Pacifika Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Hey LoveShack folks, If you haven't seen my other posts, I'm currently in a situation that makes me quite stifled. To make things short, I have feelings for a highschool friend that I met while she came back for her winter break. She now goes to college in Chicago and will only come back for winter and summer breaks (I live in California). Over the course of the break, it would be safe to presume that we "hooked up". However, she said that she could not "love me" but only "like me" because love entails lots of chains and burdens that she didn't want to carry across a long distance relationship, so she said that we should treat each break as a checkpoint. She just left a few days ago, and I've been feeling pretty empty. The last few days she didn't really call that much (although we did hang out, and during our time together she was really sweet to me). She texts me once in a while, but I can't tell if she really likes me or not. I can't tell if she's not calling or saying she misses me as a way coping mechanism for herself or a way for her to not get so attached to me. The thought of our relationship not being a reality is really crushing me...so I want to ask your guys' opinions on what's going on inside her head. Does she not want to be hurt? Or does she really not like me as much? For more details, please read the other thread I posted. Thanks so much.
Jmina Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 Its both, i would say that mostly its the second one though... There is a guy that i am kind of interested and we muck around and things but i dont want to get hurt this soon and i dont want to hurt anyone else either so that is a big reason to why im backing off but the bigger reason is because im not that into him. he knows as i wanted to be truthful about it. i knwo that if i was really into him, i probably would be listening to my heart more as it would be opening up more than it is now. .. thats what love is. she cant decide if she wants to love you or like you though, we cant decide who we fall in love with,. basically shes saying she likes you but thats about as far as it is with her. if she was really into you she wouldnt let distance get in the way. I mean would you let distance get in the way? If you can keep up just bein friends maybe one day she will warm up to you, tables do turn. But if it hurts too much i would try to just keep it limited or no contact so you can accept it and start to move on.
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