Always Wrong Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 You might try putting your feelings down on paper, hand written of course, and send it to her... you know, a love letter. You can't make a rough draft, spell check, double check for just the right amount of urgency, you don't want to sound desperate. I don't think women like that... of course I'm am no expert obviously, but I'm pretty sure women aren't attracted to desperate.
Slippy72 Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 There's a phrase I made up, and I recite it to myself everytime I feel like I'm going to break NC, or go pleading for her to come back. 'She can't miss me, if I'm always there'. I realised, by contacting her night and day, there was no way she could feel like I'd left a void. Quite the opposite in fact, she probably felt annoyed that I was doing this.
Author jdeedee Posted January 26, 2008 Author Posted January 26, 2008 She emailed me back. It wasn't outright rejection. I need to get my thoughts settled and I'll try to post the jist of the email here.
Always Wrong Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 There's a phrase I made up, and I recite it to myself everytime I feel like I'm going to break NC, or go pleading for her to come back. 'She can't miss me, if I'm always there'. I realised, by contacting her night and day, there was no way she could feel like I'd left a void. Quite the opposite in fact, she probably felt annoyed that I was doing this. I like that Slippy!
Slippy72 Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 I like that Slippy! If you think about it, it's so true isn't it?
Author jdeedee Posted January 26, 2008 Author Posted January 26, 2008 Its true but I am not being suffocating, I made an attempt to open lines of communication and while she didn't say "I want you back without changes" she did return the communication. Right?
CalamitousJane Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Cool jdd - it's great that she mailed you. If she's in the mode to suggest changes, that's a very, very good thing. If I were you I'd go VERY slowly and listen very carefully. It still wouldn't hurt to keep yourself busy and not always fully available. I know it sounds like a game, but to a lot of people the adrenaline that comes along with uncertainty gives them more of that "in love" feeling. If you think about it, it's working on you. I'm so glad she mailed you. Details please, when you're up for it!
Author jdeedee Posted January 27, 2008 Author Posted January 27, 2008 Jane can you turn on your private messages? (I'm not 100% ready to post the letter in public)
CalamitousJane Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Jane can you turn on your private messages? (I'm not 100% ready to post the letter in public) I'm honored:) It's on, but I'll be out for a bit now. Will check ASAP.
Author jdeedee Posted January 27, 2008 Author Posted January 27, 2008 Tossed a PM to Jane, Freddy and AW.
Always Wrong Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 You got my response JDD. I didn't know if you wanted it public, so I PM'd you back.
BrianG Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 JDD, Would you mind sending it to me by PM as well. I have been reading your situation and would like to know what she said. Thats if you feel comfortable sending it to me.
latefragment Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 I'm sorry to come off as being nosy - but I've been reading your situation as well and posted a couple times on your other threads, encouraging you to reach out to her by more than just an email. If you wouldn't mind PM'ing me with her response, I'd really be interested in taking a look at it. I'm in a very similar situation (except I was the one who was dumped) and actually quite heartbroken over a guy at the moment. I completely relate to the pain that you've been going through, and I feel a lot of guilt for doing what I did to bring the rejection upon me (for my role in the breakup). Of course if you don't feel comfortable that is fine too. No matter what, I'm REALLY glad you did take the step to call her and try to have a conversation with her. THat is the first step. At least maybe she will hear you out. I'm really hoping for the best for you.
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