RyTom21 Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 I was at the grocery store yesterday, and I realized something. I'm a HUGE wimp. The cashier was beautiful, and I purposely avoided looking her in the eyes. I tried to think of something to say, but I couldn't get the courage to do that either. For as long as I can remember, I have dated overweight women. I'm not attracted to these women, but I date them because I feel like I cant get any better. I've been doing this for so long that it has become a habit. If I'm at a party or something, I will ignore any women who are even remotely attractive, and I will go talk to the larger and less attractive women. I know I can't get any better, so my mind convinces me that these women are attractive. It's not fair to me, and it's not fair to the women I date. Here's what goes through my mind: "She's overweight, so she probably has low self esteem, which means she will probably go out with me. Besides, it's not like I can do any better". What is wrong with me?!?!?! P.s. I didn't mean to imply that a full figured woman cant be attractive. I know that some guys like larger women. So I apologize if I offended anyone.
Geishawhelk Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 Yes, well done... I would have refrained from commenting as a 'smack in the mouth often offends'.... I'm, sure these ladies would be delighted to know that you are thinking along these lines... hardly a constructive or kind point of view....!! Your apology at the end still does nothing to rectify your prejudiced and patronising point of view. Frankly, at the risk of sounding harsh, I think you would do better to leave these ladies alone, as a respectful thing. If they are suffering from low self-esteem, your actions are hardly going to make them feel better about themselves, if they fall head over heels in love with you, only to find you're going out with them out of desperation.... If they DON'T have low self esteem - I'd hate to be your eye when they black it..... Buy a few self-help books, and try making efforts to build your own confidence and self-esteem, instead of being deceptive. Because I don't see why these lovely ladies should be content with being lumbered with second best.
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