BetrayedMM Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 And the details are sickening beyond belief. It was one affair, not two guys, all the time she supposedly spent with her friend's husband was just a cover for missing time.(odd, huh?) He was actually too busy screwing someone else's wife at he time to be bothered with my wife. The actual affair was a booty call situation. My wife was basically an unpaid prostitute/sex slave for the scumbag. He text her, she would drive 50 miles, and they would get it on with no foreplay, no kissing(the guy wouldn't even kiss her), no romance, no nothing, just straight to his bedroom, jump in the sack. When I asked her how she could enjoy that, she claims she didn't. HUH? That's what she destroyed her marriage for? WOW! No, I'm certainly not stupid enough to think I've gotten the whole truth. I know I've gotten part of it though. I'm sick. Physically sick. But, I'm glad she told me. Now, what I have had proof of is confirmed. The confession certainly helps my legal case. She just can't stop self destructing. At this point, she'd have to be an idiot to be unaware I'm building a case against her.
JackJack Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 Wow, I don't know what to say, other than I'm sorry you're going through this right now. I don't know if she has told you the whole truth, but hopefully if not, she will at some point so you all can decide what you want to do and begin the healing process.
PandorasBox Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 I don't know to what extent you all have really discussed all of this, but have you had the chance to ask her why she felt the need to do this? Of course, the bottom line is for selfish reasons, but just wondering what excuse she may have given you. Sorry about all of this, hang in there.
Bryanp Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 I am so sorry for you. She didn't like it but she continued to destroy her marriage and put your health at risk for STD's. Did you ask her why she did this? Did you ask her why she wished to destroy her marriage? I hope you have a good lawyer.
Author BetrayedMM Posted January 26, 2008 Author Posted January 26, 2008 Yeah, I asked all those questions. Answer- "I don't know". Right. My lawyer is positively ruthless, and I do not live in a 'no fault' state where there is no difference between right and wrong. We have been preparing a devastating 'stealth' divorce, and it's already an iron clad slam dunk case. Infidelity, abuse, neglect, child endangerment, it goes on and on. I am seeking full custody, the house(the whole thing, not a half), spousal support, child support, and legal damages. AFAIK, she has not had the opportunity to prepare a defense, nor do I plan on extending her that courtesy. We are going to serve her the papers at the latest possible opportunity, and expedite it thru the courts as much as possibly. She will be destitute before she knows what is happening, not even get the chance to digest it. Sound like plan?
PandorasBox Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 Yeah, I asked all those questions. Answer- "I don't know". Right. My lawyer is positively ruthless, and I do not live in a 'no fault' state where there is no difference between right and wrong. We have been preparing a devastating 'stealth' divorce, and it's already an iron clad slam dunk case. Infidelity, abuse, neglect, child endangerment, it goes on and on. I am seeking full custody, the house(the whole thing, not a half), spousal support, child support, and legal damages. AFAIK, she has not had the opportunity to prepare a defense, nor do I plan on extending her that courtesy. We are going to serve her the papers at the latest possible opportunity, and expedite it thru the courts as much as possibly. She will be destitute before she knows what is happening, not even get the chance to digest it. Sound like plan? Sounds like you got it all planned out, and bases covered. Which is a good thing. I had no idea there were other things involved as well such as, child endangerment, abuse etc. Sounds like alot going on. Once again I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.
stampdaddy Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 Yeah, I asked all those questions. Answer- "I don't know". Right. My lawyer is positively ruthless, and I do not live in a 'no fault' state where there is no difference between right and wrong. We have been preparing a devastating 'stealth' divorce, and it's already an iron clad slam dunk case. Infidelity, abuse, neglect, child endangerment, it goes on and on. I am seeking full custody, the house(the whole thing, not a half), spousal support, child support, and legal damages. AFAIK, she has not had the opportunity to prepare a defense, nor do I plan on extending her that courtesy. We are going to serve her the papers at the latest possible opportunity, and expedite it thru the courts as much as possibly. She will be destitute before she knows what is happening, not even get the chance to digest it. Sound like plan? First of all, I am sorry too, that you have to deal with this, in EVERY way that you do... As far as your "plan", I do want to ask (and I am being sincere, I think you know me a little now): What do some of these steps in your plan do to the "family" that your daughter will still see through her eyes? Completely destroying her, making her destitute and everything, what does that do for you in 6 months, 6 years, 20 years from now? I guess I am worried about your "bigger picture", especially for your daughter.. I hope I am not out of line for asking... Thanks friend
Wibble Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 Let me say straight out, Betrayed, I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from. You are utterly devastated, hurt, betrayed, mystified, disappointed and most of all ANGRY. Another man has taken the most precious thing in your life, and your wife has betrayed every decent thought and deed that ever came her way. 2 years ago that was me. Almost exactly the same situation but with the added bonus of video evidence as well. Unspeakably horrible to watch, and something that will live with me 'til the end of my days. Now I don't know what it was, but occasionally, throught the fog of pain and fury, I saw that things could not be a straight forward as they seemed. Why had my wife confessed? Why had she fallen for such an obvious scumbag? Her behaviour was SO out of character that I knew that it deserved more than just a knee-jerk "I'm divorcing you, you adulterous bitch" response from me. Together with the kids, it was this certainty that made me return to the marital home and begin the incredibly long and painful process of healing a 20 year marriage. What I read in your post screams out blind, raw pain. You have been hurt more than you could ever have imagined possible, and lashing out at the source of that pain holds the promise of relief. But in your heart of hearts, do you REALLY think that you will solve anything by going down this road, especially before you have tried any others? Think of your family. And whatever you do, do not think of a divorce as a competition in which you can "win" one over your wife. The ONLY winners are the lawyers, who thrive on messy divorces. Be angry. Be hurt, be sad, be sorry, but don't let any of these feelings rush you into hasty action. You need a clear head and a good plan; one that takes into account ALL the members of your family. Now I realise this is the last advice you want to hear at the moment, so if nothing else, take the EASY route. Do nothing. Just live your life, and see how things go. You are the start of a long road, so don't rush.
