ElvenPriestess Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 I really think some people have a fetish for taken, married men/women. These people do not want to have their OWN relationship, the idea of STEALING some one else's mate is a fetish, a game, a challenge, it says "See? I'm awesome, I got it going on, because he'd cheat on his wife over me." I think it's a sickness, a disease, but also people who are just addicted to the game. I have to stop there cause it's getting me worked up just thinking about it.
Pyro Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 I really think some people have a fetish for taken, married men/women. These people do not want to have their OWN relationship, the idea of STEALING some one else's mate is a fetish, a game, a challenge, it says "See? I'm awesome, I got it going on, because he'd cheat on his wife over me." I think it's a sickness, a disease, but also people who are just addicted to the game. I have to stop there cause it's getting me worked up just thinking about it. Sad but true. I can think of a few individuals who fall into that category........
ElvenPriestess Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Sad but true. I can think of a few individuals who fall into that category........ Well those type of people I could never respect.
Pyro Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Well those type of people I could never respect. Ditto for me.
ElvenPriestess Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 It JUST hit me. Married couple has kids, right? Man goes and meets woman, woman wants to sleep with him, affair starts. Um, problem here, huge one, she's stealing daddy from mommy and going to break up their family. And how is it he/she has no remorse and could even think of doing such a thing to the kids? And one more thought, do the OW/OM not take into consideration they are hurting the unknowing wife.husband so terribly? Does it not ever register with them that they are stealing some one's spouse, and will ruin a big part of their life? Doesn't that make them...... VERY selfish?
Pyro Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 It JUST hit me. Married couple has kids, right? Man goes and meets woman, woman wants to sleep with him, affair starts. Um, problem here, huge one, she's stealing daddy from mommy and going to break up their family. And how is it he/she has no remorse and could even think of doing such a thing to the kids? And one more thought, do the OW/OM not take into consideration they are hurting the unknowing wife.husband so terribly? Does it not ever register with them that they are stealing some one's spouse, and will ruin a big part of their life? Doesn't that make them...... VERY selfish? Some have and will argue that the wife was treating the H like dirt and that gives him reason to look outside of the marriage.
ElvenPriestess Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Some have and will argue that the wife was treating the H like dirt and that gives him reason to look outside of the marriage. "To look outside the marriage." There IS no such thing. I mean, there's not supposed to be, and anyone with the capacity to do so should not marry. And the OW/OM, can say no or COULD have said no, keeping the spouse looking like a jerk but themselves having class. Selfish, selfish, SO selfish.
Pyro Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 "To look outside the marriage." There IS no such thing. I mean, there's not supposed to be, and anyone with the capacity to do so should not marry. And the OW/OM, can say no or COULD have said no, keeping the spouse looking like a jerk but themselves having class. Selfish, selfish, SO selfish. I agree. Stay loyal or become single. What would hurt the kids more? Knowing that their dad is seeing someone else while he is still married to mom or The parents divorcing and then dad gets a new GF? From personal experience, my mom cheated on my Dad and I was hurt and full of anger for years. I moved out of state and started a new highschool just to get away from her, but had she filed for divorce and gone through it before she started seeing someone else, I could have learned to deal with that.
Author Leia Posted January 24, 2008 Author Posted January 24, 2008 I agree. Stay loyal or become single. What would hurt the kids more? Knowing that their dad is seeing someone else while he is still married to mom or The parents divorcing and then dad gets a new GF? From personal experience, my mom cheated on my Dad and I was hurt and full of anger for years. I moved out of state and started a new highschool just to get away from her, but had she filed for divorce and gone through it before she started seeing someone else, I could have learned to deal with that. I would say it is better for the cheater to divorce his or her W/H AND THEN pursue the OW/OM. I don't think there will be much thrill or fun when that happens though...
Pyro Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 I would say it is better for the cheater to divorce his or her W/H AND THEN pursue the OW/OM. I don't think there will be much thrill or fun when that happens though... It wasn't fun for me. I had so much anger towards my Mom. For the sake of the kids, hide the affair until the divorce happens.
