The Studmuffin Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 so i've been going out with this girl for about three months. i knew already before that she was the disorganized type, late for her appointments and not the most to-be-counted-one person. but now it's surprising me how far she can go in actually being inconsiderate and just acting like she's the only one that matters, changing her mind about meeting me later in the evening and being REALLY late or saying things that a reasonably sensitive person wouldn't say in a certain scenario (like when in bed, saying that she needs a few days alone to study and concentrate, but saying it extremely uncarefully.. like i pretty much don't want to see you for a week cuz you make me deconcentrated). so, the day after i tell her she did something that bugged me, she thinks everything will be ok if she just says "i'm really sorry" and just wants to kiss and make up. and i don't actually see a decent effort to understand what i'm saying, and not shred of remorse. now i've met this type of girl before, the pretty and sexy one that knows she is, and she's gotten into the habit of getting her way with people (especially men), and even to the point of manipulating them and walking all over them... but right now it's surprising me how far she's going. i'm wondering when she's going to really take me into account, and put herself in my place... you know, that little thing called empathy... what do you think? any similar experience with this type of princesses? and advice? (right now i'm not really talking to her. yesterday i told her kissing and making up wasn't enough, i couldn't just keep on forgiving her. she needs to really think about her actions and words before she says or does them. so i'm trying to see if she'll come around if she really feels that she might lose me if she does it again. i mean, all i want is to be taken into the account... for her to be a little bit considerate of me and my feelings. and not take me for granted.)
Ocean-Blue Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 so i've been going out with this girl for about three months. i knew already before that she was the disorganized type, late for her appointments and not the most to-be-counted-one person. but now it's surprising me how far she can go in actually being inconsiderate and just acting like she's the only one that matters, changing her mind about meeting me later in the evening and being REALLY late or saying things that a reasonably sensitive person wouldn't say in a certain scenario (like when in bed, saying that she needs a few days alone to study and concentrate, but saying it extremely uncarefully.. like i pretty much don't want to see you for a week cuz you make me deconcentrated). so, the day after i tell her she did something that bugged me, she thinks everything will be ok if she just says "i'm really sorry" and just wants to kiss and make up. and i don't actually see a decent effort to understand what i'm saying, and not shred of remorse. now i've met this type of girl before, the pretty and sexy one that knows she is, and she's gotten into the habit of getting her way with people (especially men), and even to the point of manipulating them and walking all over them... but right now it's surprising me how far she's going. i'm wondering when she's going to really take me into account, and put herself in my place... you know, that little thing called empathy... what do you think? any similar experience with this type of princesses? and advice? (right now i'm not really talking to her. yesterday i told her kissing and making up wasn't enough, i couldn't just keep on forgiving her. she needs to really think about her actions and words before she says or does them. so i'm trying to see if she'll come around if she really feels that she might lose me if she does it again. i mean, all i want is to be taken into the account... for her to be a little bit considerate of me and my feelings. and not take me for granted.) But why are you with her? You've reduced her to a one dimensional character...all she is a pretty girl to you? You seem to suggest that she should be praising the mighty heavens for having the chance to be with you. If there’s a problem, address it! Attributing your communication or R issues to her being pretty is immature. Too many men use this excuse to justify their own asinine behaviour! And if you don't like this type of woman with this kind of "syndrome" then don't date them. Leave them alone and walk the heck away.
Cobra_X30 Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 right now i'm not really talking to her. yesterday i told her kissing and making up wasn't enough, i couldn't just keep on forgiving her. she needs to really think about her actions and words before she says or does them. so i'm trying to see if she'll come around if she really feels that she might lose me if she does it again. i mean, all i want is to be taken into the account... for her to be a little bit considerate of me and my feelings. and not take me for granted. I think your on the right track! If she doesnt get it soon... she never will. Just make sure your giving her the same consideration and courtesy that you are expecting from her!
EYECANDY000 Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Ahhhhhh the pretty girl syndrone, nothing like it. I think you need to drop this girl. The only thing that you said positive about this girl is that she is pretty. Honestly I think the only way for her to come around is for you to treat her like crap. And I doubt thats what you want to do
SeraBella Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 I have a friend like this, and I have to say she's never changed. She's getting married in less than a month..she just found a guy who will put up with it. She has been expecting everyone to drop their lives to worship her for the last 2 months just because she's getting married. She doesn't just act like this with guys, she acts like it with EVERYONE...friends, coworkers, family, etc. It's possible, but highly unlikely, that she will ever change. You sound like you want something different and you should look for that. Why are you with her? Because of looks? You haven't mentioned anything except negative things about her personality, so that's what I am assuming. If you want the arm candy that she is, deal with it. If you want more than that, leave. Find a girl who's pretty and respects you.
norajane Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Pretty girls get away with it because guys let them. The guys don't break up with them, they keep dating them, no matter what she does. You're still with her, aren't you?
burning 4 revenge Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Pretty girls get away with it because guys let them. The guys don't break up with them, they keep dating them, no matter what she does. You're still with her, aren't you? but theyre so hot.....
