Cobra_X30 Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Just a point - there is a difference between treating a girl like s**t and being harsh with her!!! If a guy treated me like s**t he wouldnt see me for dust - but if he was harsh (or firm, maybe) with me at moments that warranted that behaviour, then great - I'd respect him for it (because otherwise I can get quite princess-y, because I am used to getting my own way! I think its just personality types that match.... Well, I'm with Woggle on this one. I have no problem calling a woman out when she is being unreasonable. However, if I see to much 'princess-y' behavior. I'm going to dump her. Why bother with someone who is immature and cant handle themselves? Because seriously... Type A women just are not worth the fight.
alyyyhsa Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Haha she sounds like me. Oops... Yeah, I'm sure that really helped you with your problem. Anyway, I guess if this were how my boyfriend were feeling, which is very possible, I think what would make the biggest statement would be for him to NOT let me get away with things I'm used to getting away with. May be hard to say no to the puppy eyes, but putting your foot down would ultimately say more about you than if you just let this continue. Then you have to decide if her pretty face is worth the trouble.
sandflea Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 *claps* Ocean-Blue, you've got it bang on. People get away with whatever they can. It's typical human behaviour, regardless of looks. The more you empower someone who displays disrespectful behaviour towards you, the more they're going to push the line until they've crossed it. YES! This is exactly what happens. That old cliche - "be yourself" - is so important because of situations like these. This is also the type of girl that will, after you dump her, date your room mates, go to your favorite bar or coffee shop and flirt up another guy in front of you, and in general try to make your life hell. Fact is, it sounds like you don't respect her a bit - and if she really is the bore you describe, I wouldn't either. There are TONS of very pretty people in the world who just aren't very nice on the inside. Sounds like you found one. Make room in your life for someone with more character. SF
torranceshipman Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Lol I am with Alyssha! Thing is, Sandflea, if a girl acts this way, it doesnt mean we are all lacking character or arent 'nice on the inside'- it means we are who we are, and we are respectful sweethearts to the RIGHT guy, but very dfficult to the wrong guy....simple as that.
alyyyhsa Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Why in the world would you even be with the "wrong guy" in the first place if you know he's wrong for you? That, my friend, is a question that deserves an entirely new thread...
ahah2322 Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 people like these normally are not aware that they are 'manipulating' others. it is subconscious. manipulation entails evil intention. it is subconscious because people all around us have facilitated and tolerated such behaviour and hence it's second nature. this is why explanation of the impact of such behaviour is neccessary. yes stud, he has given me multiple ultimatums. till now, i'm still trying to correct such behaviour. i am more aware and conscious. tho i still slip back subconsciously at times... but she has to want to change for you. and standing your ground will make you seem more attractive. of course, don't ever be unreasonable. NEVER. always explain yourself.. or you will be seen as a no-good jack***
mental_traveller Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 This one is easy - just treat her like you would a fat ugly chick.
bones1 Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I have been seeing a girl that is very attractive, and also an only child with a wealthy father..She gets a lot of male attention, her dad does everything for her etc. She exhibits much of the same behavior. Sometimes we will be out, and she will just say something very rude.. She will change times that we meet. She will mention other men to make me jealous.. In my opinion, much of this behavior comes from her insecurity. When she acts like this, I leave, or end the date.. It is amazing how the power shifts. She then chases me, begging, apologizing, actually almost frantically. Once this happens,and she is begging, she is no longer that attractive in my eyes.. Which might explain how she sees a weak guy as being unnattractive. Perhaps strong people are simply more attractive. I think these women know exactly what they are saying and doing, and they know it is rude. Perhaps they just want to be put in their place.
Jersey Shortie Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 People don't typically change their behavior unless 1) The really want to and 2) Something major and dramatic happens to them. 1) It doesn't really sound like she is very sincere currently. You are still giving her what she most wants: attention. Which leads me into two... 2) She doesn't have to change her behavior because she is still getting what she wants. Maybe this touches a sore point with me because I don't generally have men catering to my every whim..guess I am not pretty enough.... but if you are catering to the girl because she is "pretty", you deserve exactly what you get. And what you seem to be getting is a vapid, selfish, insensitive woman.
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