trapper Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 My girlfriend and I have been living together for 2 years. The house is in her and her fathers name. I have contributed 50% of mortgage, bills and renovations. She recently admitted to cheating on me with an ex, and is now depressed and even though I have forgiven her she does not seem to be interested in the relationship anymore. I am considering moving out, but would like some sort of financial settlement for all the time and money contributed to the house. We were planning on selling in sept and moving onto something nicer with the profits. Do I legally have any financial investment owed to me here? thanks... great site by the way. In need of advice...
Author trapper Posted January 25, 2008 Author Posted January 25, 2008 Ps: I am in Ontario Canada. thanks.
michelangelo Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 You've been used as a chump, sorry. With no written agreement you have basically been paying rent. Do you have receipts for the home improvements at least?
sadhubby Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 my soon to be ex wife just told a mutual freind yesterday that when she cheated on me the first time she no longer loved me. she only stayed the next three years becuase she felt she had to try and and had no where to go. i say that to say this in those three years we had passionate sex told each other we loved each other but looking back i see the downward spiral. RUN RUN NOW. i wish i had kiked her ass to the curb she moved out for another man 3 months ago she will do it again you are now a doormatt with no respect in her eyes . i know i am one now too.
sandflea Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 My girlfriend and I have been living together for 2 years. The house is in her and her fathers name. I have contributed 50% of mortgage, bills and renovations. She recently admitted to cheating on me with an ex, and is now depressed and even though I have forgiven her she does not seem to be interested in the relationship anymore. I am considering moving out, but would like some sort of financial settlement for all the time and money contributed to the house. We were planning on selling in sept and moving onto something nicer with the profits. Do I legally have any financial investment owed to me here? thanks... great site by the way. In need of advice... My man, I am sorry, but short of a good lawyer and a sympathetic judge, you are SOL. Id move out, and maybe (just maybe) help myself to something nice. Like her car... Sorry about your situation, but - believe me - you are MUCH better off than if you were married. Imagine her keeping her house, and you paying spousal support. Yeah. Ouch. Good Luck! SF
downthatslide Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 It looks like you may be out of luck on this one. I'm not familiar with laws in Canada either, but unless your name is on something, maybe the mortgage documents or some of the bills, you may not have any grounds for reimbursement. You could of course meet with an attorney and ask them, but if your name is not on anything, you may be stuck. Best luck!
norajane Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 You may want to talk to a lawyer, as the common law marriage laws vary by province. You might qualify as a common law marriage, in which case may actually have some legal rights to financial settlement.
Author trapper Posted January 25, 2008 Author Posted January 25, 2008 thanks for the advice, I have definitely been used. She admitted to cheating on me, I forgave her, and yet now here I am with her going to a psychologist, on my employments coverage and the f**kin shrink telling her she needs to be alone to resolve her issues. What a joke that is, here I am paying into coverage that is working against me. I'm thinking I'll plan to move out without her knowing and then take all of our stuff when she is away....just a revenge thought, two wrongs don't make a right. I'll be sure to sign an agreement next time, and yes I suppose I am better off than if I were married with kids, but still doesn't make it feel any better.
Author trapper Posted January 25, 2008 Author Posted January 25, 2008 [sIZE=3][COLOR=windowtext][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Living together [/FONT][/COLOR][COLOR=windowtext][FONT=Comic Sans MS][/FONT][/COLOR][/sIZE] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=windowtext]I[/COLOR][COLOR=windowtext]f you live with someone without being married, people say you are in a common law relationship or are cohabiting. [/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=windowtext]Property [/COLOR][COLOR=windowtext][/COLOR][/FONT] [COLOR=windowtext][FONT=Arial]Common law couples do not have the same rights as married couples to share the property they bought when they were living together. Usually, furniture, household belongings and other property belong to the person who bought them. Common law couples also do not have the right to divide between them the increase in value of the property they brought with them to the relationship. [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=windowtext][FONT=Arial]If you have contributed to property your spouse owns, you may have a right to part of it. Unless your spouse agrees to pay you back, you will have to go to court to prove your contribution. [/FONT][/COLOR] but am of course afraid of the lawyers fee's associated with proving my involvement. Possibly the threat of lawyers will be enough,???
Confused9 Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 My x and I racked up a ton of debt all in my name because he had bad credit. He left me for OW paid me abou 1/4 of it then stopped. There is nothing I can really do to get that money back. We were together 7 years - lived together for 4 1/2, etc. but unless like they said you have a great lawyer (which is VERY costly) and a sympathetic judge your sh*t out of luck. I went and got a second job. It sucks but I dont' want bad credit.
blind_otter Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Ps: I am in Ontario Canada. thanks. From wikipedia: Ontario In Ontario, the Ontario Family Law Act specifically recognizes common-law spouses in sec. 29, dealing with spousal support issues; the requirements are living together for three years or having a child in common and having "cohabitated in a relationship of some permanence". The three years must be continuous; however a breakup of a few days during the five-year period will not affect a person's status as common law. However, the part that deals with marital property excludes common-law spouses, as sec. 2 defines spouses as those who are married together or who entered into a void or voidable marriage in good faith. Thus common-law partners do not always evenly divide property in a breakup, and the courts have to look to concepts such as the constructive or resulting trust to divide property in an equitable manner between partners. Another difference that distinguishes common-law spouses from married partners is that a common-law partner can be compelled to testify against his or her partner in a court of law. Looks like you're a year short of qualifying for common law marriage. Also, as stated above, the part that deals with marital property excludes common-law spouses. It looks like you're SOL. Sorry dude.
Art_Critic Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Wouldn't you be better served to just move out and chalk that one up to live and learn ?..I know you are hurt and want to strike back.. bu this isn't how you should do that.. If you had broken up with her instead would you still be looking for halfsies ? the reality is that it was her house and not yours.. that is the harsh reality and unless you had some agreement with her in writing then you ought to just forget about it.
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