BrianG Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 in the same boat. Today is my 30th bday today and I dont expect to hear from her. We would always kid around about my 30th before she broke up with me and she knows its a big one for me. However, i dont expect her to wish me happy birthday. It would be nice to think that she was thinking about me, but oh well what can you do. Nothing, try to enjoy your day with the people that want or are in your life.
Lee725 Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 I've been through all kinds of break-ups over the years, and I have NEVER found it productive or valuable to waste time wondering what my exes are thinking or feeling. If our thoughts and feelings truly mattered, we would still be together and not exes, right? That's especially true if they were the one to break up with you. The only thought or feeling that matters is they wanted to break up with you and so they did. Very true Norajane, in my experience also. She may not have txt you because by doing so she may feel that you would get the wrong impression in regards to reconciliation.
THE THRONE Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 OMG, Throne, I am SO in love with you. Where can I buy that book? My dear, many women are in love with THE THRONE and THE THRONE loves them all, so he thanks you for the compliment. However, the book of the Seven-Legged Lamb is not for sale. The book of the Seven-Legged Lamb is free to all.
eagle5 Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Happy belated bd. Hang in there, it's crazy, but after a while any contact you get from her will work adversely, I mean the first month or so when you are desperate to hear from her, if you do it seems great like there is some hope, but then you hit a point where you start to forget all the little things you had together, NOT the big things coz they won't just go away but the little intricacies will slightly fade. I can speak from experience because that's where I am now, I had a call from my ex today (after a month and a half) and it brought back all the little things that I'd started to forget, like when she said somthing as simple as I'm just having a cigarette, I thought about both if us doing it!!! It killed!!!! So my point is go for nc 100%, so sorry it's over your bd but keep it up, you WILL hit a piont where it's easier not to hear from her, doesn't feel like it now I know, but it WILL, then eventually it won't matter anymore, that's what I keep telling myself mate, you're not alone...... Good luck..............................
82knightrider Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 My dear, many women are in love with THE THRONE and THE THRONE loves them all, so he thanks you for the compliment. However, the book of the Seven-Legged Lamb is not for sale. The book of the Seven-Legged Lamb is free to all. Where can I get it lmao ?
THE THRONE Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 Where can I get it lmao ? From any apostle of the Seven-Legged Lamb or by using common sense.
dfreeman Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Wow - my birthday is coming up soon so I searched out this thread. This issue is so tough because it would probably help me heal either way? If my ex does call (she will probably just send me an e-mail), she is still fairly angry with me so she is likely going to make it a nice (but short) courtessy call. I am prepared to simply thank her for calling and keep it kind and respectful coming from my end - might be a bit awkward, but short and sweet will be just fine by me. I am also assuming that she doesn't want her daughter to just let my birthday fly by without talking to me, so I imagine she will just wish me a happy birthday and hand over the phone.(Shazam - purrrrfekt)! If she doesn't call, I can assume she is not doing so in our best interest of honoring NC. I personally think this would be disrespectful and cold, but not at all inappropriate under the circumstances. I am not sending her anything on Valentine's Day (for those of you brand new to LS), but if her birthday were any time soon, I would probably just send her a friendly (but certainly not romantic or sappy) birthday card. I would want to make that contact as light as possible and I could not bring myself to ignore the fact that I still love her as a person.
yama8017 Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 My ex broke up with me two days before my bday. And on my bday she called in and said she loves me , happy bday and then told me she's dating another guy. I didn't even know what to think. And yes, I'm still deperately in love with her.
Jackieboy Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 All this stuff about birthdays..., you should view it as just another day in NC. If they have gone and you still hurt then stick with the rules of no contact. Let them go and move on so you heal all the faster, and you will heal if you stick with the programme. As previously stated I simply refuse to have who I am as a person defined by the actions of another. I am so much more important then that! BTW, Throne, why seven legged lamb? (Am I missing something obvious) and give us more, very intriguing!!!!
dfreeman Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 As previously stated I simply refuse to have who I am as a person defined by the actions of another. I am so much more important then that! I don't think expecting a call on your birthday falls under this category in my particular case. Since our break, I have acted honorably toward her and taken extra steps to keep a future friendship open with her and her daughter (this includes a huge financial break to help her keep a great house near her daughter's school). I have also not been contacting her since I moved out 10 days ago. In my case, who I am as a person will not be defined by her not calling me, but who she is as my friend certainly will be! But, I do agree with you that birthdays are just another day during NC. I am trying to look at it this way - I have a chance to hit the NC double-play by not contacting/gifting her on Valentine's Day and not hearing from her on my birthday!
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