SOS_Please Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Being female, it's hard for me to determine what it is exactly that men want from a woman. So, guys: what do you want/like in women? It's always puzzled me.
Storyrider Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 A tight vagina. Failing that, a tight butthole. Thanks for setting the tone...
Nemo Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Thanks for setting the tone... OK, then. How about writing love poems? Men really dig that crap. Especially ones emphasising the intense pleasure imparted with their vaginal contractions. Or perhaps include some vivid imagery of a cute arse wafting suggestively in his direction. If that doesn't give him a raging erection, then probably nothing will.
Green Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 I like girls who are healthy, kind and fun to be around (which includes sex)
Author SOS_Please Posted January 27, 2008 Author Posted January 27, 2008 A tight vagina. Failing that, a tight butthole. ...and here I was thinking attractive, intellectual, and funny would be in the top three. Haha, and this is why I asked. So, men, according to you, are only interested in sex, or (referring to your latter comment) anything suggesting sex--like sexual poetry? I suppose I meant more along the lines of: do men perfer women who are dependant v. independent, skinny v. curvy, intellectual v. dumb-as-a-rake, etc.
OpenBook Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 I suppose I meant more along the lines of: do men perfer women who are dependant v. independent, skinny v. curvy, intellectual v. dumb-as-a-rake, etc. When you start trying to get inside their heads, and then try to meet their expectations, it becomes a dangerous slippery slope. I myself have given up trying to understand men and what makes them tick (and I am in my late 40's!!). Don't think I ever will. But this is what I've learned so far in my life... Some men prefer independence in a woman, while others like it when she's dependent on him. Some are turned on by curves, and some like thin as a rail. I've found that men's attraction to these individual traits is a very subjective and personal thing. Each man is different - each has a "blueprint" in his head of what the perfect woman looks/acts like. And men do not respect women who deliberately try to guess what that blueprint is, and match it. Men see right through you on that, and they may toy with you for awhile, but it won't work in the end. All I know is that when a man falls for you, THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT. Nothing you (or anyone else) does will change his mind about it. Similarly, when a man loses interest in you, there is also nothing you can do about it. The best way to deal with men is to simply "do your own thing" - DO WHAT YOU LOVE, with all your fire and passion, and don't worry about what other people think about it. And take good care of yourself, too. Men are visual creatures. That's what catches their eye in the beginning... although it's not what holds their interest over the long run. The sexiest and most alluring thing a woman can do is to passionately pursue her own dreams. That - along with keeping yourself looking good - attracts men like no other thing you can do. And you must simply have faith that doing this will attract the RIGHT guy to you. Just my 2 cents.
Grimreaper Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 I dont know about the others but what I want is a women who will stick by you no matter what, for the good and bad, in sickness or in heath for richer or poorer until death do you apart, thats waht I want! someone who loves you for waht you are and loves the good and bad in you. Anyone listening???
ElvenPriestess Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Us women want that exact thing too. Unfortunately I think those vows are taken TOO lightly these days. What do men want? I dunno, I'm not one, but sometimes I wonder if men even know what men want.
Pyro Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Its pretty simple, at least for me it is, but I want a woman who: -is intelligent (can keep a conversation going) -can make me laugh -fun to be around -dislikes drama as much as I do -willing to try new things at the drop of a dime -is honest and loyal -has an open mind about things, but that falls under intelligence
Woggle Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 I can't speak for other men but hear is what I like in a woman A genuinely kind heart and a desire to do right by the people she cares about She has to like men and not be a manhater Independence is a good thing but not that I don't need a man mentality Fun and enjoyable to be around and hang out with Not a nag Loyal and knows the meaning of the word commitment Take accountability for her actions
lindya Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 I dont know about the others but what I want is a women who will stick by you no matter what, for the good and bad, in sickness or in heath for richer or poorer until death do you apart, thats waht I want! someone who loves you for waht you are and loves the good and bad in you. Anyone listening??? So what you want is someone who will put you first. I'm guessing that it's not so important for her to be attractive, intelligent, talented or stimulating. The problem (from a female perspective) is that being selected by you might not feel like a major compliment or coup for a woman. Sometimes people who make much of their ability to be loyal stay silent on the fact that their unflinching loyalty stems from fear of the unknown - or lack of opportunities. If, on the other hand, a person is loyal because they're a strong character with a capacity for deep and lasting love, the chances are that loyalty will just be one of a number of exceptional qualities they have to offer. Looking out for and acknowledging those in women you're interested in might help to make any offers you extend to them sound a tad less depressing. A bit more interested in them as people, as opposed to merely interested in what they can offer you in terms of comfort and stability. Hope you're not offended or that I'm being too off topic. I'm just trying to encourage you to summon up a bit of sparkle.
