jdeedee Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 My best friend, roommate, brother, whatever you want to call him has consistently been an issue in my romantic relationships since the get-go. I've known the kid since he was five and I have a feeling of obligation to him but lately I've been a bit angry at him. I've kind of internalized the anger but being around him I get frustrated and upset a lot. It doesn't help that he's pretty much my only friend right now. Anyway he is hard to get along with sometimes, very harsh and people tend to look for his approval which he doesn't give. My most recent ex really had a battle of wits with him over time spent with me, etc. Now that I am broken up with her I am kind of upset with him, he didn't actually break us up but he was a constant nag in my ear about her. He never likes my girlfriends. I just don't know, I feel like I'm having a falling out about him. He is my best and kind of only friend but I have zero desire to be around him a lot of the time right now. He speaks harshly about me without my asking, I don't want his input on my life right now but I'm in a situation where I am living in his house rent and scott free, I feel ungrateful at times.
Ronni_W Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Possibly you're projecting some self-anger (guilt) onto him -- about your break-up and also about your own lack of assertiveness with him??? Maybe your therapist can help you see all the dynamics that are at play.
Leia Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Yip, I think this should be discussed with your therapist. Maybe he's just looking out for you.... sometimes outsiders can see better of the relationships... 'specially good/best friends.
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