drunk texting: I am an idiot

[klee]

I made a huge fool of myself last night.

 

So, last nite I went out with a girlfriend and got a little buzzed. On the bus ride home, I thought it a swell idea to text this guy that I have been hoping will call me again. (I have posted another thread about him) All I said was "u suck! ;)", which, I know, it is immature and dumb, but I was a little drunk.

 

Well, this pisssssssssed him off as he called me immediately and was yelling at me! He told me to stop calling him and sending him emails. Just forget it. So I hung up on him.

 

OK. So that really pissssssssssssed ME off then, and being drunk I thought it a good idea to call him back. He didn't answer, so I thought it an EVEN BETTER idea to leave a long rambling drunk voicemail. Then, after that, I texted him AGAIN (what is wrong with me?????) basically calling him a douchebag.

 

He texted me back saying to delete his number and good luck to me.

 

SO. I know that any chance of talking to him is out of the

question. In fact, I followed his direction and deleted that number so I can't drunk dial or text him again. And I actually don't want to talk to him at all anymore.

 

My problem is that I am embarrassed. He was my TA last semester and I am super worried that I will run into him in the department some time this semester! I feel like such an a-hole.

 

Anyone else make fool outta themselves? How long am I going to feel like such a moron? I am really beating myself up about this, because instead of leaving well enough alone, I have tainted the memory of a totally awesome experience-both being in his class (he was a super teacher) and the HOT one nite stand. How can I move on from from feeling stupid?

[SpanksTheMonkey]

You don't forget it you move on and learn from it. I did something similar once and it ended a actual R he never even talked to me again.

 

Lesson lernt was no one likes a mouthy or rambling drunk on the phone its just not attractive on so many levels!

[Fun2BMe]

I think you should stop beating yourself about it. If he was a kind person, he would be more understanding. We all know what a fool we can be when we do things drunk, and anyone with a brain would have some compassion towards that person and be understanding or laugh it off, especially a harmless former student who he probably knew had a crush on him.

 

Why don't you change your mindset about it and get a little mad at him after all you did apologize and he was so rude about the whole thing. IF you do pass him in the hallway just turn your head the other way so he doesn't have an opportunity to give you a look or say something to make you feel even worse. Show him that you are hurt by how he responded and just move on and put it all behind you as a learned lesson!! You can only apologize so much to someone that stubborn and jerk-like!!

[Ocean-Blue]

I'd leave it be for now.

 

Let him simmer down. And in the meantime, you can wash away the horror that was your drunk texting.

 

Contact him in a few weeks...apologize for being a silly buzzed bird and see what's up.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

I think you should stop beating yourself about it. If he was a kind person, he would be more understanding. We all know what a fool we can be when we do things drunk, and anyone with a brain would have some compassion towards that person and be understanding or laugh it off, especially a harmless former student who he probably knew had a crush on him.

 

Why don't you change your mindset about it and get a little mad at him after all you did apologize and he was so rude about the whole thing. IF you do pass him in the hallway just turn your head the other way so he doesn't have an opportunity to give you a look or say something to make you feel even worse. Show him that you are hurt by how he responded and just move on and put it all behind you as a learned lesson!! You can only apologize so much to someone that stubborn and jerk-like!!

Um your basically lumbering him with any wrong doing in this situation which in my opinion isn't the way to go. And she will learn nothing from taking that kind of hes just a nasty person attitude.

 

Even the nicest of people tire of drunk ramblings after a while. And no one should have to put up with abuse she text this man out of the clear blue and said he su*ked wheres the validation in that?

 

Saying oh I was drunk is just an excuse for bad behavior. Granted he could have maybe handled it a bit nicer but it was provoked for no apparent reason.

 

Don't beat your self up over it you messed up and as a result that relationship is now over.

 

Don't call him or text him in the future all you can do like I said is take responsibility.

 

So you can learn form your mistakes so you don't make it a habit of repeating them.

 

If you absolutely have to deal with this man in the future offer a sincere apology and keep things to a adult professional level and leave it at that.

[klee]

Um your basically lumbering him with any wrong doing in this situation which in my opinion isn't the way to go. And she will learn nothing from taking that kind of hes just a nasty person attitude.

 

Even the nicest of people tire of drunk ramblings after a while. And no one should have to put up with abuse she text this man out of the clear blue and said he su*ked wheres the validation in that?

 

Saying oh I was drunk is just an excuse for bad behavior. Granted he could have maybe handled it a bit nicer but it was provoked for no apparent reason.

 

Don't beat your self up over it you messed up and as a result that relationship is now over.

 

Don't call him or text him in the future all you can do like I said is take responsibility.

 

So you can learn form your mistakes so you don't make it a habit of repeating them.

 

If you absolutely have to deal with this man in the future offer a sincere apology and keep things to a adult professional level and leave it at that.

 

I have taken responsibility. I deleted his number so I can not make the same mistakes.

 

And yes, I know that saying I was drunk is just an EXCUSE. However, I would like to add that I would not have done that if I was sober. I could not even imagine it. So I suppose you can take the high road again and fault me for drinking beer. I am sure I am the only one that gets drunk and does stupid things.

