freeandlost Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 I met a guy 3 weeks ago that I absolutely adore. This guy is really nice and funny and super sexy. Anyway, we both have been open with each other and he knows I want him in every way and I know he wants me and has told me that he is really interested in me and likes me. He took me to dinner last night and then we went to his place to watch TV. No strings. Problem is, I wanted more, but he told me that he wants to take it slow. I don't want to scare him, because he knows obviously that I want the whole kit-n-caboodle, but how do I make sure that I didn't screw up by him knowing what I want? He told me he is interested, so why am I worrying? He is working a lot and doesn't have a lot of time to spend with me but I don't know what to do. Don't want to appear desperate or turned off. Any advice would be appreciated. How do I act now? Just back off some or a lot? Sorry this post is so long.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 I met a guy 3 weeks ago that I absolutely adore. This guy is really nice and funny and super sexy. Anyway, we both have been open with each other and he knows I want him in every way and I know he wants me and has told me that he is really interested in me and likes me. He took me to dinner last night and then we went to his place to watch TV. No strings. Problem is, I wanted more, but he told me that he wants to take it slow. I don't want to scare him, because he knows obviously that I want the whole kit-n-caboodle, but how do I make sure that I didn't screw up by him knowing what I want? He told me he is interested, so why am I worrying? He is working a lot and doesn't have a lot of time to spend with me but I don't know what to do. Don't want to appear desperate or turned off. Any advice would be appreciated. How do I act now? Just back off some or a lot? Sorry this post is so long. I have total repsect for this guy, because he is looking towards the future. He probaly do like you a lot but he don't want sex to complicate things. He feels like with his job he may not have the time to devote to you. don't stress yourself out. just take it slow and get to know him further .
Author freeandlost Posted January 21, 2008 Author Posted January 21, 2008 Thanks for the response. I guess I am used to not having a guy respect me like that. It's nice, don't get me wrong. Just was confusing at first. I guess if he had changed his mind, he wouldn't have invited me to his place. Thanks, I will just take it easy since he already knows how I feel. Appreciate it.
Krytie TV Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 I know I come off sounding like a prick here, but you wanna know what I think? I think there is something he is nervous about. I'm thinking he has an STD or something that he is afraid to talk about so is waiting indefinitely to let anything happen, maybe until he feels he "has" you. Don't know why I say this, just have that feeling. What guy doesn't want more after 3 weeks? Unheard of.
Author freeandlost Posted January 22, 2008 Author Posted January 22, 2008 Honestly, I can't say that that didn't fleet through my mind...I had forgotten about it. My guy friends think he is really just being respectful and that maybe he might make a move soon. When we go out to a bar or club, guys hit on me a lot and they think he may also be trying to figure out if I am easy or not. The answer is no, but he will see that in time. Just because I want him really bad doesn't mean that is how I normally am. It isn't. That is why I am willing to wait for him and take it slow. It's just hard for me to not text him a lot (which I know is a big turnoff) and call him (another turnoff). I am fighting my way through like a champ though . Thanks for the response.
spookie Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Maybe he's a virgin? At least really inexperienced?
Author freeandlost Posted January 22, 2008 Author Posted January 22, 2008 Yet another thought, but I really don't think so. Maybe, if anything, he thinks I am more experienced than him. I am not so experience as far as multiple partners are concerned, but I do like to try out different things. Someone we both know saw me come out of an adult store with a "toy" and I don't know if it scared him or not. I am pretty open about discussing sex and things like that because it was how I was raised and he is really shy. I am trying to be myself but not scare the heck out of him at the same time. He tells me he is ok with me and I don't have to worry, but I still don't want to be too aggressive. Just take it easy on him.
Author freeandlost Posted January 23, 2008 Author Posted January 23, 2008 Just an update - he texted me before he went to bed last night. We actually had a really good 'txt' conversation. He is just so busy and has so many people that want to see him and is having a hard time making time for everyone. But at least he had a text conversation with me, of substance, before he went to sleep. One that he initiated - I think that is an important point. So I guess he still officially likes me and really does just want to take it slow. The man told me the truth and I wasn't used to that. Wow. Thanks everyone for your responses.
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