Texaschic08 Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 I am interested in a guy who has a baby and girlfriend. They are unhappy and they r jus together for the baby but that is not the point. We have not done anything really except made out. I try to forget about him but he keeps sending signals that seems like he is interested. I really like him because we have a lot in common. He doesnt seem as if he jus wants sex. Sometimes we jus hold each other and talk about things. I dont want to be a homewrecker but if he is not happy,why is he still with her?? I dont know if they are jus comfortable w/ each other or what. I know it is wrong to have feelings for him but he is actually a good guy jus in a bad situation. But I also feel like that if he is doing it to her he would do it to me. But then again what is the harm in making out?
bentnotbroken Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 Sweetie, they all say they are in a bad situation. Put yourself in her shoes. At home with a baby and your partner is out with someone else.
american-woman Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 I am interested in a guy who has a baby and girlfriend. They are unhappy and they r jus together for the baby but that is not the point. We have not done anything really except made out. I try to forget about him but he keeps sending signals that seems like he is interested. I really like him because we have a lot in common. He doesnt seem as if he jus wants sex. Sometimes we jus hold each other and talk about things. I dont want to be a homewrecker but if he is not happy,why is he still with her?? I dont know if they are jus comfortable w/ each other or what. I know it is wrong to have feelings for him but he is actually a good guy jus in a bad situation. But I also feel like that if he is doing it to her he would do it to me. But then again what is the harm in making out? yOU`VE GOT TO BE KIDDING
Author Texaschic08 Posted January 23, 2008 Author Posted January 23, 2008 American Woman, I am not good w/ reading between the lines so maybe u should make it a little more clear as to what you mean by that Statement?!
bentnotbroken Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 Relax. She ( and I don't want to put words in her mouth) just can't understand how you wouldn't think tha something is wrong with messing around with a man who probably should be helping out with his child. AW forgive me if I have over stated your position, or just plan f-ed it up.
norajane Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 if he is not happy,why is he still with her??Exactly. He IS with her, so he's not THAT unhappy. Or he might be feeling the strain and responsibility of being a new father, and she's probably exhausted being a new mother, so they aren't getting along too well right now. And they may not be having a lot of sex right now, because caring for a baby can suck the sexy energy right out of you. Do you want to be this guy's stress reliever? Or his temporary escape from his 'real' life and 'real' responsibilities? He goes home to his gf and his baby every night. Do you want to fall for this guy and then be lying awake in bed night after night wondering if they're having sex right then?
Carpetrider Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 Your male friend should be having an affair with Palmala Anderson and her five sisters, not you!
american-woman Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 What do I mean by that? your knowingly making out with a guy that has a child? And you see nothing wroing with making out with him? Read my sig.
Leia Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 Men will say anything to get a woman in bed with them, even to make out a little bit then when things get heavier, she gets pregnant... hasta la vista! On with the next woman....
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 why is he still with her?? Because he wants to be with both of you. Want him to choose? There is a simple way: Tell him that you care for him and want to be with him, but that you can't be with him as long as he is still with his girlfriend. If he agrees to move out, arrange child support and shut the door forever on a relationship with his girlfriend - then, and only then will you agree to see him again. Until then, he is not to contact you in any way, shape or form of any sort. He will choose, because he will be forced to make a choice. The problem is that you will see exactly who he wants to be with, and chances are it won't be you. You will have to decide whether you will stay with a guy who would let you walk away when given a choice, and will only stay with you as long as you continue to be the quiet and compliant OW, someone who only wants you part time when he can fit it into his real life.
whichwayisup Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 I am interested in a guy who has a baby and girlfriend. There's two reasons to become UNinterested in this guy. They are unhappy and they r jus together for the baby but that is not the point. How do you know this? Because HE told you? This man has a child with his girlfriend, and having a baby isn't easy so I'm sure things aren't perfect betwen them and it's stressful, but that doesn't mean he needs to have another woman make him happy. He's being selfish by having you in his life. We have not done anything really except made out. Keep it that way. Don't have sex with him and stop fooling around with him! He isn't yours for taking, even if he is offering himself up. Imagine if you had a boyfriend and a baby, and some girl knew this and still allowed something to happen with him. Imagine how hurt you would feel...Put yourself in her shoes for a minute and stop enabling HIM to cheat. I try to forget about him but he keeps sending signals that seems like he is interested. I really like him because we have a lot in common. He doesnt seem as if he jus wants sex. Sometimes we jus hold each other and talk about things. See, this is the makings of an affair. If he truely liked you and wanted something serious with you, he would ask you to back off and then end it with his girlfriend. He hasn't and he won't BECAUSE they share a baby together. I dont want to be a homewrecker but if he is not happy,why is he still with her?? Because he more than likely isn't getting certain needs met by her, their relationship has changed because of the baby. Instead of him talking to her, sorting it out, he's chosen to go outside of the relationship to seek attention, for you to make HIM feel good. If you don't want to be a homewrecker, then end it with him. If you don't, you WILL help him ruin his relationship. All that love and energy that should be put into his girlfriend and baby is being put into you, and that's wrong. SO what if he seems interested in you, can't you say NO? I dont know if they are jus comfortable w/ each other or what. See, he is not going to tell you truth of what goes on behind closed doors with his girlfriend. More than likely he is going to make you feel for him, that his life is hard now since the baby, that she is neglecting him and he's miserable...And, I hope you aren't believing the crap he's feeding you... I know it is wrong to have feelings for him but he is actually a good guy jus in a bad situation. But I also feel like that if he is doing it to her he would do it to me. But then again what is the harm in making out? Yes, you have insight here into your own situation. This guy has a baby with his girlfriend and he is CHEATING on her with you! Even if they did break up, and he came to you, he'd more than likely cheat on you as well...I bet you'd NEVER be able to trust him fully...Plus, you'd have to deal with his ex because of the baby they share. She'll be a part of his life forever. But then again what is the harm in making out? Are you joking by asking this question? Please, think about it...You KNOW the answer to your question.
HoustonScrewed Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 I come from a broken family and please give the baby a chance before breaking it up!
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