xfess Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 about 3 weeks ago I went to my regular bar with my best friend, like I normally do on a Saturday night. At the end of the night we were ready to leave but my friend decided to talk to these 2 girls at the end of the bar and introduced them to me. One of them really caught my eye; she was very attractive and I started to have a conversation with her. -- for arguments sake lets call the girl I was talking to Girl "A" and her friend Girl "B". About a minute later another girl (Girl "C") shows up and gets in on the conversation. "C" was really interested in me but I liked "A"..so my best friend decided to play wing man and chat with "C". After a few minutes we all got on the dance floor and began dancing. "A" asked me if I had a phone.. I pulled it out and she put in her name and #. A few minutes later she said "Lets ditch our friends and go outside". We went outside for a literally 1 minute before her friends showed up and wanted to leave. Before she left I called her phone so she had my #. A few minutes after she left I left with my friend and I got a text from her apologizing for her friends making her leave and asked me for my email address. - Well she used that to find my myspace profile and requested me to be her friend which I accepted and she sent me an email talking about herself. We exchanged emails and text messages and then 2 days later I called her to go on a date and she said yes - we went out to dinner and played pool. At the end of the night we had our 1st kiss and she went home. She wants to have another date but our work schedules have been a little difficult lately - but she seems really interested in me and so am I. *** Anyway here is the problem. My best friend really helped me out that night playing wing man but he is engaged. He did not put any moves on "C" or anything else - "A" is friends with "B" who is friends with "C" but "A & C are friends through association of B" (sounds like a puzzle quiz lol)... now if things start to progress between me and "A" eventually she will have to know about my friends engagement. My friend told me that we would talk after a 3rd date with "A" happens but Im affraid of what to say to "A" or how she'll react - Although Im sure she has to know about things like this - trying to talk to a girl in a group -since it occurs all the time at bars and clubs. Any advice on what I should do/say to her?
Saxis Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Was your friend doing anything overly inappropriate, or just talking to them? I don't think there's much harm in talking to them, but he should disclose that he's engaged if they take more interest than that. Just tell her that your friend is engaged, but he was helping you break the ice. Unless his intentions where otherwise, it seems rather harmless.
tanbark813 Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Any advice on what I should do/say to her? If it comes up tell A you wanted to talk to her and your friend was just being social and chatting up C. I don't understand what the problem is. As long as your friend didn't make any moves on C then what's the big deal?
Krytie TV Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 I dont see an issue here. He didn't get any numbers did he? Why are you so concerned about this?
Author xfess Posted January 22, 2008 Author Posted January 22, 2008 Im not extremely worried. He didnt do anything. "A" asked me when we went out if my friend and "C" exchanged phone#'s but i really didnt say anything and veered off to another topic. I guess the next time we go out I have to tell her that my friend was just helping me break the ice with her. I know this is a common thing im sure there are wingmen/women who are probably in a relationship as well, so maybe im just worrying myself too much
allina Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Im not extremely worried. He didnt do anything. "A" asked me when we went out if my friend and "C" exchanged phone#'s but i really didnt say anything and veered off to another topic. I guess the next time we go out I have to tell her that my friend was just helping me break the ice with her. I know this is a common thing im sure there are wingmen/women who are probably in a relationship as well, so maybe im just worrying myself too much You don't need to say he was helping you, and don't use the term "wing man" just say to A "no they didn't exchange numbers, he wasn't hitting on her, just chatting a bit while we were talking, he's engaged"
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