 

I started this thread so I would feel better, not for you or anyone else to reiterate that YES I MESSED UP. Duh. I feel silly and dumb and was looking for others to make me feel a little better about humiliating myself. But maybe according to you I deserve to feel like shyte? I guess so.

 

And furthermore, I realize that the initial text was out of the clear blue, but he was playing with my emotions a little, and unfortunately, I got sucked in. SO I wouldn't say that he is completely undeserving of my anger, and I think that is what Fun2BeME was hinting at.

[Ariadne]

Hey,

 

I agree with FTBM.

 

That guy was totally uncool. You were being flirty, he could have been nice and talk to you or something.

 

No need to get upset like that, omg, wth?

 

Good thing you got rid of that guy.

 

By the time you see him again it'll be water under the bridge probably and you won't care. You are feeling like this bc it was recent.

[klee]

 

By the time you see him again it'll be water under the bridge probably and you won't care. You are feeling like this bc it was recent.

 

Yeah, you are right. Time heals all wounds...

[Ariadne]

Ladies, this is why we don't sleep with guys without dating them for a few weeks and he is your boyfriend. These type of flings never end well.

 

I had a ONS once and the guy became obsessed with me.

 

Calling and leaving some 7 messages a day, telling me he "loved me" and that he wanted to take me to live with him.

 

I had to tell him in several ways that it was a ONS and I didn't want to date him.

[klee]

So when you slept together, was it made clear that it was a one-night-stand only?

Well, clearly he knew it was and possibly you were hoping you could f**k him into liking you for more than just a one-night thing, after all, you were hoping he would call.

Ladies, this is why we don't sleep with guys without dating them for a few weeks and he is your boyfriend. These type of flings never end well because deep down inside we, as women, want AND deserve more than a one night thing and to be a sperm recepticle.

Sorry, but it's true. You would not be posting very emotionally upset if that were the case and you wouldn't be upset to the point of stalking this man via text and cell phone.

 

Actually it wasn't made clear. He said he wanted to get together when he got back form his trip. He even called me the SAME DAY HE GOT BACK and asked me in a vm when we were gonna hang again.

 

Yes, I liked him. However I would not consider myself STALKING this man. And thank you for calling me a sperm receptacle. I really APPRECIATE that.

 

If I had known that I was going to get flak from this thread, then I certainly wouldn't have posted asking for help on how not to feel DUMB. I guess the insults are free of charge.

[Ariadne]

That's stalking.

 

Everything is stalking for people.

 

Remember, in the good old times people would even bring serenades to women to their balconies.

 

What would that be then?

 

Beware, people that call stalking are jealous and repressed themselves.

[klee]

Everything is stalking for people.

 

Remember, in the good old times people would even bring serenades to women to their balconies.

 

What would that be then?

 

Beware, people that call stalking are jealous and repressed themselves.

 

Good point, Ariadne. Danke.

 

I would love to be serenaded....*sigh*

[klee]

hey, what happened to my buddy, true pisces??? and her posts? hmm....

[Ariadne]

hey, what happened to my buddy, true pisces??? and her posts? hmm....

 

lol.......

[SpanksTheMonkey]

I have taken responsibility. I deleted his number so I can not make the same mistakes.

 

And yes, I know that saying I was drunk is just an EXCUSE. However, I would like to add that I would not have done that if I was sober. I could not even imagine it. So I suppose you can take the high road again and fault me for drinking beer. I am sure I am the only one that gets drunk and does stupid things.

 

I started this thread so I would feel better, not for you or anyone else to reiterate that YES I MESSED UP. Duh. I feel silly and dumb and was looking for others to make me feel a little better about humiliating myself. But maybe according to you I deserve to feel like shyte? I guess so.

 

And furthermore, I realize that the initial text was out of the clear blue, but he was playing with my emotions a little, and unfortunately, I got sucked in. SO I wouldn't say that he is completely undeserving of my anger, and I think that is what Fun2BeME was hinting at.

You came here you asked others opinions I gave you mine I wasn't picking on you or trying to be mean.

 

I was perhaps a bit blunt but respectful with both my 1st posts I was pointing out that you were wrong simple. Drinking is fine having beers is great but harassing others while getting drunk isn't you learned from it great good for you.

 

Doesn't sound like it honestly from your over defensive attitude when some ones says something you don't like to hear but thats your choice not mine.

 

Sorry but I won't blame others for ones own irresponsible behavior if you wanted a I screwd up I just want pity thread.

 

Maybe you should have made that the heading. Now you can call me a mennie as well I don't relay give a hoot!

 

I never said you deserve to feel like s*it I even said don't beat yourself up over it. If you actually stop being so defensive and go back and really read what I wrote.

 

From how you react to some here it sounds like your pretty young how old are you just wondering?

