PerfectXPretty Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 That my boyfriends life seems to have became a joke to me i guess you can say. The guy has been wanting his space for what .. to play World Of Warcraft & have them as "friends" on myspace, how can you be "friends" with someone you've never met, None of these people will ever care about him like i do, why do i feel shafted, i've done everything for this guy & he is still playing with my heart and mind by telling me he wants space & doesnt bother talking to me, I guess the only fault i'm at is for allowing it, stupid me.. Though tonight when i was at my friends work at the bar i was talking to this nice guy that was just trying to make conversation - and not pick me up. He noticed i was unhappy, & the one thing that is really sticking to my mind is he's telling me that i'm 'settling' and i only live once, maybe he's right, but how do i detatch myself from this guy to just move on already.. he's treated me wrong so many times , he's not changing his ways.. he'll never change.. i dont have the heart to break it off, when its already long gone i guess.. help!
PinkRibbon Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 Oh goodness my stbx husband was an Everquest person. But I always felt I would much rather he played Everquest then hanging out in the bars so I never complained about those friends but on a reverse he left me for the people that hung out in bars and strip clubs. Go figure you can't win for losing!
Summer_guy_uk Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 Do your relationship a favour. Do something nice for your man, take him out, suprise him, remind him of how special you are and how your different to the other people in his life. After say how important he is to you, how much you care and wish you could spend more time with him doing different thing, getting out more. Tell him you respect his love for games and you enjoy his playful side, maybe say you wish you had a second computer so you could play with him But let him know how you feel, he may feel comfortable in the relationship but thats what happens to guys when there truly in love they forget to do the little things and concentrate on just enjoying it. Some people may argue; "Why should SHE have to take HIM out??? She's putting in all the effort etc". Well, all I would say if you can't do something for someone out of unconditional love at a time when your relationship really needs it, then you were never really in love at all.
Author PerfectXPretty Posted January 24, 2008 Author Posted January 24, 2008 Well, here is the thing. He has been on this break kick for a couple of weeks, we had already gone out to the Flyers game.. had a great time, then i didnt see him until days later, we had hung out again... it was fun he wasnt on his computer & i asked him if everything was gonna be alright.. he said yeah probably just a little more time & he still loved me. Now the thing is.. i had seen him on i belive it was Saturday night, I asked him if he wanted to come over wednesday (today) .. and he said "ill let you know when the day comes" well who the heck says that!.. thats not LOVE... and the thing is.. he never called. However the other day we had thought about going to a concert together in april , i had found us a place to stay with a friend for the night while there & i got the tickets, but yet no phone call for today.. i feel like i keep going out of my way and out of my way and yet he's still... not even fufilling his part.. i told him i dont need to see him everyday but this is getting ridiculas!!! .. Its been about 2 1/2 weeks like this & i feel like i cant take it anymore; i'm becoming a brick wall about this.. i cant even cry about it anymore. I do love him and i do care about him however i'm not going to call him or text him or go out of my way to talk to him if he cant even make a phone call. Instead i look on his myspace this morning & now he has "friends" from this stupid game -- i feel so unappreciated.. he's never going to meet these people or know these people.. they dont think about him outside this dream world fantasy of a game.. I feel like i've done everything i possibly can for this guy & its not good enough... Usually i'd get upset and cry and call him over and over again but its almost like i knew he wasnt going to call today & it hurts. I had sent him an email almost a week ago explaining how much i cared & how i wish we would spend more time together & that i did love him, and i didnt have to see him everyday & i respected his space... i hate this.. what more does he want from someone.. jeez.. hes SPOILED!!! he doesnt know a good thing when he sees it
Summer_guy_uk Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Like I said, talk to him face to face about your problems. An email wont cut it. Go somwhere different but local, pay for everything and just spill your guts without appearing needy. If he doesn't coem around then, have a break for a couple weeks, if he deosnt miss you, then he's not really that into you and you can move on.
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