Trialbyfire Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 But why are you with her? You've reduced her to a one dimensional character...all she is a pretty girl to you? You seem to suggest that she should be praising the mighty heavens for having the chance to be with you. If there’s a problem, address it! Attributing your communication or R issues to her being pretty is immature. Too many men use this excuse to justify their own asinine behaviour! And if you don't like this type of woman with this kind of "syndrome" then don't date them. Leave them alone and walk the heck away. *claps* Ocean-Blue, you've got it bang on. People get away with whatever they can. It's typical human behaviour, regardless of looks. The more you empower someone who displays disrespectful behaviour towards you, the more they're going to push the line until they've crossed it.
Pyro Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Pretty girls get away with it because guys let them. The guys don't break up with them, they keep dating them, no matter what she does. You're still with her, aren't you? Its because guys would rather have a trophy GF, someone who they can show off to other guys in hope of all guys becoming envious of him.
norajane Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 but theyre so hot..... Isn't there a phrase, 'for every hot woman, there's some guy who's sick of banging her' or something like that?
EYECANDY000 Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 but theyre so hot..... lol ...............................................Wowzers!!!!
norajane Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Its because guys would rather have a trophy GF, someone who they can show off to other guys in hope of all guys becoming envious of him. Fortunately, not all guys.
Pyro Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Fortunately, not all guys. You are correct. You should know by now that I only speak in general terms. I wasn't generalizing.
norajane Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 You are correct. You should know by now that I only speak in general terms. I wasn't generalizing. I do know! I just wanted to give thanks for the genuine guys out there.
Ocean-Blue Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 *claps* Ocean-Blue, you've got it bang on. People get away with whatever they can. It's typical human behaviour, regardless of looks. The more you empower someone who displays disrespectful behaviour towards you, the more they're going to push the line until they've crossed it. Thank you TBF. I'm honestly sick of hearing some men paint their SOs as selfish, vain, and "princessess". There is no freakin' such thing. We are ALL people with layers. You make her sound flat, like a freakin' doll that you've been parading around. SHE IS A PERSON. Believe it or not. OP... You come on here and tell us that she doesn't listen, she does what she wants, etc... And yet, all you've told us about her is that she is "hot" and that you think she is the way she is b/c of her looks. You've pretty much made your mind about why she is the way she is...so what do you expect from her. You really think she's oblivious to all of this? If she is SUCH a spoilt brat, LEAVE HER! Leave her the hell alone instead being some kind of solider of love and trudging on... And I sure you, there is more to her than you think. If you actually took the time and listened, instead of approaching her with this attitude, she might actually surprise you. And don't "put up" with her...don't do the girl any favours. Either talk to her and figure it out or LEAVE.
burning 4 revenge Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 I know Ive let good looking women take everything I had. Which was never much. But still everything I had
Pyro Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 I know Ive let good looking women take everything I had. Which was never much. But still everything I had and did you learn your lesson from it?
Mustang Sally Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 I know Ive let good looking women take everything I had. Which was never much. But still everything I had Well...of course. It was the only way you could get them to sleep with you... OP - If you think she's such a problem because of her looks, then move on, already.
burning 4 revenge Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 and did you learn your lesson from it?but theyre so hot...........
Pyro Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 (edited) but theyre so hot........... Well I advise you to stay away from that type. You need someone a little more your style. May I recommend a cute Lesbian Asian waitress instead? Or even a Southern woman who loves politics and has a dream to one day be the President? Edited January 25, 2008 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
burning 4 revenge Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Well I advise you to stay away from that type. You need someone a little more your style. May I recommend a cute Lesbian Asian waitress instead?BO isnt a lesbian anymore
Pyro Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 BO isnt a lesbian anymore :lmao: I thought you were interested in some lesbian waitress. What about a Southern woman who loves politics and has a dream to one day become US President?
oppath Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 I am guilty of this as well. I've let some women walk all over me. Some of it has been because of inexperience. Some of it has been "but she's so cute." I think I have learned my lessons. We'll see if I put them into practice.
Pyro Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 I am guilty of this as well. I've let some women walk all over me. Some of it has been because of inexperience. Some of it has been "but she's so cute." I think I have learned my lessons. We'll see if I put them into practice. I was guilty too of this and I was inexperienced as well, but I learned from it and if I can then anyone can.
Trialbyfire Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Thank you TBF. I'm honestly sick of hearing some men paint their SOs as selfish, vain, and "princessess". There is no freakin' such thing. We are ALL people with layers. You make her sound flat, like a freakin' doll that you've been parading around. SHE IS A PERSON. Believe it or not. OP... You come on here and tell us that she doesn't listen, she does what she wants, etc... And yet, all you've told us about her is that she is "hot" and that you think she is the way she is b/c of her looks. You've pretty much made your mind about why she is the way she is...so what do you expect from her. You really think she's oblivious to all of this? If she is SUCH a spoilt brat, LEAVE HER! Leave her the hell alone instead being some kind of solider of love and trudging on... And I sure you, there is more to her than you think. If you actually took the time and listened, instead of approaching her with this attitude, she might actually surprise you. And don't "put up" with her...don't do the girl any favours. Either talk to her and figure it out or LEAVE. Maybe this is it. That's all he wants is arm-trophy and ends up not bothering to find out who she really is underneath it all. You get what you pay for...
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