Confused9 Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 I posted this on 2 other threads but haven't gotten any real response. Hope y'all don't mind that I am posting it here. I am hoping someone can shed some light on what to do. My x is in another state working. Last night at 1 AM I got a text message from a number from that state. It isn't the # he usually calls me from but the only difference is the last 4 digits. So the text said, 'I had an issue with my phone F*CK'. so I text message the # back this morning and get no response. so I then called about 2 hours later and a male picked up. I said, I got a text message from this number last night. He said 'I don't remember text messaging anyone'. I said okay and asked what state he is in and he named the state x fiance is in. I was like okay...well your phone text messaged me last night. He was like, What's your name. I told him my name and he was like, well I don't remember texting you. Now I am millions of miles away. This is too much of a coincedence. There is no way it could be a random thing. Right? Should I text my x and see waht the deal is? Or just let it go???
babes23 Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 I agree with the above post, i too would leave it. If your ex does want to get in touch, then he will.
Author Confused9 Posted January 25, 2008 Author Posted January 25, 2008 I know. I feel like an idiot...I just don't understand him. This is his doing...all of it. He cheated and treated me poorly. He left for the OW. He is the one who keeps contacting me. Every time I move forward...he pushes me back. I am devestated by what he's done but he keeps hurting me. UGH! THAKN YOU!
babes23 Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Could you cut contact at all Confused? Perhaps change your number? That way he can't keep "setting" you back, maybe then you'll have a better chance of moving on from him.
Author Confused9 Posted January 25, 2008 Author Posted January 25, 2008 I could probably change my number...but I really don't want to. But, maybe I will? Part of me still wants him back which is why I care so much. Silly, huh? Other than that...we don't really have contact. He texts me every once in a while. This man is a monster. I really can't evne understand him. It's like...leave me alone! He calls me all kinds of names than plays these darn tricks on me. Has my head spinning and stuff. UGH! This all just happened so fast...it's so hard to let go.
malaclypse Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 This all just happened so fast...it's so hard to let go. Everytime you suffer because of him will make it easier to let go. You are getting there...
Author Confused9 Posted January 25, 2008 Author Posted January 25, 2008 Thanks Malaclypse. For him it was SO easy to let me go...for me...not so much. I still miss him and love him. I never realized he could be such a monster.
babes23 Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Sometimes when you split from a person you get to know the "real them", it's often disappointing and can lead to many unanswered questions. Are you still keeping the number in hope that he will eventually call/text? I know how difficult it is in letting someone go and it seems as if you're doing really well with the no contact, try not to let this set you back!!!
Author Confused9 Posted January 25, 2008 Author Posted January 25, 2008 No..I will probably delete the text later. I mean...if he wanted to talk to me he would call. I guess it's just wishful thinking...that it means something. You know? He has just been so awful this whole time. I know I need to let go...it's just so hard.
babes23 Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 I guess it's just wishful thinking...that it means something. You know? Yep, i totally understand what you mean by this, it's as if he's getting your hopes up then everytime it makes you feel like s*it again. It can be a never-ending circle, you keep going round and round until you finally have enough and decide to step out of that circle. Might sound a cliche, but time really is a great healer, things will get better, you just need to help yourself a little along the way. xx
Author Confused9 Posted January 25, 2008 Author Posted January 25, 2008 Yeah. I just wish he would stop messing with me. It's like...if you don't care...then just GO AWAY!
sandflea Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Yeah. I just wish he would stop messing with me. It's like...if you don't care...then just GO AWAY! That's why it's so important for you to have NC with him. None at all. In a little while, your power will return, and in a little more time you'll wonder why you ever gave him the time of day. Hang in there.
CalamitousJane Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Yeah. I just wish he would stop messing with me. It's like...if you don't care...then just GO AWAY! Just imagine how wonderful it will be to be with a grown up who decides what he wants and communicates clearly and decisively. Man, I'm looking forward to that.
Author Confused9 Posted January 25, 2008 Author Posted January 25, 2008 I promise I will remain NC. I guess I just want to know that he feels bad for what he's done and that he regrets his decision. I guess since he hasn't shown that I am looking for any sign (even VERY minimal) that would show that he does regret something and does miss me. I guess it's just hard to realize her is done. Even after leaving me for OW and telling me he doesn't love me anymore. Gosh, how many more signs do I need?!
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