Elilmomma Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 (edited) How can you be sure that your spouse's affair is over? especially if it was with a co-worker who supposedly quite after their affair? Edited January 23, 2008 by Elilmomma
ElvenPriestess Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 That's a tough one hun. As you well know it's something of trust. You either trust his word on it or you don't. I mean realistically, if your spouse isn't coming home late, going out without you all the time, etc., I'd say there's more relaxing room right there. Where would the time be for it if your spouse is always around you right? So just ask yourself. Can you rebuild the trust enough to get to where you KNOW there's no more affair? And can you have courage and faith and take a leap enough to wait until that point comes?
LakesideDream Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 In most cases you can be sure the affair is over when you have positive proof that one or the other of the affair partners has passed away. If they aren't breathing, they probably aren't copulating. Seriously, it's a matter of trusting your "partner". If you can find a way to trust someone after they have spent time and effort to disguise their illicit fornication from you, you are a Saint. Congratulations.
cj1988 Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 I know for sure because they do not speak at all, once a month if that. They have not seen each other since August 2007 and I was there. He saw her maybe 2 times since March 2007 and I was there as well......whatever happened if anything, it is over and done with, until the next one.....but I will not be around for that !
TMCM Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 When you can see on an almost daily basis his efforts to land another job away from the OW. And when he is willing, out of concern for you, to actively listen to you when your insecurities start getting the better of you. Those may not be the only ones but they are not a bad start.
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