yumi Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Hi! I wonder if it's possible to understand if a man really truly loves you or if he's just "using" you temporarily. I love my boyfriend, and I think he loves me. But it seems that he is always interested in my appearance, but not in my hobbies and interests. He says that he loves me, but always because he likes how I look and not because he likes my mind. It may be that he thinks that girls are more flattered when you talk about their appearance than their interests and abilities, but I'm beginning to wonder if he just likes me for my appearance. What of someone prettier comes along, will he leave me? That's what I'm worried about... How can I tell?
Meaplus3 Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Hi! I wonder if it's possible to understand if a man really truly loves you or if he's just "using" you temporarily. I love my boyfriend, and I think he loves me. But it seems that he is always interested in my appearance, but not in my hobbies and interests. He says that he loves me, but always because he likes how I look and not because he likes my mind. It may be that he thinks that girls are more flattered when you talk about their appearance than their interests and abilities, but I'm beginning to wonder if he just likes me for my appearance. What of someone prettier comes along, will he leave me? That's what I'm worried about... How can I tell? If he is more interested in how look rather than what you enjoy.....Hmmmm...That would be a big red flag for me! IMOP iif he really dig's you, then he need's to love the entire you, and that includes the thing's that you enjoy. AP:)
ElvenPriestess Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 He very well may think that it's all you want to hear, some men think women only want the physical flattery. Little do they know it's not the case. He needs to have a balance, let you know you're beautiful, he loves you, and loves the person you are inside. You could try focusing on those other things around him, see how he reacts? Or you could wear baggy sweats, big t-shirt, no make up, and hang out at his place, see how that works, maybe he'd talk about something else then. That would really make sure appearances aren't all he cares about, that he has more substance.
whichwayisup Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 You need to talk to him and let him know how you feel. Tell him that you are feeling abit insecure and not sure how serious he feels about you. How long have you two been together?
CherryBakewell Posted January 26, 2008 Posted January 26, 2008 Sounds to me like you need to talk to him. Next time he compliments your appearance you could try saying how you love it that he finds you so attractive but what else does like about you? If he has trouble answering then you know you need to talk more about why he's with you. Good luck!
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