Cabbage Patch Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 hey, have found the feedback quite useful here so thought i'd get some more advice! Me and my boy have been together about 8 months and we live apart but in the same suburb. He is moving to a different suburb next month and I joked the other day that I will 'just drop by and see him' then he replied with 'well what do you want to do move out with me' and I replied with nothing so he asked again 'would you move out with me' I replied with 'if you play your cards right' (in gest!). Now I'm confused, if he meant it as a joke and how do I bring it up again or do I just wait and see how things go? I cant get rid of my apartment just yet either. I mentioend it again the other day how I'm worried we'll never get to see each other anymore but he didnt mention moving out...hmmmmm
norajane Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 Why are you afraid you won't see each other? Don't you have transportation? And why didn't you ask him what he meant when you were talking about it? Just ask him what he meant. If you can't manage that without being stressed out, then you probably aren't ready for living together anyway. Living together can be challenging, and requires very good communication between a couple. If you're nervous about talking to him about living together, then it won't be easy to deal with living together.
Author Cabbage Patch Posted January 23, 2008 Author Posted January 23, 2008 not so much worried but it was in gest when I said that. I work a fair distance from home anyway and will just be extra time i will need to travel. I can ask that without being stressed out, I'm not stressed out about it at all, far from it, but just wanted some advice in do I bring it up again or just let it go. Its not a major priority of mine at the moment but he put it out there and I dont want him to think i am ignoring the topic. I lived with my ex partner for 5 years and i coped with that just fine
norajane Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 Then go ahead and ask him. Tell him something like, "I've been thinking about when we were sort-of talking about moving together. Do you really like the idea, or were you just joking?"
Author Cabbage Patch Posted January 23, 2008 Author Posted January 23, 2008 ok i might give that a try, bring it up casually. Thanks!
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