lalalamixitup Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 i like this guy and we had a movie night at my house last night, but he didnt try to kiss me... we went out to the movies the night before (one of many dates) and he sent me a text message saying "i really wanted to kiss you in the theatre but you know how my mind is, and i was too shy" i told him "i wanted you to kiss me cause i like you a lot" he told me "i like you a lot too" but last night he didnt try anything. I just went for it and kissed him then he jumps up and says "i gotta get my chapstick from the car and get some cigarettes and orange juice" so he does that and when he gets back he doesnt kiss me. =( i asked him why, and he says its because im kind of intimidating and he's REALLY shy. what should i do, i told him i liked him a lot and i wouldnt kiss him if it made him feel uncomfortable. He said it doesnt but he just gets scared of him kissing me and making the first move (or any girl he's ever wanted to kiss) pulling back as soon as he goes in for the kiss. I told him i wouldnt do that. What do you guys make of this whole thing? what should i do? he's 21 btw...just in case anyone thought i was talking about two 13 year olds haha
ElvenPriestess Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 It seems you need to let him know it's ok. So next time you're watching a movie and you get the vibe, you could say something like so that kiss I wanted the other night, may I have it now? I know, kind of silly, but the whole overly shy thing is silly. So that's what I think you should do. Gotta put his fears to rest in the moment, not before or after, when the moment is already lost.
spookie Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 I was the first person my 24-yr-old bf ever kissed, or hugged for that matter. The first time I tried to get him to cuddle and make out, he had a panic attack, he was stiff as a log and had no idea what to do. The cuddling, after a couple of minutes, he was able to handle; but the making out he wasn't interested in that first time. We progressed with the hugging the next time we hung out, and the time after that, we ended up kissing for hours, on his initiative. So, with your guy, I think it's possible that everything's going to be ok, if you are patient and very, very understanding.
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