ElvenPriestess Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 I'm still trying to comprehend the selfish nature of the OW/OM, it boggles me.
Pyro Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 I'm still trying to comprehend the selfish nature of the OW/OM, it boggles me. Go through and read the threads in the OM/OW section, although to no surprise, half of them have probably been deleted.
ElvenPriestess Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 I've heard the excuses, that's all they are. I'll never accept the concept though. My mom cheated on her first two husbands, the second involved me in a crappy way. Deleted why too hostile?
Pyro Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Deleted why too hostile? You said it. Don't you see how many of those threads turn ugly around here?
ElvenPriestess Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 You said it. Don't you see how many of those threads turn ugly around here? Oh yes, even this one started heading that way. Like I say, such an extreme contraversial topic tends to do that. But if you ask me, they all know they're in the wrong, they just shroud themselves with lies to pretend otherwise.
Pyro Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Oh yes, even this one started heading that way. Like I say, such an extreme contraversial topic tends to do that. But if you ask me, they all know they're in the wrong, they just shroud themselves with lies to pretend otherwise. Its easier to type this: look at post 31. That is my response to this.
Author Leia Posted January 24, 2008 Author Posted January 24, 2008 I meant once the D is through and the cheater pursues the OW/OM, the R wouldn't be as thrilling in the first place. Most As are a thrill... fun for them coz of what it is... a secret from everyone else.
Pyro Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 I meant once the D is through and the cheater pursues the OW/OM, the R wouldn't be as thrilling in the first place. Most As are a thrill... fun for them coz of what it is... a secret from everyone else. Well if a legit R is no fun, then they shouldn't be together. Being together just for the thrill is ridiculous.
ElvenPriestess Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 I meant once the D is through and the cheater pursues the OW/OM, the R wouldn't be as thrilling in the first place. Most As are a thrill... fun for them coz of what it is... a secret from everyone else. I think this kind of relates to my fetish of the married person theory. Thrill, fetish, whatever word you want, it's the fact that they ARE married, and I have to agree if they weren't they probably, 9/10 times would never have been together.
Author Leia Posted January 24, 2008 Author Posted January 24, 2008 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=142157&page=2 Post #29 I am young but that doesn't mean I don't know what's right or wrong! I am very observant and I have lots of relatives who have gone through and are going through lots of things... even when I was in my primary so I grew up fast... so don't think just coz I look like I'm having tons of fun, I don't know what life is about. I don't think being condescending helps!
ElvenPriestess Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 Well I agree life isn't always easy, but what a cop out. Rather be with someone who's not single they love than a so-so single guy? wtf kind of NONSENSE is that? If he's married, he's off the market! No consideration there, no comparing to other guys because he's not up for grabs.
Author Leia Posted January 24, 2008 Author Posted January 24, 2008 Well I agree life isn't always easy, but what a cop out. Rather be with someone who's not single they love than a so-so single guy? wtf kind of NONSENSE is that? If he's married, he's off the market! No consideration there, no comparing to other guys because he's not up for grabs. As I stated there, life is easy for me. I don't expect it to be easy for everyone else but life is what you make of it. I find it easy coz I don't associate myself with MM, not romantically anyway. Exactly, nonsense is what it is! How can you say you're not settling when you're with a MM? How is that?
ElvenPriestess Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 As I stated there, life is easy for me. I don't expect it to be easy for everyone else but life is what you make of it. I find it easy coz I don't associate myself with MM, not romantically anyway. Exactly, nonsense is what it is! How can you say you're not settling when you're with a MM? How is that? Hey I'm always happy for the people who have life a bit easier, suffering is no good. It is a COMPLETE contradiction. MM: The best one can get? No. I don't buy that.
OWoman Posted January 24, 2008 Posted January 24, 2008 I don't think being condescending helps! Pity you don't practise what you preach then....
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