Repulsion and Attraction

[halfarock]

And it made me wonder. What the heck is it with attraction? Why do you think we are attracted to the people we are attracted to? Most of the men I've found incredibly hot wouldn't fall under the "conventional" hot category. Why is that?

 

My ex was "conventionally" hot. But I did not find him attractive. Sure, there were moments, but that was it.

 

I read somewhere that you are attracted to those with similar mannerisms and facial features as the members of your family (or of the people you grew up with).

 

Do you think it's true? Do you think attraction is this inexplicable, chemical thing that just happens?

 

I always think about this attraction thing. Like with my girlfriend, I think that she is pretty and all but there is just something about her that greatly attracts me to her like no other and I really can’t just point to something and say that is it. It is almost like magic and I’m sure it was there from the first moment I met her and it only grows.

 

It is more than just an attraction as was also the case with my previous girlfriend. It is like I am most attracted to those women with whom I am most compatible even before I know or can know the compatibility that we have.

 

 

 

 

(2) Once you catch a "one-of-a-kind" type of man packaged with high standards, good looks, strong moral background, it is almost utterly difficult to become accustomed to "regular" or "normal" men, again. It is as though, you have hit a new level, and you don't want to step down from the pedestal.

This is the way I’ve come to feel about women.

[monkey5]

I'm always attracted to the musician type (long messy hair, a bit scruffy, and not too skinny/fat-muscular, creative)...I guess creative types are attracted to other creative types.

 

my family is very musical...so maybe that's why.

 

My best friend and I never agree on guys. if I find him attractive, she'll be disgusted by him...and I the same. She always goes after the tall,skinny,nerdy types...

[shadowplay]

How about short, slender shouldereed with long eyelashes and small, delicate hands like a pianist

pianists have large hands.

[Blue Eyed Brain]

Have you ever been attracted to someone who later repulsed you?

 

I have one of those.

 

 

Yes, and it's very sad.

[shadowplay]

In terms of physical appearance for me it's tall (6'+), slim/athletic build, white guys with broad shoulders, large, intelligent eyes, dark brows, full lower lips and overall boyish faces. Hair color isn't so important but generally I prefer black.

 

Character traits -- Smart, funny, outgoing, independent minded, idealistic, spontaneous, slightly innocent but not naive, reflective, artistic, musical, cultured, well-read, ambitious, protective, likes kids.

 

My Frankenboyfriend -- Julian Casablancas eyes and coloring, Christian bale bone structure and mouth, Ryan Gosling nose, Josh Hartnett body. With the talent of James Joyce and the sensuality of Marlon Brando. He grew up in poverty and worked his way up in the world. He writes for the Atlantic Monthly, makes short films on the side, and owns a kick-ass loft in NY, but he's not and never will be a yuppie. He's a free thinker, and he wants to change the world. And he loves cats. :love:

Edited January 29, 2008 by shadowplay

[New_Life08]

I know what you mean about being attracted to men who wouldn't be on any GQ cover in this lifetime. lol It's strange how we can see a man and not be attracted to their facial looks, but find something sexy, like for the most part they're physically fit. Then as you get to know their personality they can either become uglier or the imperfections fade and they seem the hottest thing alive

 

 

I honestly think for most of us as human beings the beauty really does lie in the soul. But, for me it seems there has to be a certain something that attracts my attention in the first place.

[JerseyShortie]

Yeah, I have also been attracted to men that were not stereotypically handsome. And been unattracted to men were were stereotypically handsome. Thank God nature lets that happen lol.