so_sad Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Sorry if this topic has been covered before. I'm just interested in getting the boys' perspective on this one. Are you attracted to women that are a few years older than you (5-10 years)? Would you date somebody that much older?
burning 4 revenge Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 First I think the age gap has to be at least a decade to qualify as "older" in the sense you mean. Im 33 and I certainly don't consider someone around 28 as a potenital age gap relationship and the same for someone 38 But yeah, most guys would date older, sure
D-Lish Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Guys will date older women- sure. Especially older women that take care of themselves and stay young at heart. I have been dating younger men for a while now- it's just something I do to fill a void and avoid getting serious. I am almost 36- and have been dating 22-25 year olds. I have to say there are some problems- but also good times. Being that young they don't have the maturity to keep up emotionally or intellectually. Physically- yes, it's great. 28+ seems to be okay, anything younger and there is little hope for long term. I hung out with a 22 year old for a good 6 weeks- and we had a great connection. I look younger and he looks older.... but our connection was based on the "fun and physical".... anything beyond that started becoming trouble. 30 dating 40 would probably work.... but young 20's early 30's has little hope for long term dating.
burning 4 revenge Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Guys will date older women- sure. Especially older women that take care of themselves and stay young at heart. I have been dating younger men for a while now- it's just something I do to fill a void and avoid getting serious. I am almost 36- and have been dating 22-25 year olds. I have to say there are some problems- but also good times. Being that young they don't have the maturity to keep up emotionally or intellectually. Physically- yes, it's great. 28+ seems to be okay, anything younger and there is little hope for long term. I hung out with a 22 year old for a good 6 weeks- and we had a great connection. I look younger and he looks older.... but our connection was based on the "fun and physical".... anything beyond that started becoming trouble. 30 dating 40 would probably work.... but young 20's early 30's has little hope for long term dating.Would you date someon your own age, or are you holding out to meet a mature 22-25 year old?
D-Lish Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Yes, I had married someone my own age.... and had serious relationships with men my own age. When I figure things out and get my committment issues figured out- I'll date someone with the same interests and maturity level. I want to be serious with someone my own age. I'm just still a little scarred from my past- and I want to deal with that first. That's why I date for fun instead of dating someone with long term potential. Hope that makes sense.
melodymatters Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 It makes pefect sense to me, I'm at the same point of not wanting a " real" relationship with the attendant emotional baggage. One question, wherever do you FIND them ???
burning 4 revenge Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 I want to date MelodyMatters (although Im not sure Im young enough )
melodymatters Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 I want to date MelodyMatters (although Im not sure Im young enough ) Oh sweetie, you are young enough, and unfortunately, crazy enough, but we are now seperated by states not counties !!! ( But it IS rather cold here nowadays, would your mom let ME crash on the couch there too ? think of the LS stories/complaints we could come up with then !")
Author so_sad Posted January 22, 2008 Author Posted January 22, 2008 Yes, I had married someone my own age.... and had serious relationships with men my own age. When I figure things out and get my committment issues figured out- I'll date someone with the same interests and maturity level. I want to be serious with someone my own age. I'm just still a little scarred from my past- and I want to deal with that first. That's why I date for fun instead of dating someone with long term potential. Hope that makes sense. Yup. It makes perfect sense.
D-Lish Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 It makes pefect sense to me, I'm at the same point of not wanting a " real" relationship with the attendant emotional baggage. One question, wherever do you FIND them ??? HAHA! I don't ever go lookin for them. They always find me. Online dating. Plentyoffish. Lots of mail comes in from the youngin's. I disregard 99% of it- but the odd one seems mature enough/hot enough/harmless enough to strike up a conversation with. For me- harmless is the key word.
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