HoustonScrewed Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 I don't know what other men want, but I want someone who is truthful, committed, fun to be around, that i can talk to, and willing to do what I want to do from time to time. I have dated the hot chick and the rich chick. What you can't rely on is looks are money, looks and money changes over the years!
ULTRA MONKEY Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Every guy is different in what they like physically, but for me the most important thing to KEEP me into a girl is she needs to NOT be constantly miserable. I love to be supportive for my girl when she's down, but so many women are always upset and rarely find joy in anything! If you are asking for advice on how to keep a certain guy you like- try having SOME of the conversations be about things that went RIGHT for you this week!
Curmudgeon Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Babies... men want lots of babies. Nothing scares me more than women of child-bearing age!
Curmudgeon Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 I suppose I meant more along the lines of: do men perfer women who are dependant v. independent, skinny v. curvy, intellectual v. dumb-as-a-rake, etc. When I divorced at 48 and began thinking about some sort of social life at 50, I wanted to be with someone who was my professional, educational, intellectual and spiritual equal. I also wanted to be with someone who cared about and took pride in her appearance. That does not mean I was looking for any particular body type or specific features, just someone who did their best with what nature gave them.
Author SOS_Please Posted January 27, 2008 Author Posted January 27, 2008 Thank you all for your replies! I do appreciate it! Now, to respond to some of your concerns (i.e. that I shouldn't change myself for men, or that I am trying to keep a man interested): I am asking not for any particular reason. I don't have a boyfriend, nor am I currently looking for one. I ask because a guy friend of mine is always going on about how he can never understand what women want, and that we are always so moody (his girlfriend just broke up with him), but he also has these unrealistic expectations of women. So, I suppose I ask more so to see if a lot of men have these unrealistic expectations, or what. I suppose a lot of his problem is the fact that he is in college. It seems younger men are more superficial and clueless than older men are. Ha ha, then again, I could be wrong!
backspn Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 One thing a guy wants is recognition. It seems to be a trivial thing to some but regognition is key. When you tell a man how much you appreciate him its like he won the lottery.
Nemo Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 When you tell a man how much you appreciate him its like he won the lottery. Obviously you didn't get the first prize.
Storyrider Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Obviously you didn't get the first prize. The first prize is X-rated poetry and arse wafting.
Grimreaper Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Us women want that exact thing too. Unfortunately I think those vows are taken TOO lightly these days. What do men want? I dunno, I'm not one, but sometimes I wonder if men even know what men want. haha true, but honestly thats what im looking for! Yup they are, This time I really thought I found her but turns out she cheated on me and now complains about everything I do. The problem with women nowdays is that they think that they are too good for a guy whos nice to them.. So what you want is someone who will put you first. I'm guessing that it's not so important for her to be attractive, intelligent, talented or stimulating. The problem (from a female perspective) is that being selected by you might not feel like a major compliment or coup for a woman. Sometimes people who make much of their ability to be loyal stay silent on the fact that their unflinching loyalty stems from fear of the unknown - or lack of opportunities. If, on the other hand, a person is loyal because they're a strong character with a capacity for deep and lasting love, the chances are that loyalty will just be one of a number of exceptional qualities they have to offer. Looking out for and acknowledging those in women you're interested in might help to make any offers you extend to them sound a tad less depressing. A bit more interested in them as people, as opposed to merely interested in what they can offer you in terms of comfort and stability. Hope you're not offended or that I'm being too off topic. I'm just trying to encourage you to summon up a bit of sparkle. hey hey no way ! Im not offended No not really it doesnt matter if one is not attractive, intelligent, talented or stimulating, well atleast for me.... as long as you love someone for who they are thats all what matters. You love her for the good and bad thats what counts and she understands you. Why should it be a compliment for them to be chosen by me? Im not special, I know my limits. Its only fair that women also know their limits and dont over expect. But yeah I think I know what you trying to say here and do agree with you.
klee Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 The first prize is X-rated poetry and arse wafting. hehehheeehee:lmao:
Krytie TV Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Someone who doesn't mold themself based on what random people from the internet tell them they want. That is to say, individuality.
Never_Sure Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Someone who doesn't mold themself based on what random people from the internet tell them they want. That is to say, individuality. I agree, but I think SOS said that she wasn't asking to mold herself, but because of her guy friend not knowing what women want intrigued her to ask, right? LOL, I am not a man, but if I were I would want a woman who was intellectual, funny, has good character, etc. However, I do agree that individuality is key. SOS, this is off topic, but I have to say your previous thread about mortifying moments was too funny!
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