ashleigh422 Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 I am in the cycle of abuse.. the honeymoon.. then the rage... never punches or slaps, but name calling (in front of children) and sometimes kicking and pushing, last weekend we went out and came home. He called me a Who%% and told me that I was sleeping around( after I just dropped $100.00 on his dinner) and so when we pulled into the driveway I just got out of his car and into mine, he then continued to kick my car really hard until the whole side was dented up. Should I be sensible with him and tell him I want to end it.. I've given him MANY chances... or should I just not come home one day and leave him a note to pack and leave. He lives in my house..
Author ashleigh422 Posted January 22, 2008 Author Posted January 22, 2008 Thanks for the honest and quick response, but it is a little more complex than that... I have tried many times while we are arguing BUT he won't leave and he stays around long enough to make up with me.. kiss my ass and then be mean by morning.
MakeLemonade Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Call the police, explain the situation, show them the car, and have them escort him and his stuff out. Get a restraining order and never look back. I know in your mind it is ALOT more complex than this (4 years in an abusive relationship talking here, 15+ years ago but you never forget, and I completely understand the cycle of it all) But once you are out of it, you will see it really isn't any more than getting him out. Get him out, whatever you have to do - no contact - and move on with your life. There are millions of guys out there that don't push, hit, kick or call you horrible names. You deserve much, much better. Any woman does. Prayers for you, be strong.
Author ashleigh422 Posted January 22, 2008 Author Posted January 22, 2008 makeslemonade.. thanks so much for simplifying that.. I do love him.. how do I justify this? It is so difficult.
MakeLemonade Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Love yourself more Really, you ARE worth it. Let him go. It won't be easy, but I guarantee you can do it. Lean on family and friends for support, make sure they are aware of the situation so they can help you stay strong. I promise you it won't take as long as you think it will right now to get over him. Right now you feel like you will love him forever and oh, he will change. He won't, and you won't love him forever, not even close.
Islander Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Let him go my dear. And then get the cops on him for what he did to your car. I'm sorry, it maybe me being a bit old fashioned, im only 21 by the way!, but it turns my stomach when i hear about women who are abused by men in any form. I really wish more guys were normal and acted like gentleman. I really dont like these kinda of guys who sleep about not giving a **** about who they are messing up, you only get one life you know!! Sorry!! WAY of topic!!
konfuzd Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Would you let anyone treat your child this way? Why do you deserve any less?
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