richardcruz Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Hello all..Tomorrow will be day 15 of NC for me , and in all honesty its been absolute hell. My bday came and went and I didn't even as receive a text from her. Every night I keep my phone close in the unlikely event that she'll call me. Every single day has been a complete struggle; everday I fight myself to keep from calling her. Today was especially bad. I was thinking about going to her house and just seeing her in person. Last time I saw her was early December. I think to myself that maybe if she sees me in person, her feelings for me will come rushing back. In my mind if feel like I have to do this and that this will bring her back. It feels like the right thing to do. It almost feels like something I have to do. Something inside me tells me "if you want your girl, go get her, bring her back." I was also thinking about sending her a text that read like this: 'Hey _________. I hope everything has been going well. I wanted to sit down and have lunch with you but I don't know what your schedule is like.' If I see her in person I just want to tell her that I miss her plain and simple. I don't wanna beg her or ask her to come back. But then again I don't know if my judgement is just being clouded with my lingering feelings for her. My friends say "How clear does she need to make it to you that she doesnt want you in her life. She's hung up on you when you were tearing up, and she didn't take the time of day to tell you happy bday. She treats you like crap. Someone being mean to you equals leave that person alone!!" In the past when she has left me, I've always been able to bring her back. But things have never gotten to this point. I really want her back, but then again I know its not fair that she has treated me like complete crap. I know its not fair to me but I just don't care. What If I just take this one chance and somehow someway I can bring her back and slowly get back to the point were she is back in my life and I can hold her in my arms again. What if I can go back to the place where I was once happy again.
Summer_guy_uk Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 If you turn up at her house you will appear needy and stalkerish and it will push her away and pretty much crush any chance you guys have of gettign back together. Start dating, sort your **** out, work out etc and get out and socialise. If she bumps into you and see's you happy, having fun surrounded by people she will feel like she's missing out. You need to demonstrate a higher value of yourself. If you try and talk to her/break NC, she will just make fun of you to her friends for being pathetic. It's harsh man, been through something similar myself but now i've toned up, got a new better payed job, started dating a few girls and now my ex is always trying to get me out. In fact I have a date with her tonight, and she's really keen to come back to mine to watch a DVD so you know. Be strong man. Remember: Nobody needs the needy.
Author richardcruz Posted January 24, 2008 Author Posted January 24, 2008 if your not familiar with my story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t141326/
Blue Eyed Brain Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 She's too young for you and wants to move on. Try to find someone around your age (8 years in your 20's is a big difference). You will mind more happiness and compatibility with someone closer in your age.
82knightrider Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Do not approach her until you are genuinly happy about life. Stay away from her.The more you stay away and more you improve yourself chances are greater in reuniting in leau (sp) of " showing up at her doorstep " or "text her "
D-Lish Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Don't go to her house.... no matter what. SHe has said she doesn't want to be in the relationship- and you have to respect that.... you have to. If you show up- I am pretty positive you'll piss her off.
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