serendip Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 I know I definitely should not contact her to wish her a happy b-day...b/c it leads to more drama ...but a tiny part of me still does want to wish her a happy b-day...but I might give my phone to a friend to hold for tomorrow so that I don't contact her. ...and the money I would have spent on a present for her...had we still been together...I'm gonna spend it on myself....I'm gonna get a haircut, massage...go for a workout and then go for a dinner at a 5 star restaurant and then had to a jazz club afterwards Hopefully I don't do something stupid...like the drunk dial birthday call Part of me wonders what signal I'm sending by not wishing her a happy b-day....hopefully moving on
sandflea Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 I know I definitely should not contact her to wish her a happy b-day...b/c it leads to more drama ...but a tiny part of me still does want to wish her a happy b-day...but I might give my phone to a friend to hold for tomorrow so that I don't contact her. ...and the money I would have spent on a present for her...had we still been together...I'm gonna spend it on myself....I'm gonna get a haircut, massage...go for a workout and then go for a dinner at a 5 star restaurant and then had to a jazz club afterwards Hopefully I don't do something stupid...like the drunk dial birthday call Part of me wonders what signal I'm sending by not wishing her a happy b-day....hopefully moving on OK - that's a very nice sentiment. Now, for the tough stuff. WTF are you thinking! Under NO CIRCUMSTANCES are you to contact her. Yes, go spend that money on yourself.
fabulousgal Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 aw man, days like these are the worst. but i must commend you on your plans to spend that money on yourself!!!!! i like that you aren't gonna brood (ok at least you won't in appearances)...i guess fakin it till you make it. good luck and post here or PM me if you need a pep talk. enjoy YOUR day tomorrow! oh yeah, it does send a "moved on" impression. you rule!
jdeedee Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 If you can handle it I think it is 100% okay to send a card, assuming it is neutral and you two are on decent enough terms. There is nothing wrong with a simple, "Wishing you a happy birthday. -Serendip"
Author serendip Posted January 25, 2008 Author Posted January 25, 2008 I just have to get pass the next couple of weeks...they are the dreaded 'special dates'(her b-day, my b-day, anniversary date) in the post relationship scenario....tomorrow is her B-day. We kind of hooked up 2 years ago on her B-day(we were just friends before since we didn't want to start anything again having broken up 10 yrs ago)...I made her a 3 course meal...gazpacho to start, lobster risotto and chocolate cheese cake with matching wines for each course(I love cooking and good food)...she got really drunk and ended spending the night...she threw up on my bed and I spent the night holding her head and comforting her with a cool towel. She was really embarrassed the next day....and it was awkward driving her home...but we ended up talking about it and we started dating afterwards. Then last yr for her B-day...b/c she had moved to the westcoast for her job(LDR)...I made a scrapbook of all our adventures together with pictures and ticket receipts of concerts, plays and operas we went to...I could have bought her a diamond ring(money doesn't mean much to me) but I thought this was better since I had to put some effort into making this gift....then I ended up buying her a purse also since she told me her purse broke. It's nice memories....too bad all the crap happen btwn us. Don't know if she will think about these things tomorrow. But I know it's best not to contact her...for my own sake...just to break the cycle
Author serendip Posted January 25, 2008 Author Posted January 25, 2008 If you can handle it I think it is 100% okay to send a card, assuming it is neutral and you two are on decent enough terms. There is nothing wrong with a simple, "Wishing you a happy birthday. -Serendip" Umm...dude...not a good idea read this thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t138420/
jdeedee Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Don't know if she will think about these things tomorrow. I guarantee you they will cross her mind. Stay strong man, you know what is best for you. I just had the fun of going through the full holiday cycle, Christmas, New Years, her Birthday. This is also right around when we began dating (we ended it a week after our anniversary). I just had to send a card, it made me feel good. Everyone is different though.
jdeedee Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Umm...dude...not a good idea read this thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t138420/ Oh sorry, I forgot your history -- I had read the thread before. Like I just said, every break up is different, you're doing the right thing not contacting her.
Author serendip Posted January 28, 2008 Author Posted January 28, 2008 It was a great weekend...I didn't contact the ex for her B-day and I feel fine about it(like it doesn't matter...I thought it would affect me more)...and my mind wasn't preoccupied with her. The only strange thing is yesterday..I got a call from a 'private number' around midnight...I was half asleep...I just said 'hello' a couple of times(no response) and then I said 'xxxxx'(the ex's name)...then I hung up. I'm not sure it was her but I think it could be her...no one has ever called me around that time except her...but I'm not sure if she would block her number(set to private) to call me. She's not the type that would do it or know how to. It was just annoying since I was half asleep thinking about a cute girl I met earlier in the day. I met this really cute girl at a group function...she had the cutiest european accent(don't know if it was scandinavian or netherlands)...but it was her smile that lit up everything. I couldn't stop thinking about it last night...don't know if she is seeing someone...hopefully I get a chance to talk to her more if I see her at up and coming events.
jdeedee Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 What is it with the unknown numbers? Third case I've heard of (counting mine)
Author serendip Posted January 28, 2008 Author Posted January 28, 2008 What is it with the unknown numbers? Third case I've heard of (counting mine) Tell me about it. I'm not completely sure it is her(she's not the type to do that) but I can't see who else would be calling me at mightnight on a Sunday...also I didn't contact my ex at all for her B-day on Saturday...so it might have gotten to her...not sure. I did say her name after there was no reply to 'hello' when I answered the phone. It would be ironic if it was her crank calling me considering in December she accused me of calling her with a block caller ID(but it wasn't me)...and she's doing it to me now. I just find it annoying...oh well. I won't bother contacting her....what's the point really.
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