I miss my ex so bad and want him back and so do our 3 young children

[polly240483]

I was with my ex for 4 and a half years, we have 1 daughter together but i also have 2 older daughters from a previous relationship.

Basically me n my ex split up 8 months ago, he left me for a younger girl who happens to live in the same cul de sac as me.

He left me because i punched him in the face 1 night when we was in a club as he was flirting n buying a drink for the girl he is with now who he cheated on me with 2 yrs b4 we split up ( when i was at the hospital with my grandad as he passed away) in front of my face.

Thing is a when we split up he said some real nasty things that he never loved me and that he hates me etc.. but leaving me for this girl shattered my heart, i cried for 3 months solid, i turned to drink to try to block it out but as i nearly lost my family due to it i realised i had to stop which i did.

It would of been mine n My ex's 5th anniversary of being together yesterday (23rd) but the last 2 months i have realised no matter how much he has hurt me i love him and i would do anything to get him back, but obviously i dont know what to do.

i have recently started to cry again about it and i can still feel the pain i felt when he left me.

Our children miss him and they ask me to ask daddy to come back home and it hurts me.

has anyone got any ideas or anything to try and help me get him back or get through this? ? ?

thanx

p.s sorry it took so long to explain and thank you for reading

Edited January 24, 2008 by polly240483

[smileysmile]

Firstly sorry for your situation.

 

But..why do you want him back?

 

Are you naturally a confident person?

Is it because you are afraid of being alone?

Would you find it hard to find another deserving man?

 

I am just curious.

 

I think women come from different molds. Some in your situation would stay strong and move on. They think in black and white. Even if they still loved them after all that he has done they wouldn't tolerate this behaviour and no second chances even if he came back on hands and knees begging for forgiveness. Others would not welcome the thought of being alone.

They are less confident and I guess weaker. Less strong and gullible I guess. Just curious as what it takes to finally break the camels back for leaving your spouse and never giving them hope for a reconcilation.

[ElvenPriestess]

Even if somehow you got him back, which I disagree with, you know there's a big chance he'd do the same thing. And your children would have to go through that all over again. That's not fair to any of you.

 

As the last post also asked, I will too. Why do you want him back? I understand the desire to keep the family together, but it would only be hurtful. What he's done is show you nothing matters to him, not you, not the family, and you need to realize this.

 

I know you're hurting, I am truly sorry. The pain is not something anyone should have to endure. But the fact remains he is the way he is, and now it's time to live your life for you and your children. Be the mother they deserve, even if he isn't being the person he should.

[polly240483]

Hi thank you for commenting, i completely agree with what has been said and my reply to it all is i love him truly, i am a confident person and wouldnt find it hard to find someone else but i dont want anyone else, i know it sounds stupid but iv tried to move on, iv dated a couple of guys but i just cant do it, its not what i want, i want my man back, the father of my daughter, the man that brought all 3 of my children up with me.

Me and him both have done some silly things, hurtful things, things that should never of happened but we was right for each other, i believe that we are made for each other, i dont know why he did the things he did, apparently i was having an affair behind his back, which i was not, but in fact cheated once when we split up once before. which i am not proud of 1 bit.

My head is a complete mess as i have my heart set on getting him back i know i must be stupid but he completes me, i miss him so much i really do.

[polly240483]

P.S forgot to say, also im not afraid of bein lonely or on my own as such.

i just want him home.