Then I'll know she has the passion, intelligence and desire to be a companion. This of course must be reciprocal.
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