xcwbyfanx Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 Let me give you all some background information on me and this girl before we start. We meet back around my freshman year in high school. She went to a different school near by, and we talked some over the internet. I ended up going on a date or two with her younger cousin. It didn't really work out, so we split. I ended up dating her after me and her cousin split. We went on a date or two, then she came to me saying that she felt bad about us being together and that she didn't want her cousin to be mad at her, so we ended up splitting. About 4 years later, my freshman year in college, she shows up in one my classes. We talked and sat by each other. We never really did anything but talk. I was living with my girlfriend of 3 years during this time. Even though I had a girlfriend, my heart still dropped everytime this girl came into the class and sat by me. I told my best friend all about it, and asked him what I should do. I decided that the best thing for me to do was stay with my current girlfriend because I NEVER want cheat on anyone, and I cared about her and she cared about me. The semester ended, and a year and a half went by. During this last year and a half, my girlfriend that I was living with cheated on me, she packed up and left. I was heartbroken. I went into depression for weeks, and for the next few months I had to recover. I never have dated anyone after that. Now to what happened. Last night I came home and sat down at the computer and see that the girl I had a "crush" on(the same one I liked but she wouldn't date me because of her cousin), if thats what you would call it had imed me. I was excited. We talked about what was going on in our lives and college. We are both sophmores in college now. She ended up telling me that her boyfriend of 1.5 years had broken up with her. I decided to hit on her some, and it worked. She asked me how my love life was. I told her I don't have a love life. She responded by saying that she thought all of the good guys were taken. I then told her that it would be nice to go to dinner and a movie this weekend, and she said it sure would. She then gave me her number again, then we went to sleep. What I am trying to figure out if this is a real date or just some friends going out to catch up. I still feel the same way about this girl that I have for years, and I am very nervous. Let me know what you all think. Thanks!
4givrnt4gtr Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 Nervewrecking much??? Hahaha your situation is pretty much what I prayed for throughout my high school and college time. That i somehow, someway would be reunited with my biggest crush back then. Anyhow, congratulations on FINALLY getting a chance to be with this chick. As to whether is a real date or not depends on you my dear, set the tone of the "date". If you treat it as a "cathing up" thing, then thats how she is going to take it. If you make it more like an actual date (ie, be chivalrous, flirt with her etc), well then its a date. Now you also have to keep in mind her vibe. IF at the beginning it feels like she is just friendly, flirt with her a little and see how she responds. If she flirts back, ur good, if not...well...eeek, try one more time. IF she still kinda just "friends" vibe...well thats how she sees it. (although her asking you about your love life etc doesnt sound like thats gonna happen) Anyway, good luck. Im happy that someone gets to live what I always had as a fantasy!
whichwayisup Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 Take it slow, get to know eachother and enjoy! The cousin situation shouldn't be an issue seeing as it was years ago and also only afew dates.
Tantrumboy Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 Hey buddy..COMPLETELY COMPLETELY treat this as a date..dont let the wussy thoughts of 'catching up' or 'friends' get in your head. this to me conveys lack of confidence..which should NOT enter your head as you dont wanna lose this chick. Your time with this your old flame of yours is an amzing opportunity, coz she likes you too and you are taking her out to a date..NOTHING ELSE..NO OTHER SCENARIO EXISTS !!
spookie Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 Hey buddy..COMPLETELY COMPLETELY treat this as a date..dont let the wussy thoughts of 'catching up' or 'friends' get in your head. this to me conveys lack of confidence..which should NOT enter your head as you dont wanna lose this chick. Your time with this your old flame of yours is an amzing opportunity, coz she likes you too and you are taking her out to a date..NOTHING ELSE..NO OTHER SCENARIO EXISTS !! I don't know if I agree. A good relationship is built on a solid friendship, and the best friendships are those where your roots run deep (whether because you have a lot in common despite knowing each other for a short period of time, or because of your history). Why should he discard the fact of his roots with his girl just to appear macho? Some girls dig that kind of thing, but not all... I think she'd be touched if you could bring some nostalgic parts of your shared childhood into the conversation... and work from there. Get to know her for the person she's become.
oppath Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 Spookie, what Tantrumboy is saying is that he needs to flirt with her and create a fun romantic and sexual vibe. There can be some ambiguity about it being a "date" but it's not catching up with an old friend. This is a romantic prospect. That means treating her like she is a romantic prospect, which means he shouldn't keep things too close to the vest. He needs to flirt and make her think sexy thoughts so he has a chance of making sexy time with her.
Author xcwbyfanx Posted January 27, 2008 Author Posted January 27, 2008 So yesterday was the big day. I went to work that morning, and got a text message from her saying that one of the girls at her work had called in sick and she would have to close tonight, so our movie plans went out the door. She didn't end up getting off till 10, but we sent tons of texts of that period of time. I didn't know how to really handle this situation, so I just told her that it was ok stuff like that happens and maybe we can plan for another day or just see each other around school if she doesn't want to. She then told me that she wants to go next Saturday. We texted each other the rest of the night after this. Was wanting to know what you all thought? Do you think she just made that up because she was nervous, or do you think that really happened? At first I thought she was just changing her mind, but then she told me she wanted to go next Saturday so who knows. Let me know!
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