two_to_chose Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Helllooo. So, I started dating this guy "Dave," and I realllllly like him. Dave is so hot, sweet, fun, smart - the whole package. A few weeks after we first met, I meet another guy - "Josh." Josh lives out of town but visits my town every so often to see his family and he said he'd like to move back here. So I'm bummed, but figure maybe someday he'll move here and I can date him. So, over the next month, I am seeing lots of Dave, Dave and I start having incredible sex, and then he says he wants to be exclusive and be my boyfriend. I'm thrilled. Meanwhile, Josh and I had been chatting a lot on the phone, and then Josh drops the bomb - he wants to be my boyfriend, he's coming to town in a few days and he's moving here in a few weeks for work. OMG!!!!! What do I do???? I told Josh I am seeing someone else and that I cannot be more than friends right now (I didnt use the "boyfriend" word, but he should have gotten the message). So, Josh just says "OK, see you soon, can't wait to kiss you, hold you, do anything for you, you are so special I like you more than any girl I ever met in my life and all I want to do is make you happy, blah blah blah." Oh, and he wants to come back to town AGAIN, before he even moves here, to take me out Valentine's Day - when I will be having a romantic dinner, etc. with my BOYFRIEND Dave. I don't know what to do - I think I have to tell Josh very firmly, again, that I have a boyfriend and we absolutely cannot date right now, but I feel so bad doing it, especially considering that he is nicer and better looking than my BF Dave. He might be the best looking and sweetest guy I ever met in my whole life! Total husband material. On the other hand, if I tell Dave I met someone else and want to see other people, he would probably get mad, think I'm a B*TCH and dump me for cheating on him, and really Dave hasn't done anything to make me want to dump him. Everything has been fantastic with him - he's a great guy! I really like him a lot. Help me!!!! What do I do?
Summer_guy_uk Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 What are you looking for in a relationship right now? I think Dave may be a nice guy and thats turning you off a bit, whilst Josh represents this exciting and hot alternative. Chances are if Josh is really that good looking and is telling you all these things you want to hear, he's just looking for some ass. I could be wrong though. This is something you have to decide for yourself, if you leave Dave and get with Josh, Dave won't want you back and if Josh turns out to be playing you, you'll be more miserable then you ever thought you could be. Good luck.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Hmmm, I've had this problem and it always seems that you make the right short term decision but end up making the wrong decision. Tell Josh that you have a date for February 14th (with Dave) and that you want to continue a friendship with him (tell Dave that you have this friendship with Dave). This will allow you to keep a platonic alliance with Josh while giving Dave all of your attention.
Trialbyfire Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 I don't know what to do - I think I have to tell Josh very firmly, again, that I have a boyfriend This is a very easy choice. Poachers tend to be players. Stick with Dave.
Freddy Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 I agree stick with Dave, otherwise your going to be sorry.
cant let go Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 well...whichever you choose... you can go ahead and send the other my way
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