Reden123 Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 My girlfriend and I recently ended our relationship of 2 years. Within the first day of our breakup, we talked about us both using this time on our "break" to work on ourselves for our family and friends, and then later, discuss entering a relationship again. Overall, friendship has been hard, for me at least. I spoke with one of her friends, who told me she had helped console her after a sad movie when she confessed she missed me. The problem is, she's playing hard to get. I'm always calling her, a few times, and not getting answered. And when she does, she's usually busy. After talking to some of my friends, I've decided not to let her get that satisfaction of that. So, I started the same thing. She called me today, and i didn't answer, and when i did, i told her I was tired and was going to bed. The only thing I'm afraid of is, that doing this will just distance her from me, and make her angry. Just today, the first time in a private place alone. We flirted, a lot. We kissed a few times, and cuddled during a movie. Before i left, i gave the idea of a possible way to fix our relationship: Take some time out of every week, to watch a movie, go to dinner/breakfast/lunch, anything really to spend some alone time. Then, the rest of the week, she can focus on school, friends, and whatever else she wanted to do. This way, she can be single with her friends, and family, but slowly be able to transition back into a relationship. She said she would try, and would think about it. So, I'm asking all of you, on YOUR advice. Is it wise to play her same game, because I'm telling you, it sure as hell got her to call me, a lot. I've known this girl for 4 years, we were best friends for 2 years before we dated, and i know that she wont simply become angry and move on. Two of her friends are also helping out, and they say the same thing. I'm just asking for your advice, on how to combat a girl playing hard to get. Nice to meet you all!
oppath Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 There is no formula to get back with an ex. There are two many variables and the weights are subjective. What you should be doing is being open to spending some time with her, but also filling your life with activities that keep you busy and make you a more well rounded, interesting person. So join a softball league and start taking improv comedy classes, "just because" you want to start doing things you wouldn't normally do, you're young, and you might as well live your life. This serves two purposes. You are legitimately busy and you are more interesting because you have something passionate to share and talk about, and if things don't progress with her, you are making new friends and growing as a person.
Author Reden123 Posted January 23, 2008 Author Posted January 23, 2008 Well, i did do my little game of playing hard to get, when i saw her later she said she was sad she didn't get to talk to me last night, i told her i was busy. Today, i would have normally seen her in between certain classes and walk her to her next class. But instead, i merely smiled or said "hey." and passed by, and every time she stopped and turned and said "Where are you going." with a frown. I know its working, and I am legitimately busy with music and school, and on of our problems in the past was me being TOO busy. So im wondering if a better way than playing hard to get (since in the past, i almost already was) is to be open for her, and whenever she needs to talk, i can be there. But i dont want to give her the satisfaction of "whenever she feels like it."
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