Els Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 This is a bit of a puzzle to me. For the past week or so, a few of my dreams have been about other guys in a romantic context(not sexual, though), including and especially my ex. Here, let me stress that I barely think of the ex when I'm awake, let alone fantasize about him in the romantic sense... and I have no contact with him whatsoever as well. I'm not in denial, as far as I can identify -- I would honestly say that should I never hear from him again, I would regret it only so much as I would regret not hearing from an acquaintance from high school or something again. The other guys... I would honestly say that I find them 'attractive', although again not in the sense of desiring them -- merely in the way other women would say that they found such and such a singer or actor 'attractive'. Again they barely cross my mind, although I have a bit of contact with them sometimes. So, why?? One of the reasons I can think of is that over the past month or so, the infatuation over my bf is fading. I don't think it's a bad thing especially given our semi-long distance situation -- in fact, I think it's good that I finally learnt to be less clingy and not only live from phonecall to phonecall, and from visit to visit. We've been together for almost a year now. We still keep in pretty regular contact -- everyday for certain unless either one of us is extremely busy. And I still get that warm, sweet, dreamy feeling when I do think of him, just that I think of him (or rather, yearn for him and commiserate over the distance) less. I don't replace the thoughts of him with thoughts of those other guys as far as I know, but rather with my hobbies and studies. But then why the dreams? Two over the past week was disturbing enough, but three...
spookie Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 You've probably psyched yourself out with the first dream so your brain reacted by sending you more. I know how weird dreams can be, especially ones in which you feel things that you've never felt IRL for certain people... but it's important not to be rational. Dreams are not real. You cannot rely on them to dictate how you feel, what you should be thinking, etc. It sounds like your R is going splendidly. I think the true test of compatibility only comes when the infatuation has worn off, becuase only then can you tell whether or not you've managed to build a foundation with the other person. It sounds like you're successfully progressing into the new stage. Congrats.
Author Els Posted January 28, 2008 Author Posted January 28, 2008 Thanks, spookie. Yeah I too know that they are'nt real but... they can get pretty creepy sometimes. Thanks for putting it in perspective though. So far so good the past two nights.
Recommended Posts