Edited January 27, 2008 by SpanksTheMonkey

[SpanksTheMonkey]

And yes, I know that saying I was drunk is just an EXCUSE. However, I would like to add that I would not have done that if I was sober. I could not even imagine it. So I suppose you can take the high road again and fault me for drinking beer. I am sure I am the only one that gets drunk and does stupid things.

 

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I never took any high road I've made the same type of mistake why would I take a high road? makes no sence. I was only trying to help you learn from it so you can become a better person sorry for that!

 

Just making you feel better for the moment is great I could have just patted you on the back and said its ok don't worry about it sure.

 

But it doesn't help prevent such a mistake from happening again. I'm sorry if you couldn't see my good intentions while you were busy being defensive.

 

Maybe in the future really listen to what people are trying to say even if its unpleasant or not what you want to hear at 1st,

 

Because you can some times grow as a person better that way honestly.

[klee]

You came here you asked others opinions I gave you mine I wasn't picking on you or trying to be mean.

 

I was perhaps a bit blunt but respectful with both my 1st posts I was pointing out that you were wrong simple. Drinking is fine having beers is great but harassing others while getting drunk isn't you learned from it great good for you.

 

Doesn't sound like it honestly from your over defensive attitude when some ones says something you don't like to hear but thats your choice not mine.

 

Sorry but I won't blame others for ones own irresponsible behavior if you wanted a I screwd up I just want pity thread.

 

Maybe you should have made that the heading. Now you can call me a mennie as well I don't relay give a hoot!

 

I never said you deserve to feel like s*it I even said don't beat yourself up over it. If you actually stop being so defensive and go back and really read what I wrote.

 

From how you react to some here it sounds like your pretty young how old are you just wondering?

 

ok, yeah, I was defensive, sorry. I see your point(s).

 

I was looking for support. My fault for using the wrong words. Pity, some would call it then.

[klee]

I never took any high road I've made the same type of mistake why would I take a high road? makes no sence. I was only trying to help you learn from it so you can become a better person sorry for that!

 

Just making you feel better for the moment is great I could have just patted you on the back and said its ok don't worry about it sure.

 

But it doesn't help prevent such a mistake from happening again. I'm sorry if you couldn't see my good intentions while you were busy being defensive.

 

Maybe in the future really listen to what people are trying to say even if its unpleasant or not what you want to hear at 1st,

 

Because you can some times grow as a person better that way honestly.

 

Ok, Ok. Got it. I just posted to admit that I was being defensive.

 

And my age? (I didn't see that question before when I was responding to your previous post.) I'm 28. So...

 

I am crabby today. I will apologize for jumping on your case from before but I am done now.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

ok, yeah, I was defensive, sorry. I see your point(s).

 

I was looking for support. My fault for using the wrong words. Pity, some would call it then.

Ok no prob now whats the deal with this guy? I get the feeling it was a one night thing gone wrong?

 

Was he in some way rude or did he hurt you? What was the actual reason for making the dunk text texting in the 1st place?

 

You suck out of the blue is not all that common there must have been some hurt feelings behind it on your end if you care to share I will listen

[klee]

Thanks for not holding it against me.

 

Yeah, he was my TA last semester. We had the hots for each other, and it was great. He went home for the holidays, and said he wanted to hang out again when he got back. Well, he called me the SAME day he got back, left a vm saying lets hang out, blah blah blah.

 

So, I called him back the next day, we were chatting for a bit, then I asked him when he was free. Ya know, trying to make plans. Well, it got all wierd, and then he ended the phone call, blaming jet lag.

 

I never heard from him again, until after I stupidly sent him an immature drunk text.

 

So, yeah, I feel like he jerked me around a bit. I got pissed, but now that I am looking at it, I am more pissed at myself, because I SHOULD DEFINITELY KNOW BETTER by now.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Thanks for not holding it against me.

 

Yeah, he was my TA last semester. We had the hots for each other, and it was great. He went home for the holidays, and said he wanted to hang out again when he got back. Well, he called me the SAME day he got back, left a vm saying lets hang out, blah blah blah.

 

So, I called him back the next day, we were chatting for a bit, then I asked him when he was free. Ya know, trying to make plans. Well, it got all wierd, and then he ended the phone call, blaming jet lag.

 

I never heard from him again, until after I stupidly sent him an immature drunk text.

 

So, yeah, I feel like he jerked me around a bit. I got pissed, but now that I am looking at it, I am more pissed at myself, because I SHOULD DEFINITELY KNOW BETTER by now.

Again no probs we all make mistakes glad to hear you learned and are feeling better about it now

 

Now so there was no sex involved? If so thats good yea sounds like he was playing around with the idea of taking it further.

 

But then maybe thought better of it being your teacher and all who knowes what makes people do the things they do sometimes.

 

Honestly I know it may have been annoying but it sounds like you dodged an even bigger bullet by him doing that.

 

He doesn't sound like a warm kinda guy and thats never fun to get involved with.

[klee]

oh no, Spanks, there was sex involved.

 

But anyways, I think you are right, that I dodged a bullet with this one. I am definitely better off.

 

Thanks for listening....errrrr, reading(???)