onemorespin Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 so, my ex had been calling me, telling me he would never get over me, that he loved me and was going to do what it took to get me back so he could marry me. we broke up because he was scared to commit. so we have been hanging out, sleeping together, and getting along. i thought we were working towards a reconciliation. then sat morning at 6am a girl calls 3 times in a row. i ask him about it, he says she is just a friend, he won't talk to her anymore if it bothers me and that he is planning on being exclusive with me. i let it go but have a bad feeling about it. we spend part of the day together and i drop him off at his car. late that night i texted the # and asked if she was dating him. she called me. come to find out, he went to her house that day when he left me and has been sleeping with her, telling her he wants to marry her and that he loves her. wow. why would he do that? if he loves her why pursue me? i kept telling him i wanted to move on if he couldn't commit and he kept keeping me hanging on--all instigated by him. he has been seeing her for the 2 months we have been broken up and lying to both of us. now he is furious with me telling me i am a psycho you know what and telling me he doesn't give a f about me. how can he do this? what was he thinking? i made it easy for him to move on and he wouldn't go. please talk me through this. obviously i am done with him, but i need to make some sense of it.
Author onemorespin Posted January 21, 2008 Author Posted January 21, 2008 and how can someone so scared to commit be with a new girl for such a short period of time and say he wants to marry her? he started telling me that after a month of dating and i believed it for 2 1/2 yrs. he told me saturday that he is in love with me and wants to marry me...he said he is just so scared of getting married. he got married at 20 b/c his girlfriend of 5 mo was pregnant and they had a very ugly divorce.
serendip Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 Sounds like your ex is just a sleazy dude...who just wanted to have sex with you and the other girl There's really no thought process in trying to figure why he would do such things...he has very low morals and is a selfish human being is all
malaclypse Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 He is obviously lying to both of you. Move on.
Author onemorespin Posted January 21, 2008 Author Posted January 21, 2008 yes, the lying part is true! we have discovered that! he has apologized to her and is just being mean to me. even threatened to get a restraining order although i haven't contacted him! he sent me emails said i caused enough damage and hurt her enough and she doesn't deserve it. like i do??? what??? i can't understand why he is so angry with me, his actions caused this, not mine. if he thinks she is so great, why has he been cheating on her with me the whole time we have dated? it makes no sense. i didn't ask him to come over here fri night, he called me. ridiculous that i am taking the blame for this.
serendip Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 it makes no sense. what's there to make sense of...the guy is a goof...he's mad at you b/c you caught him and now he has to plead and beg the other girl to take him back...he'll probably say you are some pyscho girl who is making all of this up he's just not a good person...and you don't want that kind of person in your life. Ignore him if he contacts you again and try to move on as best as you can
malaclypse Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 yes, the lying part is true! we have discovered that! he has apologized to her and is just being mean to me. even threatened to get a restraining order although i haven't contacted him! he sent me emails said i caused enough damage and hurt her enough and she doesn't deserve it. like i do??? what??? i can't understand why he is so angry with me, his actions caused this, not mine. if he thinks she is so great, why has he been cheating on her with me the whole time we have dated? it makes no sense. i didn't ask him to come over here fri night, he called me. ridiculous that i am taking the blame for this. He is just a weak loser and tries to somehow save himself. With lies, accusations, whatever he can find. He is angry because he is unable take responsibility for his own actions, and tries to blame everything on you. The best thing you can do is completely ignore him, don't answer any emails, texts, calls... And when you are hurting too much, try just to remind yourself what a ****ty low-life he is. You don't deserve this, but he is a liar and a sorry excuse for a man, so don't expect him to be fair.
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