Cobra_X30 Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Let me say straight out, Betrayed, I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from. You are utterly devastated, hurt, betrayed, mystified, disappointed and most of all ANGRY. Another man has taken the most precious thing in your life, and your wife has betrayed every decent thought and deed that ever came her way. 2 years ago that was me. Almost exactly the same situation but with the added bonus of video evidence as well. Unspeakably horrible to watch, and something that will live with me 'til the end of my days. Now I don't know what it was, but occasionally, throught the fog of pain and fury, I saw that things could not be a straight forward as they seemed. Why had my wife confessed? Why had she fallen for such an obvious scumbag? Her behaviour was SO out of character that I knew that it deserved more than just a knee-jerk "I'm divorcing you, you adulterous bitch" response from me. Wibble, I understand what you are trying to do... but this path is not for everyone. Don't buy into the whole idea that vengeance provides you nothing but emptyness. For those who at thier very core require respect, this will provide that balance which is required. Personally, I can't understand why you would ever choose to stay with a woman who doesnt love you or respect you. As they say... children are better off coming from a broken home, than being in a broken home!
Bryanp Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Good for you. After everything she has done to you her only response is "I don't Know Why" is totally bull. She deliberately made a choice to do these things with this particular individual and destroy you and your marriage. This response is totally demeaning and insulting to you.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Yeah, I asked all those questions. Answer- "I don't know". Right. My lawyer is positively ruthless, and I do not live in a 'no fault' state where there is no difference between right and wrong. We have been preparing a devastating 'stealth' divorce, and it's already an iron clad slam dunk case. Infidelity, abuse, neglect, child endangerment, it goes on and on. I am seeking full custody, the house(the whole thing, not a half), spousal support, child support, and legal damages. AFAIK, she has not had the opportunity to prepare a defense, nor do I plan on extending her that courtesy. We are going to serve her the papers at the latest possible opportunity, and expedite it thru the courts as much as possibly. She will be destitute before she knows what is happening, not even get the chance to digest it. Sound like plan? Talk about the big payback!!!
Woggle Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Good for you for going for the gusto in divorce court. I wish men would be more ruthless because we wouldn't get screwed so bad if we did.
OpenBook Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 And I'm sure you men would also support the same ruthlessness in a BW whose H cheated on her...?
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Good for you for going for the gusto in divorce court. I wish men would be more ruthless because we wouldn't get screwed so bad if we did. Alot of women who cheat do that alot to good men. And alot of times they dont deserve it. Sad...
Woggle Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 And I'm sure you men would also support the same ruthlessness in a BW whose H cheated on her...? if she were truly wrong yes but I tend to root for men who fight in divorce court because the deck is stacked so much against us. It's why I rooted for Kevin Federline in that other thread. I like to see a man not taking it lying down.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 if she were truly wrong yes but I tend to root for men who fight in divorce court because the deck is stacked so much against us. It's why I rooted for Kevin Federline in that other thread. I like to see a man not taking it lying down. Hell yeah. I think K-fed is a jerk because of how he left his baby mom's shar jackson for britney in the first place but All things considered, Britney is no mother!!!
Woggle Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Hell yeah. I think K-fed is a jerk because of how he left his baby mom's shar jackson for britney in the first place but All things considered, Britney is no mother!!! He was stupid but I am glad to see him take her for all she is worth.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 He was stupid but I am glad to see him take her for all she is worth. lmao! agreed!
THE THRONE Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 THE THRONE wants the OP to crush her soul. If she commits suicide after this she is doing a service to humanity, her family and her families future.
stampdaddy Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 THE THRONE wants the OP to crush her soul. If she commits suicide after this she is doing a service to humanity, her family and her families future. what the hell is wrong with you???
