thekid55 Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 My girlfriend and I broke up in October after a 2 year relationship. I went away to college. She couldn't handle the distance so we broke up. Her reasoning "I just want to experience high school" I didn't want it to be over. I tried to hold onto her. I did appear weak for the first month. I did try to set up a meeting for us to get together and hang out, but she always broke the plans. She would write online, saying that I held her back from partying and she was happy that I was out of her life. She told me that she had no feelings for anymore. This was all about a month ago and I cut contact. About a month ago, she started dating this new guy who is a polar opposite of me. And someone who really isn't her type. She is apparently really happy with him and all. Her and I haven't spoken to each other in about 2 weeks. I made an away message tonight saying "Going to Jamie's Room =)" Her away message tonight was: "i wish i could explain how i felt about you because your all i think about before i go to bed <3" She changed her buddy info to: Her current boyfriend's name with a heart. Something about her best friend..then this: “some people say that i'm not worth it i've made mistakes but nobody's perfect.” She has made a lot of mistakes since this breakup. She has really hurt me. She was also absolutely crazy about me when we dated. She really doesn't appear too crazy about this new guy. Also, she did say "felt" instead of feel, so maybe that is directing the past...I don't know...what do you think?
norajane Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 I think she's been clear that your relationship is over, plus she's dating someone else now. I'm sorry, I know you wish it were otherwise. You are in college, though. Maybe it's time to look around and notice some of the lovely ladies you might have more in common with right now.
spooty Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 take her off your buddy list. trying to communicate through your profiles is the lamest, most childish and most unproductive way to communicate. if you want to tell her something then just tell her, don't write it and hope she sees it. you haven't spoken in 2 months what makes you think she checks your profile as religiously as you check hers? you would be doing yourself a favor if you took her off your list, you'll avoid the temptation to check her info and over-analyze want you can out of it. she's dating someone else, and you trying to make passive aggressive away messages then checking hers for a response is not going t help either of you. move on, stop checking up on her and live your own life! she's not the one living in the past YOU are! maybe you can find a mature college chick, it refreshing to move past all that high school bull****.
heartoutside Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 I have to agree, either eraser her from you list and don't deal with her comments or confront them. I did exactly what you are doing right now for about 3 months with my ex. She would do things on myspace such as changes her song to songs that I knew were about us, or send me texts asking me random things. Then she started dating some guy she had been hanging around with when I didn't feel it was right to talk or hang out when she first asked for space. SO I erased her from my life. SHE FLIPPED OUT. You need to either talk to her, or move on. I moved on, and then we started talking. But here's the difference, you're in college. As much as I don't want to say it, this is really a time for YOU. College is about you, and dating a HS girl right now will be very hard. But it's your call and your choice....listen to you heart either way, but be prepared for where it may take you.
s_n_d Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 You are over analysing it too too much. If we all read our exs screen names on msn or AOL or Yahoo or whatever and tried to imagine how their feeling, we would go crazy. My exs screen name at the moment is, "This was the first time I felt so close to God." I could over analyse it and say that hes referring to our breakup because previously(before he met me), he wasnt religious at all. I could argue that hes implying that since the breakup hes become closer to God because hes been so depressed, etc... But to do so(analysing things like this) is just unequivical. Its true that he MIGHT have become closer to God since the breakup OR it might be lyrics from a song that he loved. But I understand how your feeling.. Just looking at my exs msn display picture kills me. Its a picture of him and his little niece. I could argue further that he misses me because he knows that I love that little girl like she were my own niece. On one of our first few dates, he took me to his house just so he could show me his niece. And she absolutely loved me. She would never go to him when I was around. It was like she knew that I was going to be her Zia(aunt) one day.. Stuff like that.... If we overanalyse stuff, its bound to get us depressed and Im sure thats not what we want. But If you really have something to say to her, Valentines day is coming up. You have your chance then and even before it. Just talk to her. Relax. Take it easy. Get your mind off it. Go out there and get some fresh air.
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