MysticStar Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 It seems that there are times when a friendship fades no matter what you do to try and keep it going. It hurts too when you really want to maintain the friendship, and it fades anyway. I wonder why does it happen? Is it because the other person has gotten bored with the friendship and wants to move on?
BlueEyedGirl Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 I usually change my friends completly every 2-3 years or so. It is always my decision to slowly fade and I feel horrible because I can tell that I am hurting the other person who is trying to hang on. I think that the way I am, I just don't form strong attachments to friends. I never need emotional support from friends as I prefer to keep my problems to myself. Since I never open up, I don't get attached and it's easy for me to walk away. This only goes for intense frienships, I don't mind keeping in touch with casual friends forever. Just as long as they don't require too much of me. But I am really weird and I doubt this is true for most people.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 I think its more life situations change and that in turn has a habit of changing people them selves. Ether the friendships evolve along too or they get left behind most of the time its the latter. I had great very close friends at one point who I now never talk to any more. Not that I got tired of them at all but things change people move on. I don't think its usually personal.
Leia Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 I have the same circle of friends since I was 17 but I have other friends who are an entirely different cliques. It makes my life more colorful! I tend to get bored of going to the same places but not hanging out with the same bunch.
Woggle Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 I have a group of friends from my late teens and early twenties that I will always be loyal to no matter what. I would take a bullet for these people. I have made other friends along the way as well but I will never get bored of the former group.
Pyro Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 It seems that there are times when a friendship fades no matter what you do to try and keep it going. It hurts too when you really want to maintain the friendship, and it fades anyway. I wonder why does it happen? Is it because the other person has gotten bored with the friendship and wants to move on? I wouldn't say bored, but there have been plenty of times where certain friends have gotten on my nerves. Thats when we take a break from hanging out, but its only a temporary thing.
Ariadne Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 It seems that there are times when a friendship fades no matter what you do to try and keep it going. It hurts too when you really want to maintain the friendship, and it fades anyway. I wonder why does it happen? Is it because the other person has gotten bored with the friendship and wants to move on? I never get bored with my friends. I'm very picky with my friends, and when I feel a strong connection I'm friends forever. I still feel connected to people I was friends since hs with and every time I see them, is as if time apart didn't matter. But, I've had a few friends break up with me forever, too. It's strange, but it seems to happen to me. One friend in College got "mad" because I didn't form a group project with her and preferred other people with whom I had other projects going on, and never talked to me again. Despite my trying to make peace several times. Some other friend in junior high, we were all day together, and for some reason she got offended, and didn't talk to me again. Same as others. But I never get offended or dump friends. I get sad when that happens, since I've shared so much with those people. Ariadne
EYECANDY000 Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 Really good friends are hard to come by . so when I do find friends that I connect with then they are a friend for ever. I wouldnt say that i get bored with my friends but i would say that I like my space away from them as well.. Sometimes I just dont want to hear from them for a couple of days.
Tony T Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 I usually change my friends completly every 2-3 years or so. It is always my decision to slowly fade and I feel horrible because I can tell that I am hurting the other person who is trying to hang on. I think that the way I am, I just don't form strong attachments to friends. I never need emotional support from friends as I prefer to keep my problems to myself. Since I never open up, I don't get attached and it's easy for me to walk away. This only goes for intense frienships, I don't mind keeping in touch with casual friends forever. Just as long as they don't require too much of me. But I am really weird and I doubt this is true for most people. I pray with all my heart that I never encounter a "friend" like you. If I do, I would hope they would let me know right off that they dump their good friends every two or three years. GEEZE! I don't think you could consider these people friends if you feel OK with dropping them so casually. Maybe we need a better definition of "friends." Even with that, I think most people would be very reluctant to befriend you given your affinity to recycle people every so often.
Tony T Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 It seems that there are times when a friendship fades no matter what you do to try and keep it going. It hurts too when you really want to maintain the friendship, and it fades anyway. I wonder why does it happen? Is it because the other person has gotten bored with the friendship and wants to move on? Unfortunately, there are times when very sincere people develop friendships with users or people who are simply around in particular situations (such as working together). When situations change, they no longer need the friendship but the sincere person in the friendship wants to continue. Situational friendships, friendships formed because two people have a temporary common bond such as work, school, church, organization, neighborhood, etc. often are only temporary. Some people simply don't know how to be friends. Others were truly sincere but have moved on in their lives and others don't really fit in their new lifestyle or situation. I remember a quote I read one time...it said: "You can never lose a friend...you can only find out who they are." A true friend will stick by you even if you go to prison for murder. How many of those do you think you have around you?
swedishfish Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 I going thru the same thing, granted most of my friends have been for the last six or seven years. We met in a large city we were living in and everyone including me has moved back to our home towns. That in mind, we are all in our 30's of 40's. I do feel that I try to keep in touch more than they do. I send birthday messages or calls, I'm always there for them when they are going thru issues, they use me for a reference etc. It hurts to have my messages or phone calls not returned And I am a very loyal friend, which i think people don't appreciate nowadays. And it amazes me that friends dont communicate. ...thats my little three cents. hang in there....hopes it gets better.
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