undiscovered Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 (edited) I met this guy, and we went out for about a month before we had to go our separate ways for three months, during which time we had limited communication as mainly dictated by him - he just didn't make the effort to reply to my messages very quickly, and doesn't like speaking on the phone, so..! When we were back in the same area again after these few months, he made no effort to contact me so eventually I asked him what was going on, and he came over and said he didn't care about me enough, so that was the end of that...and we didn't speak for about a month (maybe a bit more), until he broke the ice between us on a night out (we have mutual friends) and it was fine, we got on well. Since then we have seen each other on the occasional night out although just before Christmas things went a bit weird, from my point of view, because he was always with other girls (I now don't think he had any intention of getting with them, but it still hurt to see him flirting with girls because I'd never known him to be like that). Anyway, that's just a bit of context I guess. The other day I was out and saw him and after a night of watching his every move, I eventually went up to talk to him. First of all he asked why me and my friends always follow him and his friends around (we don't do it on purpose, we like the same places and one of our mutual friends, his housemate, introduced us to this place and we like it so we keep going). Cheekily, I asked him to buy me a drink and he sort-of reluctantly did so, whilst saying he had wasted so much money on me in the past and I really HAD to buy him a drink next time or pay him back. Fair enough, but why did he say he'd wasted so much money on me? He then went on to criticise the girl standing next to me for being 'fat' and also, and I can't remember why, called me a cow and a bitch! I was I could remember what context it was in, but I asked him why he was being so rude and he said he could be a lot ruder (!) and kept sticking his fingers up at me, etc. I left the club with one of my friends and one of his housemates and went back to his house. Later when he came back he came and sat with us and starting throwing cushions at me, so I threw them back...why did he do this? It could actually have been out of hate. Also, I went to his room whilst he was watching a film and he wouldn't let me watching it and kept pausing it until I went away. And he was commenting on the 'ugliness' of people on the TV. Does he hate me? Does he like me but think I am interested in him (I am) so he is trying to put me off/let me know he doesn't? Or what? I wish I knew. It's like now I am the one making it clear I like him (I spent some time telling various friends I didn't like seeing him with other girls, so he must have heard that...not sure if that is good or bad) whereas before he was the one being more friendly, as back a couple of months ago after a night out he text me to see if I got home okay, etc. I didn't reply because I didn't get it until the next morning, but he must've thought I then didn't like him and now he's stopped liking me but I still like him!? Ahh I really don't know. I guess I was just wondering what people think he thinks of me, and how I can actually find out? His friends won't know as he is a private sort of person. And he is not the sort of person you can have a serious talk with or anything. We also have quite a sarcastic sort of relationship. I miss him though Edited January 23, 2008 by undiscovered
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