THE THRONE Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 (edited) what the hell is wrong with you??? What is wrong with her? She MURDERED this mans emotions and dreams and DESTROYED her family because she wanted penis (I hate having to be P.C. here can we say dick?) The only person she might deserve sympathy from is God (if he even exists.) Bottom line is I don't feel sorry for her and if the worst happens to her so be it. Yes, she is the mother of his kids, and he probably doesn't feel as strongly as I do, but THE THRONE is torn from a different cloth and NO CHEATER deserves a break. And if she did harm herself after he destroys her, it will be because of her own actions. I'm sorry, but I don't feel sorry for whatever happens to her. She MURDERED and DESTROYED the family when she did what she did. Edited January 27, 2008 by THE THRONE
stampdaddy Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 What is wrong with her? She MURDERED this mans emotions and dreams and DESTROYED her family because she wanted penis (I hate having to be P.C. here can we say dick?) The only person she might deserve sympathy from is God (if he even exists.) Bottom line is I don't feel sorry for her and if the worst happens to her so be it. Yes, she is the mother of his kids, and he probably doesn't feel as strongly as I do, but THE THRONE is torn from a different cloth and NO CHEATER deserves a break. And if she did harm herself after he destroys her, it will be because of her own actions. I'm sorry, but I don't feel sorry for whatever happens to her. She MURDERED and DESTROYED the family when she did what she did. This is why YOU are sick... YOU can't see what this would do to the children, and their children, and their children..... The Throne needs some help
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 What is wrong with her? She MURDERED this mans emotions and dreams and DESTROYED her family because she wanted penis (I hate having to be P.C. here can we say dick?) The only person she might deserve sympathy from is God (if he even exists.) Bottom line is I don't feel sorry for her and if the worst happens to her so be it. Yes, she is the mother of his kids, and he probably doesn't feel as strongly as I do, but THE THRONE is torn from a different cloth and NO CHEATER deserves a break. And if she did harm herself after he destroys her, it will be because of her own actions. I'm sorry, but I don't feel sorry for whatever happens to her. She MURDERED and DESTROYED the family when she did what she did. As harsh as the throne is, he does have a point. When a woman cheats on a faithful man when he loves her with everything he got. That kills a man straight to his soul.
THE THRONE Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 This is why YOU are sick... YOU can't see what this would do to the children, and their children, and their children..... The Throne needs some help No I CAN see what this would do to their children. Their children would be six times as likely to commit suicide. What YOU don't understand is that she has already MURDERED her family by chasing penis. Guess what her infidelity does? It causes her children to be 5-7 times more likely to end their relationships. Guess what causes more suicide in kids? Family disruption aka divorce.
Trimmer Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 She will be destitute before she knows what is happening, not even get the chance to digest it. Sound like plan? Sounds like a great plan for a guy with no children to get revenge. Sounds like a crappy plan for a child with no idea what's about to happen. And yes, go ahead and tell me that your wife should have thought of her kids, and how she doesn't deserve to be a mother, and how she endangered the kids, etc... And if you've got some actual evidence or supportable concern about her ability to be a loving mother (other than that stemming strictly from your anger), then I may even sway a little to your side as far as custody goes. I can see you wanting to hurt your wife. Are you prepared to hurt your child's mother? I'm not defending your wife's actions for an instant, and in case you question my credentials, I'm a divorcing father, with a wife who cheated once early in our marriage, and who had a new relationship established before she walked away this time, so I know where you're coming from. But in the end, my new, most important role is father to two children. And in thinking clearly about what would be better for them, there's no way I would wish to take their mother away from them, or to leave her destitute, or in any other way impede her ability to be a good mother, which I believe is what is best for them. Don't buy into the whole idea that vengeance provides you nothing but emptyness. For those who at thier very core require respect, this will provide that balance which is required. My objection is not at all about his "right" to vengeance from a personal standpoint, and I wouldn't presume to talk him out of his desire for it on it's own merits. If they were childless, I would have moved on and not even commented on this thread. My question is: what "balance" does his plan offer for the short- and long-term development of their child(ren)? As they say... children are better off coming from a broken home, than being in a broken home! Are children better off with one destitute parent, or with two stable parents who can love them and care for them reasonably well? THE THRONE wants the OP to crush her soul. If she commits suicide after this she is doing a service to humanity, her family and her families future. If you're going to spout gleeful wishes for suicide in a serious thread, at least have the self-respect to speak in the first person for once. Dare to say "I think..."; take responsibility for your opinion, or else stick to threads about horniness and masturbation where "THE THRONE" character is kinda cute. This is serious business; your schtick wears thin at this point. If you had kids - that you loved, anyway - you wouldn't believe that they would be better served by the suicide death of a parent. Betrayed: In the long run, you will find at some point that you are no longer a husband. However you will continue to be a father. Question is: how long will you act as the angry husband before you can let it go and make it stop interfering with your role as good father?
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