mortensorchid Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Now this is an odd situation I have put myself into. Please let me explain... I made a New Year's Resolution that there will be no romantic notions and no foolish thinking about things this year. There are so many other things that I have going on (unemployment, finances, where I'm going, etc.) to think about. I met this guy on line a while ago, who I will call "Sam". Sam is alright, kind of a loser, but alright. He's not looking for something too serious, it's not going anywhere, but that's ok with me. I'm not in love with him or anything. Then I met someone else, who I will call "Mike". Mike is the quintesential "Nice Guy". He is also in the same position as I am (unemployed and looking for the meaning of life), but isn't a loser. He has a future. He has direction. The problem? I don't feel it for him. He's a good guy, but I guess because he's not exciting like all the other losers I've been with, I don't know what to do or say anymore. Isn't that a shame that guys are such a-----s that women don't know how to react to it when someone shows some respect? I've been playing it cool with Mike as well as Sam. Sam and I don't see each other much because he lives far away, but Mike is in town. Mike seems eager and willing to be with me. In fact, he emailed his resume to me so I had a better idea of who he is. That kind of made me think he might be a little weird. I like Sam just fine, but I know things can only go so far. What do I do? Tell me something.
tanbark813 Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 I don't think anyone can tell you anything useful until you figure out what you want.
Lauriebell82 Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 It sounds like you want "the loser" because he has an issue you can fix. It's like a project, so to speak. You think that if you like them and care about them they will fix their f'up life for you. I used to be like that until I met my current bf. Honestly, I don't think either of these guys are for you. If you don't see any real potential with Sam then why even bother to date him? You'll just end up getting hurt. And this other guy, Mike, you don't even like so why would you bother with him either? And I agree that him sending you his resume is kind of odd. I mean that's like him sending you his "boyfriend credentials" which is essentially what he did. Anyway, I think neither of them is the guy for you, so keep both as friends and wait for that perfect guy for you. And by the way, losers are not good guys to date. My philosphy is if you refer to a guy as a "loser" then why would you want him to be your bf?
allina Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 It sounds like you chose that New Years resolution fir a reason, stick with it. You don't really like either guy and you said it can only go so far so why not just let it go and not have any guy in your life for a bit (wasn't this the resolution to start w/? it's still January)
Author mortensorchid Posted January 23, 2008 Author Posted January 23, 2008 Thank you all for your thoughts. I think I knew the answers the whole time. I do like the first, but it's not going to go much further. The second, well, that's just weird that he sent me his resume so I could see his credentials. That's just strange. I'll end it with both of them so then I can keep that New Year's resolution.
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