ElleVado Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 (edited) [COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]We were together 7 years and have been broken up only 4 days. He was so quick our relationship. It felt like it came out of nowhere and I thought our relationship was completely over forever. I still haven’t responded to him and don’t know what to do or say![/FONT][/COLOR] I’m not sure if I should be starting a new thread or continue with the old. I was hurt and angry before and it felt great venting and hearing from others, I need help now more then ever. I’ll copy and paste the reason for the breakup from my first post – He said it was time for us to let each other go. That he loves me more then anything in the world, but doesn’t want to hurt me anymore. That he knows I want more in a relationship then he is ready for. That he’s afraid he’s going to hurt me and he doesn’t want to do that. That part of him wants to settle down, but the other part of him wants go out and enjoy being single. – The breakup was only 4 days ago. He called last night and continued to contact me throughout the day, but I didn’t pick up or respond. Tonight he was supposed to be dropping off my stuff. I picked up my phone to let him know that I wouldn’t see him, and to just leave my stuff at the door. He said he was on his way home. I questioned why he didn’t come by to return my stuff. He replied that he was really hoping he could come over to see me tomorrow night. That he has a migraine and has been sick to his stomach since the breakup. That he has done so much thinking all day and night since. That if there was one thing he could take back in his whole life, it would be breaking up with me. That he wishes to see me so we can sit down and talk about everything. He sounded sweet and upset at the same time. I stopped before he could say anything more. I declined, said I have plans, and then rushed to get off the phone. I didn’t know what to do or say because I wasn’t expecting for him to ever say this! I love him so much and wanted more then anything to spend the rest of my life with him. Since the breakup, I have been feeling awful. Not just about our relationship ending, but seeing that during our relationship, especially lately, I had been pushing on the subject of us settling down way too much. I don’t want to make up excuses for him, but I realize and admit what I did wrong in our relationship. If somebody ever pushed me and talked too often about something I wasn’t ready for, I’m sure I would have run for the hills too! Was he too overwhelmed and panicked? Or could it have been something else. We have been together so long, but I’m still young so I don’t know what my rush was. There are so many thoughts running through my mind. Is this our chance? Does this ever happen? Is it possible that he sincerely regrets ending our relationship? Would I be foolish to consider giving this another chance? Should I sit down and hear him out? Or just pretend he never said this, do full NC, and work on getting over him. Maybe I should just listen to what he has to say and then take time completely away from him for myself. I don’t know what to do! Maybe the breakup was to show me how badly I was pushing him and what a mistake it was. Maybe it was because we aren’t meant to be. I a clueless to what I should do! I really appreciate any and all feelings, beliefs, advice, opinions… anything about this situation. Edited January 24, 2008 by ElleVado
Racquel Colette Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 (edited) The only way you should take him back is if he brings a ring....an engagement ring and proposes on bended knee. Then, make sure you set a date that night. No messing around here. If he offers you any less than that, just say no. What you did was not wrong. You are with a guy for 7 years, you get engaged or you cut bait and fish elsewhere. Forget this loser if he doesn't come through with a proposal. Edited January 24, 2008 by Racquel Colette
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